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The Impact of Social Distancing and How to “Feel” Productive at Home

April 1, 2020 By Deb B. 17 Comments

How am I supposed to work, teach, support and still feel productive at home?

The Impact of Social Distancing and How to Stay Productive at Home www.sassandsmalls.comBeing a work-at-home mom requires a lot of careful planning. However, being a mom of a very busy and creative nine year old, and a rambunctious and curious one year old, throws all of that planning out the window. So my daily planning has been limited to only 3 items tops, on any one given day (but of course broken down into very specific time frames, cuz you know… OCD). The first two items essentially center around the kiddos, their needs, their learning, and their good health. And the third… well… maybe I can squeeze in a little focus on me.

Now that all four of us are home, it is seemingly possible to check off all the long term to-do items on my list, right?

Did I mention I have a very busy nine year old, and a curious toddler?

So – it’s been quite a challenge to keep myself productive during this social distancing stay-at-home situation. But once I figured that if I tackle an item or two a day, and give myself the grace not to expect much more than that – I realized that it is indeed possible to be productive, while keeping my children safe, and myself sane.

Here are some ideas to inspire you to put down that remote control (it’s been a slice, CNN), or give your worries a break and do something for yourself… for once:

HOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: PLAN IT OUT
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If you haven’t already guessed, I am as ADHD as they come. My ideas are endless and overly ambitious on a slow day. So I cannot live without my planner. Even in the midst of  (and especially during) a global pandemic. How else will I remember to stay home? Drink my water? Wash my hands? NOT touch my face? I literally have to write everything down. If a planner is not your style as everything is neatly categorized in your headspace – I applaud you. Your brain is obviously wired differently than mine… so consider yourself very fortunate! But if you’re anything like me, and you need to actually SEE what 3 things and 333 “sub” things need to be done today – then your planner, a bullet journal, heck, a notepad or sticky note – is your best friend. Just write it down.

The Impact of Social Distancing and How to Stay Productive at Home www.sassandsmalls.comSince we have no certainty how long the safer at place order will go on, why not just plan day to day, or week to week. I often get tied to my goals and plans for the month or year, and then I kick myself when I don’t meet those goals. So go easy on yourself and don’t think too far ahead. Write lists – and remember, after you brain dump all of the things, narrow it down to a feasible three item list for the day. Anything else on your list or in your schedule, should either support the top 3 priorities and broken down into details (ie: Top Priority: Groceries / Sublist: Start online order, clean car trunk to make room for easy drop, refill hand sanitizer bottle), or other minor items that need to be completed (like returning a quick email to your boss, or finally responding after a week-long drought of texting your bestie). Believe me – your headspace deserves a little wiggle room these days. So make use of that old notepad from your realtor’s office, or that gorgeous dayplanner you purchased with the best intentions 3 years ago – and WRITE. IT. DOWN. Your brain will thank you for it.

HOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: GET THAT PROJECT STARTED

From those pillows you promised yourself you’d stitch up, or that scrapbook of the kids that you aimed at getting done when they were born… 9 years ago, to hanging photos on the wall – now is your chance. You just have to make the decision to get started. The momentum will follow suit, and I promise you, this will give you that feeling of accomplishment that you have been striving for, only to be placed on the proverbial backburner for years – most likely because you’ve never been given the time. Time is now your friend.

No hands to do this with all the questions being asked (“Where’s my one lego piece for this set mom!” “The audio on my Zoom class isn’t working!” or the famous, “I’m hungry!”) and a toddler leading you by the pinky to come play with him? No problem, do it in bits and pieces, or better yet, get your kids (or at least the one who can handle not destroying your project) to help! Giving them the opportunity to show off a new skill or create something is so empowering for these tiny people’s minds! So let them help.

HOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: BRING MUSIC INTO YOUR HOME

They say music is praying twice. It’s also the most beautiful of love languages – and we need as much love and prayers as we can get these days. Especially at home. I’ve spent the last few months encouraging my daughter to practice her guitar, and teaching my 1 year old the art of song. But what about mama? I remember when music was my life before the kids came. I spent months in studio and sang for audiences for the first half of my adult life. My kids have yet to witness my love for music – except some old videos on YouTube where I’m rocking piggy tails and arm bands. So upon taking a break from obsessively researching the most effective filters for homemade masks, I made the decision to pick up the guitar and dust off the piano keys. It has since brought music back into the house, entertained the kids, and reminded me how great playing an instrument (or singing a song) is for your soul. And who doesn’t love jumping at the opportunity to embarrass your husband?

The Impact of Social Distancing and How to Stay Productive at Home www.sassandsmalls.comYouTube has a plethora of lessons available for all levels and ages, so picking up a new instrument while in the crux of social isolation is not only easily accessible, it’s an absolute necessity. It gives you a new goal, and a much needed variation to your everyday. Fender is offering 3 months of guitar/bass/ukelele lessons for free. Check it out here! All you need is a phone, tablet, or computer. Basically… if you’re reading this now – then you’re good to go! I’ll be brushing up on my guitar, goodness knows the dust was pretty darn thick.

The Impact of Social Distancing and How to Stay Productive at Home www.sassandsmalls.comAnd as always, the best way to teach your little ones the art of virtually anything, is to model it yourself. I know my Little Mama‘s happy place is sitting in her favorite cozy spot by the fireplace taking online lessons from her guitar teacher while jamming out rock tunes. I mean, who wouldn’t strive to be a guitar rockstar, after seeing your super cool mom rocking out some mean riffs in her housecoat?

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HOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: CLEAN UP THAT JUNK DRAWER 

Nothing says productive more than organizing that miscellaneous drawer, or that overpacked cabinet, or that impossible-to-close craft closet. Throwing things out or starting a tiny section of trash or items to donate (remember, you don’t want to add to your list of to-dos by starting a new pile of to-sell items, especially if storage is not something that is readily available). Don’t be afraid to recycle or donate items (to drop off responsibly LATER on, of course) that no longer add to your life.

HOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: PURGE THE TOY ROOM 

Really, any room will do. But you know the room with the most toys is well… the room that needs the most upkeep. The room that has too much. The room that is constantly going through a state of cleanliness to a state of pure chaos.

Maybe it’s time to streamline, make a donation pile for your friends’ new little babes, and make room for the incoming toys that your little ones will inevitably be receiving for birthdays and Christmases to come. Bonus points, if you create a container system and find creative ways to convince loved ones to stop buying your kiddo more toys. Extra bonus points if every toy has an assigned spot hidden neatly in your play area that your kiddo can put away themselves! Now THAT’S productivity doing its magic.

HOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: PURGE THE WARDROBE

This is the perfect time to break into spring cleaning mode. Time to revamp that warddrobe and free yourself of the 30 belts, 25 ripped socks, and 800 scarves that you haven’t worn or have completely forgotten about. It’s a beautiful feeling to make space, regroup and consolidate, not necessarily making room for more, but to create more air flow between items and categories. And who needs this much stuff anyway? I’m finding I have lived a life of overabundance mostly due to my sentiment with “stuff”. Hint: We should all stop what we’re doing and watch “Tidying Up” with Marie Kondo for some much needed inspo.

HOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: GET THE KIDS TO HELP

I have been wanting to get things done around the house. Talking to other mamas, most of us are feeling very alone and overwhelmed with all we feel we need to get done. I’ve been living firsthand, the unsurmountable pressure to entertain our kids and fill their home schedule with all that is engaging and educational, coupled with our need to fill our home life with all that is productive and IG worthy. This preliminary adrenaline rush to ambitiously strive for perfection is enough to overwhelm anyone… let alone, an already exhausted, deflated mama. So why not marry the two? I’ve decided that, like a boss, I need to get Little Man‘s ball pit balls cleaned up – so in teaching my 1 year old the art of cleanliness, and the wonder of water, I have managed to check this off my long to-do list. Sure, water is everywhere – but how gratifying did it feel to mark that one painful task as done and DONE? 

The Impact of Social Distancing and How to Stay Productive at Home www.sassandsmalls.com The Impact of Social Distancing and How to Stay Productive at Home www.sassandsmalls.comCooking and everyday cleaning with the kiddos is another area for teaching wins. Clean house, teaching moment – everyone benefits.

Got documents to shred? Piles of paper to sort through? A family holiday scrapbook to complete? These are all easy kids-can-help items that you can check off your list as well.

Believe me – if they’re capable enough to navigate Roblox while building houses and adopting pets, all while holding conference calls with their little buddies – they are certainly capable of shredding paper and gluing photos in their own baby book.

HOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: DELEGATE

I am very lucky that my mom lives very close to us, is bored out of her mind, and loves to sew. So without even a millisecond of shame, I gave her an entire basket of what-nots to work through (don’t worry – I didn’t touch any of the items, just grabbed the basket from its bottom and dropped it off at her door). Ripped fave shirts, pants that need hemming, pom poms on hats. These things have been sitting on a mountain of to-dos, and within a day, were done lickity split by Grammy. And with love too! My dad is also struggling with having to stay home indefinitely, and loves projects that keep him sane and busy. I told him about some of my long term plans of creating work stations for the kiddos, and he was more than happy to help. It gave him something to do, and most importantly allowed him the joy of “purpose” as far as helping me out with the kids, in his own, safe, social distancing way. And obviously a big win for me!

HOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: WHIP SOMETHING YUMMY UP

I’ve never been much of a cook or baker. But I do love me some good eats. Going to restaurants isn’t much of an option, so the next best thing is gathering up all the ingredients I have available and trying a new dish. I’ve come to realize that I might actually like kitchen adventures, I just never had the time to do it. Well – now… time has been somewhat kind lately, so why not!

Better yet… get your kiddo to make it for you.

The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.comNothing teaches math, language arts, reading directions, understanding social needs and wants, and scientific reactions better than cooking. Wanna be homeschool rockstar of of your neighborhood? Put these screen-addicted lego-obsessed sibling-provokers to work! Teach them it’s okay to wear the homemaker hat every so often. Teach them the skills, try new recipes together, and give mama something to look forward to (hello future dinners that YOU don’t have to cook up!). Trust that they want to help and provide for the family, as much as you want them to. And remember – you never know what kind of aspiring chef will come out of this, simply by letting the kids practice their culinary skills. Staying productive has never been so delicious!

HOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: LET IT OUT – CREATIVELY

So you know, I am almost never at a loss for words. But if my words start to sound repetitive, I find it very satisfying to release some of my anxious feelings and worries through a creative project. Perhaps a painting, or doing something creatively messy. WITH the kids is a bonus. And WITHOUT the kids is just as glorious. Just let it out in a safe and creative way – and you’ll be surprised at what you’ll come up with.

The Impact of Social Distancing and How to Stay Productive at Home www.sassandsmalls.comMy creative “let it out” is actually redesigning my son’s room. I’m sewing pillows with my daughter, and hemming drapes, online shopping local businesses, while responsibly washing and sanitizing as their packages make their way into my home. This creative outlet has allowed me to narrow in on the task at hand, keeping my brain focused, my hands busy, and my project to do list moving!

HOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: SET UP YOUR WORK STATION (if you’re working from home indefinitely)

I know – this isn’t as fun, but trust me mama – facing the inevitable head on, and getting your station set up will help bring some normalcy into the unknown. Try to emulate how your work station in your office is set up, or perhaps a better version. Remember – it’s your space, so get creative. Keep it cozy, but not too cozy that napping is a temptation, keep it appealing so you look forward to spending time in it for the next little while, and most important, be realistic with what your current situation requires. Some of us have to continue watching our kids – so you have no choice but to set up in your kitchen, conveniently located close to where your kids can play quietly, and far enough from the tv so you’re not tempted to join in on the fun. I know it seems impossible. But if this guy can do it… well – so can you.

The Impact of Social Distancing and How to Stay Productive at Home www.sassandsmalls.comAnd you better believe… he has an onslaught of distractions just looming over him on any given day.

The Impact of Social Distancing and How to Stay Productive at Home www.sassandsmalls.comHOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: PLAN YOUR WORKWEEK

You have a lot of details to factor in – like when you’re going to actually get the most work done. First thing in the morning? After the kids go to bed? While you send them to the backyard for some safe social distance play far, far away from the neighbors? During the key hours when their favorite programs are on television? You will need this time to really think things through, so set it up now. Don’t worry if it doesn’t go as planned – you’ll be making tweaks and adjustments to your set up and scheduling ongoing. Again, give yourself the grace to be flexible and go gentle on yourself. No, this is not going to be easy. But it’s doable. Trust me – I work from home, while sharing a computer with my now work-at-home-husband, as WELL as my homeschooled daughter (who I hover over…), and somehow, by some miracle – I find a way to get it done.

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HOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: PLAN YOUR HOMESCHOOL SCHEDULE (or tweak it ongoing)

I think this has been the source of strain for most mamas I’ve spoken to. The idea of becoming overnight educators have either inspired the eager homeschoolers to rise to the challenge and finally teach their kids the way they’ve always wanted to. OR the other end of the spectrum, have caused parents to run and hide away from the world, and their children. Either way – there will be a change, and one never knows how the student or the parent (or their siblings) will respond to this new world of home study. So sit down with your partner and your kids and talk about what you believe would be the most effective for your family. Is keeping true to the structure and schedule of the past few months at school the most effective plan for your child’s optimal learning? Are  you, as their parent and educator able to make this happen? If so, outline a similar schedule and see how it works for you on paper. Or if you feel that your child cannot handle hours upon hours of straight reading, learning, calculating, and the like – do yourself and your child a favor, and trust your gut and break it down to short spurts of learning.

For me – I know that my child is not much of a self starter and needs a good nudge to get her going. Once the momentum is established, I have to watch out for too many breaks and too many transitions. So I’m going to cover less subjects per day, but spend more time per subject. As a variation, I will be setting up a “plan b” schedule that covers more subjects in one given day, with less focus on any one concept. Again, we will never know what will work best with our children until we give all the options a try.

Check out my post on “Homeschooling a Reluctant Learner” for some ideas on how to navigate the seemingly impossible. Meanwhile, #wereallinthistogether

The Impact of Social Distancing and How to Stay Productive at Home www.sassandsmalls.comHOW TO FEEL PRODUCTIVE :: CATCH UP

…in whatever you’ve been postponing for the last year – whether it’s your kiddo’s scrapbook from the day you conceived them, or your bills from 10 months ago, or writing letters to your penpals from the good ol’ days when penpals were a thing – take this time to dust off your long term to do list, and scratch off a couple items. I can’t guarantee life around you will change, but the stuff weighing on you will slowly lighten up, and you will feel some of that burden inadvertently lift off your shoulders.

…with friends/family – Forgotten texts and messages? Start responding? And don’t even apologize. It’s better late than never right?

…with your family at home – I can’t tell you the last time I’ve been able to sit down and play a board game with my kiddo. I’ve had ample floor time with my toddler, but life has been so busy with school, running errands, and activities, that I haven’t actually been able to do a “non-learning” game and just have fun with my daughter. So instead of having underlying sneaky plans for her to learn multiplication, or teach her how to spell (all good things, but we’re on spring break, so why not take a brain break all together) – we’re just going to play. Without even knowing it, I’m teaching her the greatest lesson of all: to value time together, find joy, and do so without a care in the world. Check out my post on strengthening your family bond during social isolation.

…with all the above. Really this is the one in a million chance to have a teensy weensy bit of time on your side. Sure, the kids are home, and you may still have to work to do, but being forced to remove some of the external responsibilities, there is a little more time and space you can set aside for something that serves YOU. I know “being productive” seems counterintuitive to the idea of giving yourself that self care. But the idea of accomplishing something as seemingly minor as cleaning up your junk drawer, or learning a couple chords on the guitar, is just going to lighten that mental load you’ve been shouldering for months, maybe even years. So find little opportunities in the day to lighten that load if you feel the need or desire to, Mama! Goodness knows, life has been much too heavy lately.

How are you filling up some of the moments in your day with something productive that serves to benefit you in the end?

Mama…you got this…

Deb B. www.sassandsmalls.com

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**A special and humble “thank you” for all the essential workers that are on the front lines of this global pandemic. You are showing up, so we can stay home and be safe. Stay well, stay safe, and God speed…

Filed Under: Perfection in the Imperfection, quarantine chronicles, Sass & Smalls gets real, the everyday Tagged With: corona virus, covid 19, family life, homeschooling, mom life, pandemic, parenting, productivity, project, schedule, self isolation, Social distancing, stay home, work from home

About Deb B.

Deb Balino is the voice behind Sass & Smalls, host of the newly launched Podcast - Sass & Small Talk, and a mom of two - an artistic and quirky 11-year-old, and an outspoken, homewrecking, retro music loving, 4-year-old. A décor and style enthusiast, as well as a home systems hack creator, with a mildly concerning obsession of all things "bin-worthy", Deb enjoys sharing products, experiences, progressive ideas, and simple shifts in mindset that has helped her family navigate the beautiful chaos of parenting. Deb is also a homeschool teacher, partially by choice, partially pandemic-inspired, while advocating and caring for her parents as an active member of the Sandwich Generation. With vulnerability, and a dash of humour - she shares the reality of her world, all while keeping things as sassy as they once were before the drool, meltdowns, and potty mishaps entered the picture.

Her creative ideas, lengthy storytelling, and everyday musings have been featured on Huffington Post, Yahoo Style, BBC News, and YMC.CA

Comments

  1. Amber Myers says

    April 9, 2020 at 4:30 pm

    I love these ideas. Music has been a must in this house. We’ve also been baking!
    Reply
  2. Amber says

    April 10, 2020 at 6:31 am

    I have found it difficult to home school and get work done. Doesnt help my husband is also working from home and locks himself away in my office all day. Balance is so hard at the moment!
    Reply
  3. Harmony, Momma To Go says

    April 10, 2020 at 10:41 am

    I need an onslaught of new ideas. Kids are starting to get bored with the same old. We busted out some old puzzles yesterday. Need crafts etc!
    Reply
    • Surabhi says

      May 6, 2020 at 2:50 am

      Great tips especially at this juncture
      Reply
  4. Raina says

    April 10, 2020 at 1:42 pm

    What a crazy time we are living in! Great tips, love the music ❤️
    Reply
  5. Dana says

    April 10, 2020 at 7:51 pm

    Excellent ideas for the crazy times we are going through.
    Reply
  6. April Kusewicz says

    May 4, 2020 at 8:57 pm

    This are great ideas and I love the perspective. It inspired me to do the same. We got this.
    Reply
  7. Milaya says

    May 4, 2020 at 11:00 pm

    I feel like all of my days in quarantine so far I have been so full!
    Reply
  8. Shayla Marie says

    May 5, 2020 at 6:50 am

    I didn’t realize we have so much in common. I’m ADHD too, and I too have to write everything down. If I try to hold it in my brain I get terrible anxiety.
    Reply
  9. Shayla Marie says

    May 5, 2020 at 6:50 am

    BTW, I seriously could not agree with and love this post more!
    Reply
  10. Fatima Torres says

    May 5, 2020 at 10:01 am

    Planning your day is a great way to feel more productive. When you set some goals for the week, it helps you feel more accomplished.
    Reply
  11. Sarah says

    May 5, 2020 at 1:41 pm

    Cleaning and organizing definitely helps me feel productive.
    Reply
  12. Marysa says

    May 5, 2020 at 7:15 pm

    It is good to have some strategies for staying busy at home. Sounds like you are finding a good balance.
    Reply
  13. Ashley says

    May 6, 2020 at 5:01 am

    What a wild time we are living in! I need to plan better, maybe it will help getting more done.
    Reply
  14. Miranda says

    May 7, 2020 at 8:05 am

    This breaks it down to make it a little less overwhelming to WFH. Great ideas!
    Reply
  15. Erin says

    May 7, 2020 at 5:18 pm

    Love this post and I am a total planner. I feel so much less stressed when it’s in my planner
    Reply
  16. Diane Price says

    October 14, 2020 at 5:50 am

    I hear you on the struggle of being productive at home, both for school and work. Our family has been baking and it’s helped us cope with all this.
    Reply

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Oh and PS - wanna know how to get your action figure #animated? Follow me, write “SASS”, and let me know what your action figure would be in the comments below and I’ll hook you up. 

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When life gives you burnout… do squats. 🍑 In When life gives you burnout… do squats. 🍑

In Episode 2 of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast “Reclaiming Joy of #Parenthood Beyond Burnout”, I take on the ultimate #challenge:
Fitting fitness into my already chaotic #caregiving, #homeschooling, always behind the wheel, #neurodivergent navigating, mom-life schedule. 🧠🎢💪

Add to the mix, a busy 🧠 that thrives on chaos and fun? Why not #gamify? Moms- let’s do the #TriggerWordChallenge!! Every time your kids say (aka “demand”, I mean c’mon now…) “MOM!”, do a squat! In the kitchen, while cleaning, cooking, folding laundry. Just don’t do it driving! #safetyfirst

For this episode, Every time *I* said the word “lash” — yep, I squat. 😅

Joining me is none other than Victoria’s go-to #LashLady, who most would call a client-proclaimed “lash-a-pist” and certified #fitness coach, Emily Bowman @nevaehjade.beautywellness, who’s here to talk #burnout, #beauty, and #body movement. And I’m here to try and master the world’s most chaotic squat routine. 🙃

Side note: Psssst… your girl hasn’t done a squat since before the Pandy of 2020 so this may be nbd to the average person, but it’s quite literally a miracle ⛪️ for 🙋🏻‍♀️. #whateverworks #amIright?

Catch more laughter, squats, Yoga-envy 🧘🏻‍♀️, words of wisdom, and a tear or two…  on the full episode 🎙️NOW STREAMING on a 📺 near you. @Telus OptikTV (search “Storyhive Sass” on Demand), Ch. 9, Stream+ app, @storyhive YouTube

Comment “Squat” if you want the full episode link on @storyhive‘s YouTube. But it’s even more fun on TV, so try that first! We sure are…

#SassAndSmallTalk #SquatGoals #BurnoutAndBootyGains #bunsofsteel #LashLadyTakesOver #NeurodivergentMomLife #CaregiverFitness #SquatWhileYouCan #HomeschoolChaos #MomLifeUnfiltered #VictoriaBC #StoryHive #ReclaimYourJoy #JLoGotNothingOnMe
The PREMIERE episode is now LIVE on a 📺 near yo The PREMIERE episode is now LIVE on a 📺 near you!

SASS & SMALL TALK “Reclaiming the Joy of Parenthood, Beyond Burnout” is NOW STREAMING on @TELUS OptikTV, Ch. 9, Stream+, and @storyhive. 

“Join Deb and local lifestyle creator and entrepreneur, Natasha Mills of @mommamillsblog. Natasha reveals her bold shift from a successful corporate career to building a personal brand from home, striving for family balance while advocating for her community in Victoria, BC. Will this new path bring the joy she seeks, or will it come with its own set of challenges and #burnout? Tune in for an inspiring discussion on making a #careerpivot, finding purpose, and evolving as a recovering high achiever.”

Recorded & Produced @haus.of.owl @nikkye_music @jakerfilms @eric.thebald @remy.is.remy @hoelune 

@sassandsmalltalkpodcast is made possible with the support from TELUS STORYHIVE, and is available for free on
TELUS Optik TV, CH.9, and Stream+

#watchlocal #SassAndSmallTalk #ParenthoodUnfiltered #MomBurnout  #ParentingPodcast #StoryHive #VictoriaBC #MentalWellnessMatters #twinmom #momprenuer #burnoutrecovery #twinfamily
Calling in the troops. 🫠🔥 Because burnout is Calling in the troops. 🫠🔥
Because burnout is real—and so is the comeback.

Meet the incredible guests of the debut Season on TELUS StoryHive of “Sass & Small Talk: Reclaiming the Joy of Parenthood Beyond Burnout” 🎙️

After years of #caregiving, #homeschooling, and navigating life in a #neurodivergent family… I hit a wall. 

Hello, #Burnout. 👋 

But thanks to @telus and the @storyhive Video Podcast Program, I sat down with fellow parents, experts, and some of the most resilient humans right here in Victoria, BC to have the conversations we ALL need.

Together, we talk burnout, grief, the mental load of parenting, partnership, career pivots, and what it really takes to reclaim joy and purpose in the thick of #parenting and caregiving. 

Made in the community. For the community. 

📍Filmed at: @hausofowl
🎤 Featuring:
@mommamillsblog @nevaehjade.beautywellness @glowjar_ 
@truedad.community 
@minimaggie 
@sacred_advantage 
@sarjo08 
@scarletjaxen

Episodes 1 & 2 NOW streaming on TELUS OptikTV Ch. 9, Stream+, Storyhive YouTube. One episode drop every Tuesday until May 20th. 

This is for the #caregivers. The #sandwichgen. #Parents rebuilding from burnout with community, courage, and a whole lotta sass. 💬

#CallingInTheTroops
#SassAndSmallTalk #ParenthoodUnfiltered #CaregiverBurnout #NeurodivergentFamily #MomBurnout #ReclaimYourJoy #ParentingPodcast #StoryHive #VictoriaBC #MentalWellnessMatters 
#watchLocalTV
AUTISTIC BURNOUT :: Did you know there was such a AUTISTIC BURNOUT :: Did you know there was such a thing?

Me Neither! 

But it sure helped me understand my #neurdodivergent not-so-baby teen daughter who has been in #burnout mode for years. Gaining understanding of this aspect of burnout helps us find ways to cope when it creeps up on us as parents - and especially for our children. 

Here’s a #behindthescenes look of my talk on @sassandsmalltalkpodcast filmed at the amazing creative studios of @haus.of.owl with @kkayjudas at @sacred_advantage. She is our wonderful guest and a dear friend (and incredible advocate for my daughter specifically), who shares insight and personal experience on #autisticburnout in this raw and honest interview about how she navigated (continues to navigate) life on the spectrum especially during burnout. I may or may not have shed a tear… or 10… 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tune in on @telus OptikTV Channel 9, stream+ on MAY 6th, and @storyhive YouTube on May 27th  to watch this compelling episode. 

And giving extra love to my beautiful and talented daughter who fine tuned the edit of this video! How blessed am I to be the mama of this creative young lady. Now gimme my phone back!!! 🤨

Have you or a loved one experienced Autistic Burnout?
Behind every #sandwichgeneration #entrepreneural # Behind every #sandwichgeneration #entrepreneural #homeschool #mom with #ADHD and #spicy kids, is: 
• a floor filled with painful-to-step-on toys and crafts
• Sniffly kiddos every few weeks 
• nothing crossed off her to-do list
• hundreds of unanswered texts/emails
• and a #mentalload sometimes too overwhelming to carry 

But unlike all the other gloomy seasons I’ve experienced this tough season, I have never felt such peace. 

WHY: 

• I have been walking through my #faithjourney with George and it’s been giving me a different outlook on everything life has thrown our way. My sistas in faith have kept us afloat this tough season @esther.driver @caarly.xo @lishgarv @nicoleacaldwell 

• I have been intentional on fixing my #guthealth, #cortisollevels, and #cognitivefunction with my daily #HJ #happy blend drink, and it has done wonders to my #mentalwellness  and overall health. <DM me for more info on this game changer drink>.

• I’ve been learning to just live in the moment and not be so caught up with doing EVERYTHING all at once. 

• I’m surrounding myself (albeit virtually and in spirit) with some of my chosen fam who probably get the most neglect of all, but still give me grace while I clumsily navigate this crazy season @nengineermom @rahannavu  @iamharpsra 
@m_stiggity 
@jenny_p1987  @westislanddesigns @kkayjudas @teacuphuman09 @i_am_miss_jen @swanny80 @trishita_namagita 

• Even though my business relies heavily on my #online presence, I’m giving myself grace for fully immersing myself in the needs of my family this last month I’ve been MIA. I know I can pick up where I left off, and lean on my mentors & biz sistas to pull me out of the seasonal funk @caitoaks @mommamillsblog, @happybalancemama @sweetmamalifedaily, and get back on track. 

Busy, overwhelmed mama… I see you. This is just a season. Do what you need to do, especially for you and your loved ones. Everything will still be there ready for you to “tackle” when you’re ready. 

And what losing two loved ones these last couple weeks has taught me - we’re only here temporarily. Spend your time earthside doing what you love, and loving who you love. @gjavier5 ❤️
No amount of “juice” can lessen the exposure t No amount of “juice” can lessen the exposure to elementary school winter bugs, but it sure came in handy when we need it IN & OUT of our household. 

Especially since I have elderly under my care. 

It skipped George and I entirely - but it definitely hit our two little ones, as bugs do. 

After a nice, tall glass of kid’s #HJ (mixed with some mango edge+ for my bigger and pickier smallie) - along with a nice snuggly nap - the symptoms were way less vicious than previous colds, and gone by the time I blended them their dose the next morning. 

It’s not some miracle drink with empty promises - it’s just ALL the good stuff in a glass. 

DM me if you want a sip for yourself or your sniffly kiddos. I’m telling you, our overall health and wellness as a family, has improved, since focusing on our #guthealth.

There is no price too high to pay for overall #wellness.

#happyblend #amare #fluseason
Impromptu check-in with my girl, Nicole from @happ Impromptu check-in with my girl, Nicole from @happybalancemama talking about all things #Amare. The reality behind #burnout,  #mentalwellness, finding our way through the everyday challenges and #mentalload of #motherhood, and how both of our lives have SHIFTED dramatically since starting our journey with fixing our #guthealth. 

#happyblend #juice #GBX #gutbrainconnection #gutbrainaxis #gutbrainhealth #gutbrain #motherhood #overwhelm
C O R T I S O L :: If you’re anything like me, y C O R T I S O L :: If you’re anything like me, you’ve tried to amp up in overall wellness - doing ALL the things…  and nothing worked 🪀🪀🪀🪀🪀 

ME THEN:(4.5 mnths + 4 decades ago)

• Cortisol levels out of control 
• Made self-sabotaging choices 
 • giving into sugar cravings
 • staying up all night doom 
  scrolling & researching 
  how to “fix” my life/kids/home 
  leading to #burnout
• Poor time management
• Emotionally charged and reactive due to poor quality sleep 

• What REALLY needed the most help - was my GUT. <ENTER #HJ #Amare #cortisolcontrol>

ME NOW: 

• Boost in: mood, motivation, metabolism, energy
• reduced bloating and inflammation
• Cravings gone, due to regulated blood sugar
• #cortisol #puffyface gone
• Better quality and DEEPER sleep
• Balanced hormones
• Improved cognitive function and no brain fog

** ADDED BONUS: A more organized home 
** DOUBLE ADDED BONUS: I’m the best mom I have ever been for my kiddos: ⬇️ reactive, ⬆️stress resilience

✨✨What I’m doing 👇🏼✨✨

• I mixed these two (or three) very simple supplements (EASY for my busy brain)
• First Supplement: Mood/Motivation/Metabolism - decreased bloating 
• Second supplement: Balanced hormones & mental wellness, improved skin, deeper sleep

2025 - I’m here for ya. BRING. IT. ON.

Comment CORTISOL OR just DM me, and I’ll send you more info and a link! 🥳
LIVE:: Sass & Small Chats with my girl Nicole @hap LIVE:: Sass & Small Chats with my girl Nicole @happybalancemama, before Mama Duty calls!  Chatting all things “Happy Blend”. We’ll do another spontaneous Live 2.0 when it’s not so nice outside!! For now - here’s a little bit of my personal experience with the Happy Blend  and how it’s made major shifts in mine and my family’s lives.  #30DayMentalwellnesschallenge
G R I N C H :: Just over here dreaming of a #green G R I N C H :: Just over here dreaming of a #greenChristmas when the kids and I had more time, energy, and gumption to do community deliveries to our local heroes. 

Since the #Pandemic, this little tradition of ours have stopped but our gratitude remains. @saanichpolice @saanichfiredepartment, Victoria Fertility Clinic, Sherwood Dental, and some of our buds who held our hands through our #grief and #fertility journey. 

Sigh. Was fun while it lasted. 

Thank you @dee_monster_girl @adammessana  @fiendwithoutaface87 for the inspo.

#throwback #grinch #Christmas
#NationalFamilyCaregiversMonth #november P I N K #NationalFamilyCaregiversMonth #november 

P I N K :: I recently learned that flamingos lose their pink when caring for others (notably, mom flamingos) —and I felt that deeply this past year. When my sweet elderly Mama had an unfortunate fall, resulting in emergency surgery, an extended hospital stay, and complete dependence on full time care, I was torn between moving in and being there for her full-time, caring for my sick kids and husband, homeschooling, and managing my business. 

I lost my pink.

Everything else—work, plans, even my son’s birthday—had to wait. Our home was a mess, appointments were missed, mistakes were made, friendships were tested, and the mental load was heavy. But nothing compared to watching my once strong Mama feel powerless as she leaned into the support she needed but once resisted.

My Mom lost her pink. 

It was a season of sacrifice, but now returning the equipment, that helped with her recovery, is a moment I’ll never forget.  I can now see from a clear lens, that working together as a family (my own family, my brother’s, my parents), we made it through, with the power of faith, a supportive community and amazing and understanding friends, love, and especially prayer.

It feels so good to stand back and see the full picture. And best of all… 

Both my Mama and I got our pink back.

@redcrosscanada 

#Caregiving #FamilyFirst #Gratitude #FlamingoFeels #FaithAndFamily
M A G G I E :: 🎉 Some #BTS #onthepod @sassandsm M A G G I E :: 🎉 Some #BTS #onthepod @sassandsmalltalkpodcast with my long lost twin and the hilariously brilliant MAGGIE of @thecatmompodcast ! We’re diving deep into life with a #SpicyBrain 🧠, talking all things #ADHD, and how she’s been navigating motherhood, chaos, and #burnout like the absolute rockstar she is. 💥

🎂 Oh, and did I mention it’s her #BIRTHDAY today?! 🎈 Be sure to give @minimaggie ALL the love in the comments! 🥳👇🏻

This episode, filmed at @haus.of.owl, is packed with so much relatable insight (and laughter... SO. MUCH. LAUGHTER 😂). Catch it #comingsoon #2025 on @TELUS OptikTV @storyhive! You won’t want to miss this one. 💬🎙️

Life just got a little more interesting @gjavier5 @ianshockeycards. Our apologies in advance… #doubletrouble 👭🏻
MY. FAM. IS. THRIVING. That is all. DM (and Fo MY. FAM. IS. THRIVING. 

That is all. 

DM (and Follow me) for deets on this amazing EASY 30sec Wellness supplement (and other #Amare Go-tos) that has elevated this family from shaking things up in the gut (bye 💩 probs), to clearing things up in the 🧠 (Wait - they actually WANT to learn? 🤯) … NOTHING ELSE has worked THIS GOOD for this family of Neuro-Ds. 

It’s not just some magic fix. 
It’s au naturale. Backed by science.
It’s #guthealth.
It’s #cognitivefunction.
Down to the cellular level.

✨ Sidenote: “Thriving” doesn’t mean, perfect, always happy, or that everyone is ALWAYS on the same page. 

That would just be weird. 

It means: 
• our target areas of concern (individually) are being addressed. 
• less chaos, more peace. 
• less reactive, less defensive
• more motivation, less resistance

We’re all collectively on our way to overall physical and mental wellness. 

And the best part is - all the kids care about is that it tastes darrrrrrrrn good. 

So what are you waiting for?
C O N N E C T I O N :: Now that George and I are b C O N N E C T I O N :: Now that George and I are both focusing on our COLLECTIVE #cortisolbalance - both our relationship and our kids benefit from these changes: 

• no longer reactive (to each other/kids)
• more playful with the kids, no longer irritable 
• have the #mentalclarity to pause and let each other have a say
• more well-rested - due to resisting #sleeprevenge (guys, I actually WANT to sleep now!! WHAT!??) 
• less overwhelm by everyday stressors
• tackle to-dos faster, together - procrastination completely not our thing anymore

** And the best and most shocking of them all… I am no longer impulsive with needless, emotional-spending, and that alone is a 🎁 for George! 

So many men and women in our age group are struggling like we were, only a few months ago.

This healthy cortisol mocktail is a daily favorite, takes 30 seconds to make, and is filled with adaptogens and healthy ingredients!

Comment CORTISOL and I’ll send you what we’ve been using to get to the bottom of our cortisol issues. WITH a $10 discount + 10% savings. 

✨ follow me for more simple tips for cortisol, weight, sleep, and stress for mamas and our partners too!

✨ Make sure you are following me to get the DM!

P. S. my husband prioritizes my daily intake as much as his own because we both know - “Happy wifey, easier Lifey” 😂☺️
P A R T N E R S H I P :: Our live discussion with P A R T N E R S H I P :: Our live discussion with Graham Meckling, Author, Coach, Educator, Community builder - as he launches his amazing and groundbreaking Online community at @truedad.community.

With focus on building the foundation as a team/partnership/family even PRIOR to becoming one, and how it’s a complete Gamechanger when faced with the reality of parenting in the coming years. 

Be sure to share this with any new parents-to-be who might need this resource - a sibling, a friend, a coworker, a distant cousin who you only seem to know on IG - we all know someone who might feel a little lost as they navigate this new chapter in their lives. This is not your everyday community - so grab a spot and find the community you never really know you needed! 

Seasoned parents - Graham’s book “Babies Don’t talk” has wonderful insights that are just as applicable to any stage of parenting as it is for the new parent - so GRAB YOUR COPY! I did and George and I ate it right up!
Found her. • • And right behind this once #b Found her. 
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And right behind this once #burntout #Mama, finding her way back into her element again, sass-inclusive, are these #behindthescenes (behind the camera/desk/computer/headphones) MIRACLE WORKERS at @hausofowl. I have so much love for you guys. Thank you. 

@nikkye_music 
@hoelune 
@remy.is.remy 
@jakerfilms 

Not seen here but will pop up here and there as I catch them in action 🤞🏼 hint hint): @laaain_music @eric.thebald 

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And none of this would’ve even been a thang if it weren’t for the Video Podcast Grant Program with @telus @storyhive. Life changing is an understatement. Thank you @made.by.donny & @thereallindakee for encouraging your girl to take the plunge with @sassandsmalltalkpodcast 

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And the energy and gumption to keep me resilient, and in tip top shape to host my own show, and lead my own project - kudos to my girl @mommamillsblog who introduced me to the very #cortisoldrink I needed to amp up. And @caitoaks who also reminds me I got this. My gut and brain thank you both. #bestteamever

And my love, @gjavier5 - I’m doing this not just for me but for us and our little peeps. Thank you for leading the cheering squad and “assisting”
me when I need it most. Hope to make you guys proud. ❤️ 

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Moral of the story, in getting that dang SASS back: 
✨ Take Risks
✨ Get your gut health in check 🥤
✨ Find your peeps 
✨ Tell them how awesome they are

DM me, watch my stories, click on my bio links if you want in on any of this good stuff! 🥤 + 🎙️ + 💰📺

✨Be sure to give a little ❤️ to my 13 year old Smallie who helped me level up with this reel with her magic touch. #ASD #autism #thisishomeschool #homeschooler #mygirl #techgirl #daughter
I’m 1/2 a century, baby. #HappyBirthday to me, i I’m 1/2 a century, baby. #HappyBirthday to me, indeed.
#thisisme

And life just got a little sweeter. 

It’s not some secret recipe, or some overcomplicated skin regimen. 

It’s #faith
Motivation
The want
The humility to accept help
The unconditional love from family
Learning to say no to the wrong, and yes to the right. 

I took a chance on ME a few months ago, and since then, have seen a shift in myself.

I dreaded this #milestonebirthday for the last 10 years. I dreaded ESPECIALLY, being transparent to ANYONE… even my own kids. 

But it dawned on me. 

(With the help of my fellow #hypewoman gals that gave me the gentle nudge to OWN my age, not hide it) @sweetmamalifedaily  @nengineermom @mommamillsblog  @caitoaks  @lilkeez @iamharpsra  @rahannavu @mstiggity

Why hide it? 
What am I scared of? 

I DID IT!

I hit 1/2 a century, I survived 9 brutal pregnancy losses, and held one of them in my arms. I looked death in the eye, and through prayer and community - I came out of it alive and kicking. AND thriving.

It wasn’t my time. I still have work to do here. 

But even with these life altering moments in my life, I STILL:
• made bad health choices
• stretched myself to max capacity
• said YES to things that stifled my growth.
• said NO to hard things that meant growth
• lived in debilitating fear, daily
• allowed my #adhd to paralyze, not enhance my life
• had horrible boundaries… correction… I had no boundaries 

It took 50 years, (3 months ago, to be exact), but I found exactly what I needed: 
• A deeper connection with God
• Gratitude
• A go-to, easy #cortisol #drink that balances out those darn hormones, and targets my #Mentalwellness #HJ 
• Forgiveness and freedom from past hurts 
• An awesome studio to do my craft @haus.of.owl
• A killer program that funds said craft @Telus @storyhive 
• A loving approach #wifey, #specialneeds Mama & #caregiver Daughter
• Self Compassion
• And the GUMPTION to follow (FIX) my Gut. 

Thank you to those who remembered when I chose to forget, that turning 50 is a blessing, not a curse. 

DM me or comment 50 if you want in on this big secret.
✨ I N S I D E * O U T ✨ :: If you wanna see ho ✨ I N S I D E * O U T ✨ :: If you wanna see how HAPPY J blend has made a difference for me, and coincidentally - the family - take a look at our Behind the scenes of this year’s Inside Out FAM-O-WEEN —an honest, messy, and very real snapshot of our year. 2024 was a DOOZY. 

From frustration, to resistance, to acceptance, to finding Joy again (with a DAILY DOSE of HAPPY J and a whoooooole lotta Jesus) - each character felt like a reflection of this year’s whirlwind of emotions. It’s been a time of big decisions, finding our footing, embracing transitions, more sleepless nights,  a diagnosis we’ve been waiting a decade for, falls, accidents, sickness - the whole shebang of emotions. 

And then #anxiety reared its ugly head.  In full force. 

But, alongside family and close friends, Faith, and some yummy sips of a healthy supplement, carried us through. 

In a year that stretched us to our limits, this shoot felt like the perfect way to honour all the “inside out” moments we’ve faced. So here’s to the messy, the joyful, and even the challenging times that shape who we are. From deep #burnout and anxiety to discovering our faith and mental wellness, I’m stepping into the next chapter with a full heart and maybe a few more laughs (even if I’m a year older 😉).

Here’s to growth, gratitude, and whatever’s next. #FamOWeen2024 #InsideOutLife #EmotionalYear #insideout #FindingJoy #Milestonebirthday
#NewChapter #amare #happyblend #hj #happyjuice

Music - AndreaDatzman, 
BENJIxScarlett, TheeOnlyJanessahhh
E M O T I O N S :: #HAPPYHALLOWEEN #FAMOWEEN editi E M O T I O N S :: #HAPPYHALLOWEEN #FAMOWEEN edition! 

2024 has been quite the year of change for us all. Emotions have been all over the map!
• #Caregiving has been amped up with unexpected falls and hospital stays 
• Our little not so little teen is on her last year of Middle school #homeschool version - not so easy but hey, surviving. #Disgust
• Our little guy cut his once curly locks and became a little man overnight - no tears except a very #sad dad who suffered from FOMO #Anger
• George also cut his hair that was once down to his waist. He was ready to let go of the weight of the world literally on his shoulders.
• I got selected for a wonderful @TELUS @Storyhive project to do a broadcast version of my #podcast and got my Juju back #happytears
• and yes… I found the perfect match for me to deal with my very neglected #guthealth, and yes… it’s a Gamechanger that has been behind the true shift in my mental health, productivity, and my road to a better me. Hence, “Happy” #Joy. #happyjuice

All these emotions check out. #insideOut we have thrived and survived. 

Happy Halloween!
S N E A K * P E E K :: I’m so excited to share a S N E A K * P E E K :: I’m so excited to share a little sneak peek of @theoutpostboardgamecafe, our good friend’s soon-to-be-opened #boardgame café, right here in the #Westshore 🎲🎲. The ONLY ONE of its kind in THIS part of town!! 🎉🎉We’ve ALL been waiting for this… 

Mamas… I’m looking at you… 👀

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It’s been amazing watching this space come together - already such a fun vibe and a cozy spot to hang out, play some games, and connect with friends. And I already got my #gameschool curriculum ready to go for my #homeschooler (and her game lovin’ mama-teacher 🙋🏻‍♀️) to enjoy. And of course date nights with my guy and girls night with my ladies!! 

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They’re getting so close to opening, and I can’t wait for everyone to experience it in person!! 

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Be sure to SHARE THIS POST AND SPREAD THE WORD - #Grandopening is Nov 1st!! 🎗️✂️ Stay tuned for more updates—it’s going to be a game-changer! 😉 

#TheOutpostCafe #supportlocal #supportsmallbusiness #supportlocalbusiness #YYJ #vancouverisland #Victoria #langford #boredombuster #family
F E A R L E S S :: Becoming a mom changed me, and F E A R L E S S :: Becoming a mom changed me, and along the way, my confidence started to slip. The bold, carefree version of me was replaced by someone who worried about the little things—like making a simple left turn onto a highway (with nothing but a stop sign and a prayer).

For years, I avoided that turn. I’d ask trusted adults to drive my kid for these once a year field trips, while I anxiously waited for updates. Sometimes, if I couldn’t arrange a ride, I’d keep her home. No amount of spawning salmon is worth my sanity.

It sounds trivial to the average person, but that turn felt like a mountain I couldn’t climb - for 12 years!!! A really winding, single lane, high speed, intolerant and unforgiving mountain to climb.

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Enter my Happy Blend Morning supplement.

After a few weeks of working on my gut health and balancing hormones, including cortisol, I feel lighter—mentally and emotionally. The anxiety that used to grip me just… doesn’t anymore.

Something in me felt COMPELLED to make that turn. It was my actual, nurtured, gut telling me to not take the backroad out (which is 3 times the distance), and it felt like freedom. 

I’ve learned it’s not just about turning left on a highway; it’s about letting go of fear and no longer caring what others think. My people-pleasing feature was activated as I approached the turn - worrying about the driver behind me, but now, I prioritize what’s best for me and my loved ones. And what’s best for my loved ones is that they get the chance to enjoy an educational experience, without my anxious brain standing in the way.

I am mentally clear, more logical, and becoming resilient where stress once controlled me. I’m ME again, free from imbalanced hormones, and the fear of inconveniencing others.

If this resonates with you, drop “FEARLESS” in the comments, and I’ll share what I’ve been using to get here. You’re not alone. #MomLife
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