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Day Designer :: A Stylish Day Planner for The Busy Mom

May 11, 2016 By Deb B. 14 Comments

I am one busy mom. And I know most, if not all, of my stay-at-home mom buds are rolling their eyes right about now, having to once again hear me say… “I’m busy” – but the truth is, Mama’s gotta WERK.

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I don’t have time for anything these days. Playdates are a thing of the past. Catching up on my TGIT shows are virtually impossible. My husband quite often catches a glimpse of me here and there – but it’s usually in the form of a trail of smoke. This mama just can’t keep up.

The one thing that does not get sacrificed in the chaotic, busy mom life is this little thing.

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And she’s thrilled about it.

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Why shouldn’t she be? Mama is there for her 24/7. Okay, minus the 12 hours she’s in bed (and YAY – we have FINALLY gotten her to sleep ON HER OWN THROUGH THE NIGHT. It only took 5 years. More on that later!). But in her waking hours, this sweet monkey of mine gets a lot of mommy time, busy mom or not.

Most of the times it’s her activities. My fellow mamas out there know what I’m talking about. Sports, music, dance, preschool/toddler socials, tea parties, park play, castle building on the beach. If it involves fancy gloves, kinetic sand, interactive books that make way too much noise, mismatched train sets, or a yellow leotard, OR all of the above… I’m pretty much right there in the crux of it.

So much to do, so little time.

And of course, we have to fit in good old fashioned mommy-and-me outfitting in the mix. I mean… priorities, right?

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This post isn’t about complaining. It’s about life. My every day life. My life has inadvertently become melded into this little person‘s life, and I love it. I also have a business. Mama’s gotta work, and working at home is not for the faint of heart. I’m learning this the hard way.

For the last few months, my focus has been on this little girl, building our family, improving our health, and keeping sane. So what has suffered? My work. And that’s not good either. The thing is, being a work-at-home mom is a beautiful thing for the most part, but the reality is, it’s H.A.R.D. The balance act seems almost heart breaking at times because just as I’m getting into the groove with work, I have a little one reaching up for my hand asking her to play with her. Who am I to say, “no… later”. My heart is literally incapable of doing that. Plus, would I rather have my phone to my ear and my fingers on the keyboard, or would I rather get down and dirty jumping in mud puddles or dressing up as a wizard while chasing a sweet little princess around the corners of her kingdom?

But I have to work. And because I do, I end up pushing it to the wee hours of the night where I’m the least functional.

And then sleep takes the back seat.

Then I’m grumpy.

Then I forget things.

And then, this little face goes from jolly to melancholy.

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And that’s when I bumped into the Day Designer. It was their motto that caught my eye:

A well-designed day, is a well-lived life.

I needed my balanced life again. I needed to be intentional and focused, while still living my life and not losing myself in the process. For the last few months, I was starting to feel low about my productivity, my success, even my role as a wife and mother was something I would question, and especially how I felt in my role as a woman. I was no longer feeling empowered. I was chaotic. Tired of the emotional rollercoasters. I was done with the 8 loads of laundry sitting in my living room waiting to be folded – clean, mind you, but still waiting. I was overwhelmed by the post-it reminders taking over every surface area of my home. I was getting cross-eyed with all the reminders coming up on my smart phone telling me I was running late for the next stop. It was just too much. And I needed to find balance, and gain a little more control of my everyday life, otherwise spiralling out of control. I no longer wanted to be the proverbial busy mom, without reaping the rewards.

Mama had to get her groove back.

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Now, I’m not saying as soon as I got the dayplanner, I immediately transitioned into this fairy god mother of multi-tasking, ready to conquer the world one planned minute at a time. It is still a work in progress. But I am already seeing an improvement in my overall outlook on life even with merely one month of using my planner.

Ladies and gentlemen… allow me to introduce my game-changing, fabulous-making, A5 Ring Bound Day Designer. *sigh

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Paired with my go-to custom pencil, my new planner coordinated with my “must wear white” theme of the season. I had yet to open it, and I was already in love with it at first glance. I have never owned a planner so… pretty.

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I know what you’re thinking… WHITE? Why would you choose white? You have a kid!!!

And while, I have to admit, that was pretty much the first thing I thought about (as soon as I managed to get past how adorable I would be sporting my go-to white pencil skirt with this thing of beauty under my arm, that is) – I have to say, it’s easy to keep clean. My very lovely, but almost always dirty, Little Mama, couldn’t wait to get her tiny little hands on my beautiful new planner. However, I was able to wipe it with a soft cloth, and voila! It was back to the deliciously creamy warm white that it once was. I also have learned to make it a habit to keep my beloved planner a safe distance away from Little Mama‘s favorite fruit juices, while keeping it safely tucked away in its box or in my work bag until I use it. But only after I protected it – thanks to Big Daddy reminding me that this planner is right up there in the must-protect category with his beloved leather Cole Haans. It’s a simple solution for an otherwise disastrous situation. I’ll be visiting here for more ways to keep my gorgeous Day Designer in good shape. Let’s just say my walls have suffered the wrath of my incredibly creative, curious, color-loving preschooler. <insert head slap here…>

Now that doesn’t mean I can’t go about my daily business of snacking while I work – I mean… let’s not kid ourselves. We gotta do what we gotta do. I know that when I own something this lovely, and this important – I might as well do what I can to take care of it. But it doesn’t mean it cannot survive the wrath and joy of a busy, hungry mama. Besides, it’s not just a pretty face… it’s durable too.

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Aside from its durability, I love its gold accents throughout. The gold zipper for the pocket to store loose notes and whatnot, and the gold 6 ring binder hardware is both beautiful and sturdy. The magnetic enclosure flap keeps things easy and convenient, as this mama doesn’t have time to be fiddling around with straps, ties, hooks, and buttons. Not to mention – the 6 ring gold binder makes it very easy to find refills. Huge plus.

Speaking of plus – there is an abundance of features that made my decision to go with my A5 Ring Bound Day Designer.

  • 120 GSM White Text Pages with Dark Grey Print (heavy and luxurious!)
  • 180 GSM Colored and Customizable Tab Pages
    • Six Warm Color Tabs in Pinks, Yellow and Green
    • Blank Stickers and Prompts for Tab Personalization
  • Two-Page Yearly Reference Calendar for 2016 and 2017
  • Full Page Check Lists to Mark ‘Important Dates Coming Up in 2016’ and ‘Things to Plan for in 2017’
  • Perpetual Calendar that runs from January through December
  • 12 One-Page Monthly Overviews with a Monday Start Day for Each Week (dated January 2016 to December 2016). Includes Check Lists for Personal and Work or School To-Do Lists.
  • 96 Undated Daily Planning Pages (good for 3 months of use!)
    • Scheduling from 6am to 9pm
    • Today, To-Do, Due, Dollars, Don’t Forget, Gratitude (LOVE THIS), Top 3 To-Do Prompts, Notes and More!
  • 12 Address Contact Pages
  • 12 Phone Number Contact Pages
  • 12 ‘Big To Do List” Pages with Columns for Work and School
  • 12 Grid Dot Notes Pages
  • 12 Expense Tracking Sheets
  • 2016 and 2017 U.S. Holidays Listed by Date and Day of the Week
  • Two Sticker Sheets with Tab Labels and Decorative Stickers (and we all know that mother’s of 5 year olds have an affinity for stickers!)

RIGHT???

But the deal breaker for me, was the actually daily planning pages. This is where I needed help the most – my everyday.

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… I mean – how could one go wrong? I actually look forward to starting my morning with filling out my daily page. As much as I am a smart phone and digital gal, there is nothing quite like writing down reminders and thoughts to help me truly feel accountable to myself, and accomplished at the end of the day. The cool thing is – the pressure is off, because I use a pencil in the event plans change.  This is used to organize my day, and nothing beats checking off that box to pat myself on the back.

So how do I balance these two loves of mine?

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Quite simply actually. I add her into the mix. I always had a blog planner to keep myself in check blog-wise, and I always resorted to my handy dandy post it note-taking for little mama and her zillion activities. Now, I can integrate everything all into one super fabulous Day Designer.

Day Designer :: A Stylish Planner for the Busy Mom www.babyStylista.com

I don’t have to refer to 3 different places to figure out when I work, when we play, and when we chill. It’s all together in one fabulous page. What a concept!

But aside from the convenience of wrapping up my whole day in one pretty package, it is an absolute game changer for me. I find myself so much more productive, less chaotic and frazzled, lighthearted, happy. I have more control over my day, yet the ability to have this kind of efficiency in my daily life has coincidentally given me the freedom I’ve been looking for. When I otherwise go about my business without any sense of structure, I lose valuable moments in my day and before I know it – it’s 3am, and I’m still feeling unaccomplished. The Day Designer has been both rewarding and freeing for me as a mompreneur, blogger, and as a wife and mother.

We’re so excited that this beautiful edition of the White Pebble A5 Ring Bound Day Designer is officially being sold online HERE starting TODAY, May 11th, 2016 at 11AM CDT.  If you are feeling frazzled, and need a dose of fabulous-meets-function, please don’t waste another minute and check these beauties out.

TO.DAY.

Because we all know… Mama ain’t got no time.

THE LOOK:: WANT IT? GET IT!

BIG MAMA – Accessories :: Jimmy Choo Julie Oversize Sunglasses  |   Outerwear :: JOA Shaggy Fur Vest  |  Top :: In Cashmere 3/4 Sleeve Linen Pullover   |  Bottom :: Camo Alternative Go-To Leggings  |  Footwear:: Fold over ankle boots (similar MUK LUKS Chris Womens Ankle Booties here)

LITTLE MAMA – Accessories:: River Island Girls pink oversize brown tinted sunglasses | H&M Fringe Cross Body purse (similar Deb & Dave Girls’ Fringe Handbag here)  | Outerwear:: Little Girl Faux Fur Vest) | Top:: Petit Bateau Off White Turtle Neck Tee  |  Bottom:: Scotch & Soda Kids Print Worker Pants) | Footwear:: Joe Fresh Knee High Brown Riding Boots (similar Kid’s Veronica Slouch here)  |  Whitney English Day Designer 2016 Planner

Good bye “busy mom”. Hello fab and functional mom.

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About Deb B.

Deb Balino is the voice behind Sass & Smalls, host of the newly launched Podcast - Sass & Small Talk, and a mom of two - an artistic and quirky 11-year-old, and an outspoken, homewrecking, retro music loving, 4-year-old. A décor and style enthusiast, as well as a home systems hack creator, with a mildly concerning obsession of all things "bin-worthy", Deb enjoys sharing products, experiences, progressive ideas, and simple shifts in mindset that has helped her family navigate the beautiful chaos of parenting. Deb is also a homeschool teacher, partially by choice, partially pandemic-inspired, while advocating and caring for her parents as an active member of the Sandwich Generation. With vulnerability, and a dash of humour - she shares the reality of her world, all while keeping things as sassy as they once were before the drool, meltdowns, and potty mishaps entered the picture.

Her creative ideas, lengthy storytelling, and everyday musings have been featured on Huffington Post, Yahoo Style, BBC News, and YMC.CA

Comments

  1. Lilac says

    May 12, 2016 at 6:47 am

    Gosh I need a day planner. They say if you write it down, you’re more likely to accomplish your goals for the day. Love the matching outfits too.
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    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 1:06 pm

      It’s so true! Even if I don’t always go back to my planner, I know I had written it down, and I’m much more accountable to myself. Plus I love that feeling of checking things off! Thanks, on the outfits kudos. We love to match our stuff and each other. hahah
      Reply
  2. Heather Lynne says

    May 30, 2016 at 6:46 am

    I love planners. I don’t use mine often enough. I’m still kind of figuring out what the best design for me is, but I definitely love list-making and getting things down on paper! I love the look of this day planner!
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    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 1:12 pm

      Isn’t it gorgeous? For some reason, I’m more committed to writing down my lists in an organized way when it’s in a stylish, good quality planner. I’ve had so many, and after the new smell and the novelty wears, I pretty much forget about it. So far, I’ve been bringing it everywhere I go because it’s hard to forget, it’s so pretty. It’s kind of become my accessory. 🙂
      Reply
  3. Dawn says

    May 30, 2016 at 7:51 am

    Love the planner idea. What I find out when I use one is allll the hours that I am actually not being productive. I think I am but without planning I kind of ramble without finishing one thing!!!! I love this post, awesome!
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    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 1:43 pm

      You sound exactly like me! The day goes by fast, and yet I end the night chaotic and counterproductive. I often wonder where all the hours went. Now I’m looking it on one page and I’m thinking – whoa… how did I fit so much into one day?
      Reply
  4. Gingermommy says

    May 30, 2016 at 9:30 am

    Such a great look! I love how you both can dress alike. Super cute
    Reply
    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 1:44 pm

      You know me… always shamelessly following what Little Mama’s wearing. haha.
      Reply
  5. Randa @ The Bewitchin' Kitchen says

    May 30, 2016 at 9:41 am

    I LOVE a good planner! I have multiple, but eventually they fall flat. I haven’t tried this one yet but I have heard of it.

    I’ll have to give it a go.

    PS – I would pick the white too 😉
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    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 1:53 pm

      Randa – it is seriously the best one I’ve tried hands down! Ive loved all my day planners in the past, and I always chose quality and durability. But style was never something I thought of in a day planner. Then I started using Day Designer and I really liked the categories within each page… it’s like it was made for mamas like us. It balances health, with entrepreneur priorities, family responsibilities, and it looks super slick. I always feel so fabulous pulling it out of my purse. Cuz you know… being the mama of a 5 year old, it’s the little things…. hahah
      Reply
  6. Kerrie says

    May 30, 2016 at 1:49 pm

    Love these looks! and that planner is beautiful! It’s funny that aesthetics make such a difference but for me it’s the best part using a planner!
    Reply
    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 2:01 pm

      I know! Aesthetics were last priority for me with my past planners. Although, I’ve been known to look for bright coloured books that demand way too much attention. Haha! This time, I wanted to try something a little more subtle and elegant. And wouldn’t you know… I actually feel more lovely using it. Who woulda thunk? ha!
      Reply
  7. Ladena says

    June 3, 2016 at 3:46 pm

    First of all, I LOVE your matching outfits. Too awesome. Second, this planner looks great. I really like the idea of the spot for the top 3 things you need to do that day. Let’s face it, a longer list doesn’t usually get done!
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    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 2:10 pm

      This is so true. And it feels good to check all three of those top three priorities off. And way more reasonable, than the 300 item list I tend to give myself daily. Followed immediately by the understandable disappointment. haha.
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And she is.

Autism Pride isn’t about pretending there aren’t challenges.

It’s about recognizing that autistic people don’t need to become less autistic to deserve joy, friendship, opportunity, acceptance, or love.

It’s about taking pride in who they are and embracing the community where they belong.

Today, I celebrate my daughter exactly as she is.

She has taught me more about courage, authenticity, resilience, and unconditional love than I could ever teach her.

I am so proud of her.

And if I’m honest, she’s been my teacher all along.
Nine parents. Nine very different stories. (Mine, Nine parents.

Nine very different stories.
(Mine, included).

Military/Naval families. Solo parents. Single parents. Neurodivergent & Profound Needs families. Blended families. Adoptive families. Families navigating loss, burnout, caregiving, infertility, generational trauma, and everything in between.

What surprised me most wasn’t how different we were and how different our journeys were to get here.

It was how much we SHARED in common.

❤️

Season 2 of Sass & Small Talk reminded me that behind every smile, every school drop-off, every achievement, and every family photo, there is often a story no one else can see.

And yet, somehow, we keep showing up.

So take that moment to pause, and pat yourself on the back. Better yet, hug a parent in your life, who may be carrying that invisible load too.

It’s a game changer.

@jenny_p1987 
@caarly.xo 
@westislanddesigns 
@drawnpublications 
@nikkye_music 
@of.ocean.and.earth.photo 
@mama_brykin 
@spoletinigiuseppe 
@gjavier5 

Grateful for the platform you provided for us to share our stories @telus @storyhive  @haus.of.owl
FUN FACT: making a video podcast takes slightly mo FUN FACT: making a video podcast takes slightly more than one burntout mom with a microphone and a dream. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Meet the incredible CREW behind Season 2 of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast … the people who made me LOOK good, SOUND good, stay on SCHEDULE, and reminded me to sip on my HAPPY J 🥤. 

Huge thanks to my KILLER 🔥 CREW: @jakerfilms (editor & Sass 🎵 Man/Deb whisperer), @nikkye_music (set designer & Epi 4 Guest that made me 😭), @remy.is.remy (A/V Tech/ Production/ Lifesaver), @eric.thebald (A/V Tech/ Audio Mixer/Dreammaker), @hoelune (Production Assistant/Admin/Best support evah), @gjavier5 (Production Assist/ Moral Support/Lovah ❤️), @esther.driver (Production Assist/ Keep me in check/Mama support), and @telus @storyhive for making this vision into reality.

Special thank you to, Geoff @themurdles 4 keeping this chaos👸🏻 in line, and my 2 Smallies who inspired all of this. 👶🏻👧🏻 Love u 2 the 🌓 and back ♾️.

The GUESTS are AMAZING.
The STORIES are POWERFUL.
The SET is GORG (@haus.of.owl).
And all the episodes will be ONLINE and ready to binge TOMORROW - JUNE 16, 2026 on YOUTUBE!

It takes a VILLAGE to raise a child AND a PODCAST. 🎙️

Thanks my #BTS CREW, for being mine…

Ima go and cry myself to sleep now. I’m the luckiest & most exhausted 😴 Pod-Mom Host in the 🌎. Love you all too much. 

#humbled #letsgooooo
Behind every Momfluencer… It’s still the month of Behind every Momfluencer…

It’s still the month of May, the month moms get their Hallmark spotlight - So in honour of that, I wanted to share a little story.

When I first moved from LA to Victoria as a new mom and began building my brand online from home, I struggled with finding a true sense of belonging. I never felt like I fully belonged in the “mom world”, especially in a new community, not fully in the creative world, and definitely not in the often viral-chasing digital world I could never seem to keep up with.

Ironically, I was a “part” of everything but belonged to nothing.

…or so I thought.

As I opened myself up to the many communities WITHIN my community, I realized something:

The moment I stopped trying to “fit in” and leaned into who I actually am… that’s when everything changed.

And that’s what I love most about this group of women featured by @islandparent Magazine — in all the ways we are different, we are also one and the same.

Different voices. Different lives. Different ways of showing up for the world.

But all rooted in connection, creativity, community, and a deep love for our families.

Beyond being “mamas of influence,” these women use their platforms while opening their hearts and homes.

Some share family life tips, recipes, wellness journeys, sandwich gen truths, and initiate mental health conversations.
Some inspire through faith, fashion, creativity, gardening, travel, and outdoor adventures.
Some advocate fiercely for neurodivergent children while navigating neurodivergence themselves.

Some use storytelling, humour, or podcasts 😉 to help other parents feel seen and less alone.

And somehow, in between school pickups, medical appointments, assessment forms, homemaking, caregiving, and late nights searching for a little silence and brain clarity after long days of “othering” — we are building businesses, brands, and meaningful lives for our families.

We cheer each other on. 
We lift each other up.

And in finding my place within this realm of motherhood… I found home.

“It takes a village to raise a child… and a community to raise the parent.” 

#MomsSupportingMoms #VancouverIslan
POV: You’re SUPPOSED to be working on your podcast POV: You’re SUPPOSED to be working on your podcast FULL TILT… but your ADHD brain 🧠 chimed in:

“might as well just release a whole song while we’re at it” 🤷🏻‍♀️

So now my Auntie Norma 🇵🇭 can stream me on Spotify while she washes dishes 😂 #winwin (but still… #whatjusthappened)

Meanwhile:
🏠 messy house
🎥 unfinished podcast clips
🧺 laundry mountain thriving in the background

BUT ANYWAYYYY—

🎧 “I Need My Sass Back” is now streaming on Spotify, iTunes, Amazon Music & everywhere you listen to music 

Your fault, @jakerfilms for writing the darn thing in the first place… 🤣 #dontthinkstraight

Full video link is in my bio if you want the whole vibe 🎬
Apparently a lot of you are confused about where/h Apparently a lot of you are confused about where/how to actually WATCH this podcast I keep talking about… 😂

So here’s how to find @sassandsmalltalkpodcast Seasons 1 & 2 on TELUS Optik TV + Stream+ Ch.9 

And yes… I said TV. 📺 
(“Mom! Look! I’m on tv!” And yes… I did that too… 🤣🤣)

**Thnx to TELUS @storyhive  for making it possible!!

And until June… it will ONLY be available to those who have @telus as their provider or have access to Stream+ & OptikTV, then it will be out in the interwebs for all to see. 👀

My little podcast-that-could is up and running, alive & streaming. Just search within the app on your TELUS TV, “StoryHive Sass”

Season 2 of Sass & Small Talk features raw, meaningful conversations with the many faces of parenthood in our beautiful city, here on Vancouver Island (and beyond), caregivers, creatives, and changemakers carrying the mental load, navigating real life parenting, with honesty and heart. I promise you won’t be disappointed…

Featuring guests including @spoletinigiuseppe, @nikkye_music, @of.ocean.and.earth.photo, and more beautiful humans this season. 

MEET MY VILLAGE… 

Be sure to watch our Music vid tribute on YouTube to all of my guests from THEIR kids and I. Find, like, & Subscribe on YouTube.com/@sassandsmalls ALSO NOW AVAILABLE On Spotify and Apple Music/Itunes! 

#ParentingPodcast #CanadianPodcast #TELUSStoryhive #NeurodivergentParenting #mentalloadofparenting
MY SURPRISE PROJECT for my Podcast Guests - with a MY SURPRISE PROJECT for my Podcast Guests - with a little help from THEIR kids.. 

I didn’t expect this to actually work…

⸻

For the past few weeks, I’ve been working quietly on something really special — a surprise for every guest who’s ever been part of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast… from my Zoom OGs - circa 2022, to my TELUS @storyhive ⁠seasons on the tube 📺, to my crew/village/emotional support squad.

What started as a gift — a piece of music from my out-of-the-box-thinker & editor @jakerfilms, turned into something SO. MUCH. MORE. MEANINGFUL.

With the help of my incredible creative village at @haus.of.owl @remy.is.remy, led by the big beautiful brain 🧠 of Eric Hinch @eric.thebald, my Director 👏🏼🎬 Hinchalot Films (www.filmnow.ca), and the talented Dan @dn.gib & @erinbradleyartist 💄, we brought it to life!

… but the part that gets me right in the gut??

THE SMALLIES…. THESE KIDS….

The very kids who made all of us parents in the first place — including mine, who aren’t normally THIS comfortable “performing” in front of a camera.

Kids who have felt burnout.
Kids who have felt misunderstood.
Neurodivergent kiddos that hold a special place in my ❤️.

Kids who showed up anyway — with courage, joy, and love — to help me create something meaningful for their parents.

And somewhere in all of this…

I found my way back to me.

Back to music.
Back to creativity.
Back to MY SASS.
‘cuz isn’t this what Sass & Small Talk is all about?

⸻

This video is for my village.
For the parents.
For the kids.
For anyone who’s ever felt like they lost a part of themselves along the way.

⸻

👉 The full video is now on YouTube at https://m.youtube.com/@sassandsmalls
(Link in bio)

** Watch and feel COMMUNITY IN ACTION. Gosh - I love you guys!

Ps… If this resonates - keep up with new episodes already streaming on TELUS STORYHIVE - by liking & Subscribing!

“Cuz it Takes a village to raise a child. 

And a community, to raise their parent”

⸻

#SassAndSmallTalk #ParenthoodUnfiltered #MentalLoad MomLife FindYourselfAgain CreativeMom Storytelling VillageSupport TELUSStoryHive @hoelune @rahannavu @iamharpsra @rajinthehouse @lindakyaw_m @nengineermom @i_am_miss_jen @esther.driver
JENN. Meet my village… There are episodes… and th JENN. Meet my village…

There are episodes…
and then there are stories that change your life forever.

This one is both.

She’s not just my guest.
She’s the woman who offered a piece of herself… when our world was falling apart.

Because of her, we have our son.
Because of her, our family feels whole. 

And watching this back—seeing her complete her family too…
full circle doesn’t even begin to cover it.

I wasn’t planning to share this moment.
But this is what this season is about.

The real stories.
The unseen moments of a mama sitting in her living room after the kids are asleep. 
The love that carries families through the unimaginable.

If you’ve ever wondered what it really looks like behind the scenes of motherhood, loss, and rebuilding…

This episode is for you. 🤍

🎧 Episode 1 is out now. 

TELUS OptikTV StoryHive gave me the platform to share these meaningful stories. 

Because it takes a Village to Raise a child. And a community to raise their parent. 
#eggdonor #chosenfamily #infertility #ittakesavillage #mentalload
Meet My Village 🤍 IT’s LAUNCH DAY!!! Season 2 of Meet My Village 🤍

IT’s LAUNCH DAY!!!

Season 2 of Sass & Small Talk, filmed at @haus.of.owl studios, on @StoryHive, Sponsored by TELUS, IS HERE 

… and these are the faces behind the real, raw, and beautiful stories of the mental load of parenting.

From Victoria, and beyond, each guest shares how they carry it all… and keep showing up.

Featuring a very special first episode close to my heart… and a full-circle finale with a dear childhood friend now gracing the stages of NYC - you won’t want to miss.

🎬 Watch now on TELUS Optik TV (Channel 9 On Demand) + Stream+

Let’s support local stories, local voices, and the village that holds us all.

Because it takes a village to raise a child… and a community to raise their parent.

#SassAndSmallTalk #StoryHive #MeetMyVillage
Easter used to feel like pressure: The perfect m Easter used to feel like pressure: 

The perfect meal. 
The perfect table. 
The kids sitting through the meal and actually eating it. 
The food not burning.

And somehow… still ending the day exhausted, touched out, and a little resentful… 

This year, I let go. I had no choice… with the launch of the new season on the pod, I had to choose my battles…

My 7-year-old — my busy, high-energy, “maybe not spaghetti” kid — decided he was making “superrrrr spaghetti.”
His way. 
His ideas. 
His “special ingredients.”

Was it messy? Yep.
Was it chaotic? Absolutely.
Was it perfect? Not even close.

But something shifted.

He took ownership.
He created.
He plated dinner like a little chef with a vision (volcano spaghetti and all 🌋🍝).

And he was SO proud.
And me?
I rested. I watched. I let go of control — and the mental load that usually comes with it.

THIS is what I’m learning:
• The more we try to control everything, the heavier it gets for us… and the less space our kids have to rise.

• When we let them lead (in age-appropriate ways), they don’t just help… they LEAD.

More pride.
More participation.
More appreciation.
More connection.
Less perfection. 
More magic.
** BONUS: and less craving for screen time #winwin

This wasn’t the Easter dinner I would’ve planned…but it’s the one we’ll actually remember ❤️

Taking a page outta your book @anna_skates ❤️❤️
Parenting Hack: Meet your child’s 🧠 exactly where Parenting Hack: Meet your child’s 🧠 exactly where they’re at. Embrace the chaos, the messy experiments, the unrelenting curiosity. Let their 🧠 do its thing and step aside to see the magic.

Took me an entire lifetime to figure it out:
• Spent all of my childhood trying to “fit in”
• Struggled to mask but did it anyway 
• Met a boy. Also a creative and professional masker.
• Took a “creative” path less travelled as young adult on a one way flight to LA
• Loved life. 
• Received negative feedback from well-intentioned naysayers and loved ones
• Felt shame for not hitting the markers 
• Became a mom. 
• Read ALLLL the parenting books. 
• Spent over a decade fighting against my  first born’s “artist” brain and finding ways to “fix” what was not even broken
• Hated conforming and made some pivots while wearing metaphorical headphones to block out opinions/outside noise
• Loved Life 
• Had my youngest little man - came out of womb loud, intentional, & unapologetic 
• Threw out all parenting books and accepted the beautiful neurodivergent 🧠s taking over our entire household
• Gave both kids creative freedoms and stepped aside (mostly not intentionally. they’re too fast and I’m too old) 
• Learned how to celebrate the curious, comical, and weirdly wired brains that is our family. 
• Let my kids teach ME to have courage, think differently, and not just take the road less travelled - but actually #owningit
• Jumped into creating my own #podcast headfirst and never looked back

“Don’t Think Straight”, by Jacob Insley, is definitely one of our go-tos I’ll be keeping on my bookshelf for years to come. 

@jakerfilms you killed it with all these nuggets and takeaways! We’re all fighting for a turn to read - look at you causing ruckus in our home!?! 🤣 PS - My little guy requests to be in your 2nd book. 🤣🤣

#bebold #getmysassback #create
Happy #LOVE Day Weekend…. It’s been a bitter swe Happy #LOVE Day Weekend…. 

It’s been a bitter sweet one this year. But we are working through Grief that will never go away. Especially on milestone days like this. 

Not only is it Dad Felix’s first Heavenly Birthday (Valentine’s Day), it’s also a day we lost our 6th pregnancy before we finally had our little guy. I truly believe Dad is as much present with our babies in heaven, as he is with his 4 Grandkids on earth. 

There’s healing in loving family. Thank you for your constant reminders of this Dad/Grandpa Felix. We miss you so much. 

#sandwichgeneration #caregiving #family #multigenerational
It’s giving dramatic dad/uncle vibes. When our f It’s giving dramatic dad/uncle vibes. 

When our first family friendly white 🥼 party turns into a full blown midlife crisis.🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

(And no… he is NOT okay)… 🤣🤣

#thisis50
#dadlife  #unclelife
#GenXLife
#ParentingMoments 
#TheyGrowUpFast 
#RealLifeParents
#riuwhiteparty
#mexico
#dinerenblanc
He turned 50. Shouting it from the rooftops was no He turned 50.
Shouting it from the rooftops was not an option, so naturally - we had it announced at 40,000 feet ✈️🎂

For context:
This man avoids attention like it’s turbulence.

This??
Actual NIGHTMARE. 😂🤣🤣

But after a rough year of loss, change, and having to step up in so many facets, he deserved a little LOUD love. 📣🎉🥳

Happy 50th to the man I’ve loved for more than half his life.
You chose me, chaos and all… so really, this one’s on you. 😉😉

Thanks @flairairlines for this unforgettable #birthday moment.

If you’ve got a second, send this sweet, shy 50-year-old young man some love… he’ll be back to low-key status in about 72 hours. ⏰💛

@gjavier5 💙💜

#ThisIs50
#50thBirthday 
#MarriageHumor 
#RealLifeMoments 
#PlaneAnnouncement 
#MilestoneBirthday 
#LoveInTheMiddle 
#LifeLately 
#ImperfectAndReal 
#FamilyLife 
#Grief
#caregiving
#GenX
#sandwichgeneration 
#ReelsThatMakeYouSmile
Holiday burnout hits moms and caregivers hard — an Holiday burnout hits moms and caregivers hard — and the guilt of not being able to do it all as planned can be heavy. 

This year, after months and months of overstimulation, busy-ness, grief, worries, transitions, and may many many sleepless nights, we chose quiet. Simple. Unplanned. And a lot of it had to do with my own exhaustion and not being able to do all the things - like I used to in the past.

And in letting go, my kids not only enjoyed the simplicity, pressure-free, they loved the spontaneity, the lack of rushing from one thing to another, keeping old traditions while creating new memories. 

They even offered to be a part of the planning and the doing. 

It never had to be perfect. 
It never had to just fall on my shoulders. 
And it never was about a tree surrounded with every item on their wishlist. 

They just wanted me to play with them, wrap gifts with them, eat with them, and let them do some of the caregiving as well. 

Maybe that was the magic after all.
For the last 3 Christmas seasons, my girls and I s For the last 3 Christmas seasons, my girls and I switched things up.  We were finding we were already maxed out with our own households - the lists, the gifts, the prep, the mess. Omg… the mess.

It was time to take a break from@the stress, and to find joy through this busy season, while putting our “cute” on again. 

… and so, the birth of “Annual High Tea with the ladies” came to be: 

We ditched the gifts. 
Kept the girlfriends. 
Elevated the carbs.
… and the heels.

And yes - the tea just got a little sweeter.

Got a holiday ritual that fills your cup (literally or figuratively)?
Me: We’re getting too old for this. Also Me: 🎥📹🔦 Me: We’re getting too old for this. 

Also Me: 🎥📹🔦💡💄💋

********************

Check out our #Behindthescenes done in our living room. (Grateful for the space @ginandneature 🤣🤣)

👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
It’s been ✨14✨ YEARS of doing this as a family, I get asked every year how we pull this off. Esp with limited time, budget, and busy kids??

Easy: 
• Cue theme music (“Alexa, get us in #kpopdemonhunters mode”)
• Beat our faces down with a little @amoresarte_arteesamor  from our bestie Uncle @andrewvelazquez_ ‘s killer 💋 palette #onlythebest
• dust off my podcast studio lights, most likely incorrectly. (I am NO @remy.is.remy, @nikkye_music , @eric.thebald , @jakerfilms, @brianbobila, or @hoelune)
• clear my phone cuz it’s always full • throw on some DIY outfits we happen to have in our dress up trunk (OR Grammy’s closet!)
• grab last minute wigs (and in my case - clip on BANGS) that don’t exactly match the OG characters, but who cares… it’s our spin anyway…)
• George @gjavier5, our in-house Jinu, just got ready for the day as normal 😂😂😂😂😂😂
- Start bribing the kids AND George (but guess what - they LOVE our #familytradition too!! EVEN Jenny, my kiddo’s beloved (and often creepy doll who participates in most of our #FamilyHalloween themes. Gotta love Jenny!🪆

It’s 10000% chaotic, always a mess, but it’s how the Balinos do #Famoween (and Christmas… lazy greetings here we come), and we wouldn’t have it any other way. 

#BTS
The BALINO FAM is ready for our Comeback of 2025. The BALINO FAM is ready for our Comeback of 2025. 

Just call us the “B POP Fam-O-Ween Hunters” 🎤

Plot twist of 2025? Our demons to fight — grief and loss, overwhelm, caregiving challenges, new school, intolerance, advocacy, no sleep, basically… life-ing. 

But guess what?

We didn’t break — we TRANSFORMED. (As my kids would say - we SLAYED 2025). 

We stopped trying to fit into places that weren’t made for us. Just like these characters on #KpopDemonHunters

• We are choosing to show up for one another and our parents. Fully.
• We are choosing our battles 
• We no longer apologize for simply being us. In all our messy, chaotic #neurospicy, busy, loud, glittery, imperfect ways. 

And when we let our special big little girl be exactly who SHE is — not who the world told her to be — everything shifted. For HER and for our ENTIRE family. 

Peace came. Joy came. She shined.
Heck - she even spearheaded this year’s #famoween theme with the help of her “Baby” bro. It’s been 14 years of finding her place in the world and facing heartache and struggle along the way. We had a BREAKTHROUGH this year.

But it started with working on us as a family. 

So here we are.

Tired.
Ready.
Golden.

✨The B POPS✨
• George as “G-NEW” (Jinu) - the brooding lead of Saja Boys🔥charming and charismatic but struggling on the inside ✅

• My girl as MIRA” - tough and spicy but sensitive on the inside ✅

• My Baby boy as “Baby” who relies on his cuteness to get things done ✅ 👀

• Me as “Zoey”, just a big kid trying to figure out where she belongs. Always learning. ✅ ✅✅✅

(Also… yes. The 5th main character, Rumi (my daughter’s beloved doll who often makes a cameo in our fam-o-ween posts. Can you spot her our lead? 👀💜)

Watch out world. We may be getting old, but we’re ✨ #Golden. ✨

Pls leave a comment👇🏻and let my creative fam (so lucky to have you, @gjavier5 and my crazy kiddos) know whatcha think of our theme this year!
👻👻👻🎃🎃🎃🎃 Rainy day at @galey_farms with the fam an 👻👻👻🎃🎃🎃🎃

Rainy day at @galey_farms with the fam and it was exactly what we needed. So much fun, and great for a good scare cuz I’m just a big 🐓. 

And those donuts…. #nextlevel. As was that #cornmaze🌽 

Thanks @ingirlsclub for organizing a core memory for my girl and all the girls and their/our families! It’s hard to organize things with my little family while #caregiving, and often we have to decline, but we are so glad this worked out. This group activity made it so much more feasible for us. #sandwichgen #sandwichgenlife #elderlycare

#Halloween #fall #family #YYJ #pumpkins #pumpkinpatch #trainride #familyfun
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