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Day Designer :: A Stylish Day Planner for The Busy Mom

May 11, 2016 By Deb B. 14 Comments

I am one busy mom. And I know most, if not all, of my stay-at-home mom buds are rolling their eyes right about now, having to once again hear me say… “I’m busy” – but the truth is, Mama’s gotta WERK.

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I don’t have time for anything these days. Playdates are a thing of the past. Catching up on my TGIT shows are virtually impossible. My husband quite often catches a glimpse of me here and there – but it’s usually in the form of a trail of smoke. This mama just can’t keep up.

The one thing that does not get sacrificed in the chaotic, busy mom life is this little thing.

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And she’s thrilled about it.

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Why shouldn’t she be? Mama is there for her 24/7. Okay, minus the 12 hours she’s in bed (and YAY – we have FINALLY gotten her to sleep ON HER OWN THROUGH THE NIGHT. It only took 5 years. More on that later!). But in her waking hours, this sweet monkey of mine gets a lot of mommy time, busy mom or not.

Most of the times it’s her activities. My fellow mamas out there know what I’m talking about. Sports, music, dance, preschool/toddler socials, tea parties, park play, castle building on the beach. If it involves fancy gloves, kinetic sand, interactive books that make way too much noise, mismatched train sets, or a yellow leotard, OR all of the above… I’m pretty much right there in the crux of it.

So much to do, so little time.

And of course, we have to fit in good old fashioned mommy-and-me outfitting in the mix. I mean… priorities, right?

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This post isn’t about complaining. It’s about life. My every day life. My life has inadvertently become melded into this little person‘s life, and I love it. I also have a business. Mama’s gotta work, and working at home is not for the faint of heart. I’m learning this the hard way.

For the last few months, my focus has been on this little girl, building our family, improving our health, and keeping sane. So what has suffered? My work. And that’s not good either. The thing is, being a work-at-home mom is a beautiful thing for the most part, but the reality is, it’s H.A.R.D. The balance act seems almost heart breaking at times because just as I’m getting into the groove with work, I have a little one reaching up for my hand asking her to play with her. Who am I to say, “no… later”. My heart is literally incapable of doing that. Plus, would I rather have my phone to my ear and my fingers on the keyboard, or would I rather get down and dirty jumping in mud puddles or dressing up as a wizard while chasing a sweet little princess around the corners of her kingdom?

But I have to work. And because I do, I end up pushing it to the wee hours of the night where I’m the least functional.

And then sleep takes the back seat.

Then I’m grumpy.

Then I forget things.

And then, this little face goes from jolly to melancholy.

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And that’s when I bumped into the Day Designer. It was their motto that caught my eye:

A well-designed day, is a well-lived life.

I needed my balanced life again. I needed to be intentional and focused, while still living my life and not losing myself in the process. For the last few months, I was starting to feel low about my productivity, my success, even my role as a wife and mother was something I would question, and especially how I felt in my role as a woman. I was no longer feeling empowered. I was chaotic. Tired of the emotional rollercoasters. I was done with the 8 loads of laundry sitting in my living room waiting to be folded – clean, mind you, but still waiting. I was overwhelmed by the post-it reminders taking over every surface area of my home. I was getting cross-eyed with all the reminders coming up on my smart phone telling me I was running late for the next stop. It was just too much. And I needed to find balance, and gain a little more control of my everyday life, otherwise spiralling out of control. I no longer wanted to be the proverbial busy mom, without reaping the rewards.

Mama had to get her groove back.

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Now, I’m not saying as soon as I got the dayplanner, I immediately transitioned into this fairy god mother of multi-tasking, ready to conquer the world one planned minute at a time. It is still a work in progress. But I am already seeing an improvement in my overall outlook on life even with merely one month of using my planner.

Ladies and gentlemen… allow me to introduce my game-changing, fabulous-making, A5 Ring Bound Day Designer. *sigh

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Paired with my go-to custom pencil, my new planner coordinated with my “must wear white” theme of the season. I had yet to open it, and I was already in love with it at first glance. I have never owned a planner so… pretty.

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I know what you’re thinking… WHITE? Why would you choose white? You have a kid!!!

And while, I have to admit, that was pretty much the first thing I thought about (as soon as I managed to get past how adorable I would be sporting my go-to white pencil skirt with this thing of beauty under my arm, that is) – I have to say, it’s easy to keep clean. My very lovely, but almost always dirty, Little Mama, couldn’t wait to get her tiny little hands on my beautiful new planner. However, I was able to wipe it with a soft cloth, and voila! It was back to the deliciously creamy warm white that it once was. I also have learned to make it a habit to keep my beloved planner a safe distance away from Little Mama‘s favorite fruit juices, while keeping it safely tucked away in its box or in my work bag until I use it. But only after I protected it – thanks to Big Daddy reminding me that this planner is right up there in the must-protect category with his beloved leather Cole Haans. It’s a simple solution for an otherwise disastrous situation. I’ll be visiting here for more ways to keep my gorgeous Day Designer in good shape. Let’s just say my walls have suffered the wrath of my incredibly creative, curious, color-loving preschooler. <insert head slap here…>

Now that doesn’t mean I can’t go about my daily business of snacking while I work – I mean… let’s not kid ourselves. We gotta do what we gotta do. I know that when I own something this lovely, and this important – I might as well do what I can to take care of it. But it doesn’t mean it cannot survive the wrath and joy of a busy, hungry mama. Besides, it’s not just a pretty face… it’s durable too.

Day Designer :: A Stylish Planner for the Busy Mom www.babyStylista.com

Day Designer :: A Stylish Planner for the Busy Mom www.babyStylista.com

Aside from its durability, I love its gold accents throughout. The gold zipper for the pocket to store loose notes and whatnot, and the gold 6 ring binder hardware is both beautiful and sturdy. The magnetic enclosure flap keeps things easy and convenient, as this mama doesn’t have time to be fiddling around with straps, ties, hooks, and buttons. Not to mention – the 6 ring gold binder makes it very easy to find refills. Huge plus.

Speaking of plus – there is an abundance of features that made my decision to go with my A5 Ring Bound Day Designer.

  • 120 GSM White Text Pages with Dark Grey Print (heavy and luxurious!)
  • 180 GSM Colored and Customizable Tab Pages
    • Six Warm Color Tabs in Pinks, Yellow and Green
    • Blank Stickers and Prompts for Tab Personalization
  • Two-Page Yearly Reference Calendar for 2016 and 2017
  • Full Page Check Lists to Mark ‘Important Dates Coming Up in 2016’ and ‘Things to Plan for in 2017’
  • Perpetual Calendar that runs from January through December
  • 12 One-Page Monthly Overviews with a Monday Start Day for Each Week (dated January 2016 to December 2016). Includes Check Lists for Personal and Work or School To-Do Lists.
  • 96 Undated Daily Planning Pages (good for 3 months of use!)
    • Scheduling from 6am to 9pm
    • Today, To-Do, Due, Dollars, Don’t Forget, Gratitude (LOVE THIS), Top 3 To-Do Prompts, Notes and More!
  • 12 Address Contact Pages
  • 12 Phone Number Contact Pages
  • 12 ‘Big To Do List” Pages with Columns for Work and School
  • 12 Grid Dot Notes Pages
  • 12 Expense Tracking Sheets
  • 2016 and 2017 U.S. Holidays Listed by Date and Day of the Week
  • Two Sticker Sheets with Tab Labels and Decorative Stickers (and we all know that mother’s of 5 year olds have an affinity for stickers!)

RIGHT???

But the deal breaker for me, was the actually daily planning pages. This is where I needed help the most – my everyday.

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… I mean – how could one go wrong? I actually look forward to starting my morning with filling out my daily page. As much as I am a smart phone and digital gal, there is nothing quite like writing down reminders and thoughts to help me truly feel accountable to myself, and accomplished at the end of the day. The cool thing is – the pressure is off, because I use a pencil in the event plans change.  This is used to organize my day, and nothing beats checking off that box to pat myself on the back.

So how do I balance these two loves of mine?

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Quite simply actually. I add her into the mix. I always had a blog planner to keep myself in check blog-wise, and I always resorted to my handy dandy post it note-taking for little mama and her zillion activities. Now, I can integrate everything all into one super fabulous Day Designer.

Day Designer :: A Stylish Planner for the Busy Mom www.babyStylista.com

I don’t have to refer to 3 different places to figure out when I work, when we play, and when we chill. It’s all together in one fabulous page. What a concept!

But aside from the convenience of wrapping up my whole day in one pretty package, it is an absolute game changer for me. I find myself so much more productive, less chaotic and frazzled, lighthearted, happy. I have more control over my day, yet the ability to have this kind of efficiency in my daily life has coincidentally given me the freedom I’ve been looking for. When I otherwise go about my business without any sense of structure, I lose valuable moments in my day and before I know it – it’s 3am, and I’m still feeling unaccomplished. The Day Designer has been both rewarding and freeing for me as a mompreneur, blogger, and as a wife and mother.

We’re so excited that this beautiful edition of the White Pebble A5 Ring Bound Day Designer is officially being sold online HERE starting TODAY, May 11th, 2016 at 11AM CDT.  If you are feeling frazzled, and need a dose of fabulous-meets-function, please don’t waste another minute and check these beauties out.

TO.DAY.

Because we all know… Mama ain’t got no time.

THE LOOK:: WANT IT? GET IT!

BIG MAMA – Accessories :: Jimmy Choo Julie Oversize Sunglasses  |   Outerwear :: JOA Shaggy Fur Vest  |  Top :: In Cashmere 3/4 Sleeve Linen Pullover   |  Bottom :: Camo Alternative Go-To Leggings  |  Footwear:: Fold over ankle boots (similar MUK LUKS Chris Womens Ankle Booties here)

LITTLE MAMA – Accessories:: River Island Girls pink oversize brown tinted sunglasses | H&M Fringe Cross Body purse (similar Deb & Dave Girls’ Fringe Handbag here)  | Outerwear:: Little Girl Faux Fur Vest) | Top:: Petit Bateau Off White Turtle Neck Tee  |  Bottom:: Scotch & Soda Kids Print Worker Pants) | Footwear:: Joe Fresh Knee High Brown Riding Boots (similar Kid’s Veronica Slouch here)  |  Whitney English Day Designer 2016 Planner

Good bye “busy mom”. Hello fab and functional mom.

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About Deb B.

Deb Balino is the voice behind Sass & Smalls, host of the newly launched Podcast - Sass & Small Talk, and a mom of two - an artistic and quirky 11-year-old, and an outspoken, homewrecking, retro music loving, 4-year-old. A décor and style enthusiast, as well as a home systems hack creator, with a mildly concerning obsession of all things "bin-worthy", Deb enjoys sharing products, experiences, progressive ideas, and simple shifts in mindset that has helped her family navigate the beautiful chaos of parenting. Deb is also a homeschool teacher, partially by choice, partially pandemic-inspired, while advocating and caring for her parents as an active member of the Sandwich Generation. With vulnerability, and a dash of humour - she shares the reality of her world, all while keeping things as sassy as they once were before the drool, meltdowns, and potty mishaps entered the picture.

Her creative ideas, lengthy storytelling, and everyday musings have been featured on Huffington Post, Yahoo Style, BBC News, and YMC.CA

Comments

  1. Lilac says

    May 12, 2016 at 6:47 am

    Gosh I need a day planner. They say if you write it down, you’re more likely to accomplish your goals for the day. Love the matching outfits too.
    Reply
    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 1:06 pm

      It’s so true! Even if I don’t always go back to my planner, I know I had written it down, and I’m much more accountable to myself. Plus I love that feeling of checking things off! Thanks, on the outfits kudos. We love to match our stuff and each other. hahah
      Reply
  2. Heather Lynne says

    May 30, 2016 at 6:46 am

    I love planners. I don’t use mine often enough. I’m still kind of figuring out what the best design for me is, but I definitely love list-making and getting things down on paper! I love the look of this day planner!
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    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 1:12 pm

      Isn’t it gorgeous? For some reason, I’m more committed to writing down my lists in an organized way when it’s in a stylish, good quality planner. I’ve had so many, and after the new smell and the novelty wears, I pretty much forget about it. So far, I’ve been bringing it everywhere I go because it’s hard to forget, it’s so pretty. It’s kind of become my accessory. 🙂
      Reply
  3. Dawn says

    May 30, 2016 at 7:51 am

    Love the planner idea. What I find out when I use one is allll the hours that I am actually not being productive. I think I am but without planning I kind of ramble without finishing one thing!!!! I love this post, awesome!
    Reply
    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 1:43 pm

      You sound exactly like me! The day goes by fast, and yet I end the night chaotic and counterproductive. I often wonder where all the hours went. Now I’m looking it on one page and I’m thinking – whoa… how did I fit so much into one day?
      Reply
  4. Gingermommy says

    May 30, 2016 at 9:30 am

    Such a great look! I love how you both can dress alike. Super cute
    Reply
    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 1:44 pm

      You know me… always shamelessly following what Little Mama’s wearing. haha.
      Reply
  5. Randa @ The Bewitchin' Kitchen says

    May 30, 2016 at 9:41 am

    I LOVE a good planner! I have multiple, but eventually they fall flat. I haven’t tried this one yet but I have heard of it.

    I’ll have to give it a go.

    PS – I would pick the white too 😉
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    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 1:53 pm

      Randa – it is seriously the best one I’ve tried hands down! Ive loved all my day planners in the past, and I always chose quality and durability. But style was never something I thought of in a day planner. Then I started using Day Designer and I really liked the categories within each page… it’s like it was made for mamas like us. It balances health, with entrepreneur priorities, family responsibilities, and it looks super slick. I always feel so fabulous pulling it out of my purse. Cuz you know… being the mama of a 5 year old, it’s the little things…. hahah
      Reply
  6. Kerrie says

    May 30, 2016 at 1:49 pm

    Love these looks! and that planner is beautiful! It’s funny that aesthetics make such a difference but for me it’s the best part using a planner!
    Reply
    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 2:01 pm

      I know! Aesthetics were last priority for me with my past planners. Although, I’ve been known to look for bright coloured books that demand way too much attention. Haha! This time, I wanted to try something a little more subtle and elegant. And wouldn’t you know… I actually feel more lovely using it. Who woulda thunk? ha!
      Reply
  7. Ladena says

    June 3, 2016 at 3:46 pm

    First of all, I LOVE your matching outfits. Too awesome. Second, this planner looks great. I really like the idea of the spot for the top 3 things you need to do that day. Let’s face it, a longer list doesn’t usually get done!
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    • debalino says

      June 6, 2016 at 2:10 pm

      This is so true. And it feels good to check all three of those top three priorities off. And way more reasonable, than the 300 item list I tend to give myself daily. Followed immediately by the understandable disappointment. haha.
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And in letting go, my kids not only enjoyed the simplicity, pressure-free, they loved the spontaneity, the lack of rushing from one thing to another, keeping old traditions while creating new memories. 

They even offered to be a part of the planning and the doing. 

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It never had to just fall on my shoulders. 
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We ditched the gifts. 
Kept the girlfriends. 
Elevated the carbs.
… and the heels.

And yes - the tea just got a little sweeter.

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It’s been ✨14✨ YEARS of doing this as a family, I get asked every year how we pull this off. Esp with limited time, budget, and busy kids??

Easy: 
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• Beat our faces down with a little @amoresarte_arteesamor  from our bestie Uncle @andrewvelazquez_ ‘s killer 💋 palette #onlythebest
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Jaime Pereira, Founder and brains behind Glow Jar Jaime Pereira, Founder and brains behind Glow Jar Beauty @glowjar_  says “LESS IS MORE” with skincare.

Meanwhile, I’m over here… overscrubbing, overthinking, and sometimes… skipping it altogether. 🙈 (shhhh... don’t tell my husband, OR my friends, OR my followers, omg please don’t tell my mom).

Turns out, good #skincare isn’t about burning your face off with 12 products that smell like a tropical fruit basket. It’s about being gentle — even if you’re a chaotic face washer like me.

Watch me get called out (lovingly) in Episode 3 (https://youtu.be/gAg0RXoGiAg) of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast Talk, now streaming on ‪@TELUS‬ OptikTV and ‪@storyhive‬ 

Find the link on my BIO or in my stories. 

#SkincareHumor #MomLife #BurnoutRecovery #CaregiverLife #SassAndSmallTalk #lessismore #glowjarbeauty #glowjar #skin #glowingskin #JaimePereira #canadianbrand
When you are too unequipped to plan ahead, so your When you are too unequipped to plan ahead, so your village takes over and plans ahead for you. 

Enter, days worth of #waffles and #pancakes for your sweet-breakfast-obsessed family. All so I can focus on working on season 2 of my show @sassandsmalltalkpodcast @Telus @storyhive now in production, whilst #caregiving the parents full time and no summer camps for the kiddos in sight. Let’s just say 24 hours in a day isn’t quite enough… 😴 is kinda out the window too. 

Thank you @caarly.xo for knowing I’m in the season, and just doing what you do… as always. 

Now please go back to your family of 6 😲, because they are probably tired of sharing you with us after all these MONTHS… LOVE you, and THANK you for all you’ve done for our family. 

The waffles were just the delish icing on the cake. There was muuuuuuch much more you supported us with while across the country as we focused on family, and we are grateful to you…  thank you. 

#ittakesavillage #sassandsmalltalk #telus #storyhive
Sigh. Tough crowd. 🤷🏻‍♀️ #caregiver #s Sigh. Tough crowd. 🤷🏻‍♀️
#caregiver #seekingvalidation #daughterofimmigrants #proudgrandparents

J/K… she was proud (I think). 
And she actually read it (I think)… 🤔🤔

Grab a copy @islandparent on local stands or check out the link on IG stories and in my BIO. 

And read the article @mommamillsblog, my girl, Natasha wrote on the true meaning of wealth in parenthood. 

Lots of gems!
#islandparentmagazine #parenting #homeschool #mentalhealth #mentalwellness 

Do you still find yourself seeking your #elderly parents approval even as a parent yourself?
Meet me in 10.” ☕💌😉 When you’re a par Meet me in 10.” ☕💌😉

When you’re a parent, caregiver, and running your own show on zero sleep… “sneaking out” mid-day with that cutie (who kinda resembles your spouse 🤷🏻‍♀️ ) for YUUUUUMMMY local @drumroaster #specialitycoffee, is basically the best (and only) date you’ll get. 

And honestly? We’ll take it. ✨

Talk “latte” to me. 💛 

*Tho that Canadian Macchiato ☕️ was next level…* Jus’ sayin’

Catch the @aerobicgeisha.coffee #mobilecoffee #cartonwheels #PopUp 🚲 at @westshoretowncentre — now ‘til Sept 3 (closed Mondays). 

#SupportLocal #ParentDateVibes #BurnoutFuel #CoffeeDate #hubbahubba #coffeeismylovelanguage #westshoretowncentre #aerobicgeisha #geishacoffee #aerobicgeishacoffee
**He had NO idea what he got himself into when he **He had NO idea what he got himself into when he answered that phone call from the crazy big(ish) city girl.**⁣
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Yes… I made the first move.⁣
And yes… I called him on an actual telephone. With a rotary dial. Connected to a wall.⁣ ☎️⁣
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That was 26 years ago.⁣
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10 years later (16 years ago today), he asked me to meet him at the end of the aisle and make it official 🤵🏻👰🏻—which we did, surrounded by everyone we love, and then danced the night away at the bottom of the Seinfeld steps.⁣
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Thank you for doing life with me, George @gjavier5. You’ve always been (and always will be) my #1 go-to for all things Cobra Kai 🐍, the best fellow imperfect-perfect parent to those little humans who look suspiciously like you 👧🏻👦🏻—and of course, co-parent to our two stinky OG furry kids 🦮🐕‍🦺.⁣ Thanks for being the yin to my “extra”🤪. And I’m the yang to your “chill” 😎
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Now stop scrolling and go kill that spider in the living room… or I might have to tell the world who really watches The Bachelor between the two of us 👀🌹
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I love you!! (And no… this is not just a clever way to get you to finally agree that the TV we bought the year we got married is long overdue for retirement 📺🫠)⁣ 😉 
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D&G, finally.
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#16YearsMarried #26YearsTogether #dgfinally #atlast #happyanniversary
Meet Emily. She coped by staying busy. Corporate Meet Emily. 

She coped by staying busy.
Corporate life. 
#Sidehustles. 
Always moving.
Until #burnout stopped her cold.

When Emily Bowman  @emlambow @nevaehjade.beautywellness, at the tender age of 12, began the life of a heartbreaking reality of #caregiving for a loved one, and eventually losing her father after a decade long battle with cancer, she pushed through the pain the only way she knew how — by working harder. 

But #grief always finds a way to surface.

#Fitness became her lifeline.
Now it’s not just her outlet — it’s her saving grace... and her business.

So grateful for @Telus @storyhive  for the platform to share such profound stories on #burnout and reclaiming joy as parents. 

🔥 Watch the full conversation in Episode 2 – live now on #Youtube - Link in BIO and IG Stories! Watch now for amazing INSPO, and please subscribe and support a sis! 🙋🏻‍♀️ (PSSST… “YouTube.com/@sassandsmalls”)
✨Look, Mom — we’re in print!✨ (*Turns out ✨Look, Mom — we’re in print!✨ (*Turns out “talks too much” is a transferable skill. 😉)

Couldn’t resist flipping through the online Summer issue of @islandparent (still chasing down a copy ON PRINT — OMW, #YYJ friends, pls save me one 🙏🙏!!)

Somehow, between #caregiving worries stretching from the West Coast to the Midwest, an unexpected emergency trip with the kids, and a 25-hour boat/train/plane journey (regrets: zero, snack supply: questionable 🙃), I managed to turn the chaos into a story — and landed my first article in one of our Van Island parenting mags.

Even better? I sat down for a feature interview about @sassandsmalltalkpodcast, sharing why these conversations matter, how the show makes space for parents stretched too thin, and why reclaiming joy beyond burnout is actually possible. #SeasonOne is now streaming on @telus @storyhive 🎙️.

A Massive THANK YOU to Stacie Gaetz @islandparent for an energizing interview that made me sound far cooler than I am, and to the whole editorial team for trusting me to bring my slightly unhinged, real-talk parenting chaos to your pages.

Here’s to finding joy in the mess, adventure in the unexpected, and a whole lotta #HappyJ in my carry-on…

📖 Grab a copy, flip to my pages, check out all the amazing contributing writers, and come hang out on the pod!

Also peep appearances from 2 of my 8 incredible guests: @truedad.community, @sarjo08, @toastibeautycollection — and the ridiculously talented @sarah_booth_photography, whose cover shot steals the show.

Non-islanders - the online copy is avail at islandparent.ca. Link on my bio 😉

#SassAndSmallTalk #SandwichGeneration #IslandParent #Storyhive #TelusOriginals #CaregiverLife #MomLifeUnfiltered #ParentingPodcast #FilipinoMoms #RealTalkForParents #ChaosAndJoy #ContributingWriter #Storytelling
I recorded this moments before we said goodbye to I recorded this moments before we said goodbye to our father-in-law — who we’d been caregiving for these last couple months in their home on the other side of the country 💔 It’s been a heavy time, so I haven’t been online. 

But I wanted to quickly share that George and I have been keeping up with our daily dose of #HJ, and between that, and prayer, our amazing village both here and at home, and the support of family - our #stressresilience to handle the most challenging time in our lives was nothing short of a miracle. 

Running on virtually no sleep, the constant worry, lack of control, we needed all we could get to show up for the ones we love especially these last couple months. 

I am now a couple weeks into the #Rootist Densify Hair Line (and only a few days since recording this vid), after just a few washes with the Rootist Densify Shampoo + Conditioner (plus the Densifying Serum), I’m already feeling a shift. ✨ Thicker, fuller hair is the goal — and even in the midst of #grief and #caregiving, it’s nice to feel one small thing going right.

If you’re curious, today’s the day to grab it (July 2nd, 2025) —
🛍️ Shampoo + Conditioner are on sale
🇨🇦 Canada Day = FREE shipping Until July 4th 2025
But the 25% off on shampoo and conditioner ends TONIGHT (July 2nd - 1159pm PST) — so don’t wait! 🌿💚

Grab your Shampoo and Conditioner here: 
https://www.amare.com/et/sh43va/1946022

Promo code: Rootist25

DM me, or click the link for the full video on my profile.

#RootistHairCare #ScalpHealth #CaregiverLife #MicrobiomeSupport #CanadaDaySale #Review
S E A S O N * 1 :: #Burnout is real — but so is S E A S O N * 1 :: #Burnout is real — but so is your comeback. 💥 SEASON 1 of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast is now #bingeable on @TELUS #OptikTV & @StoryHive #YouTube! 8 back-to-back episodes of real talk about #parenting, #caregiving, and life’s beautiful chaos. Hit that link in bio and #getthatsassback. 🎙️✨ #JoyUnlocked #ParenthoodUnfiltered
M I N I • V I L L A G E :: This little birthday M I N I • V I L L A G E :: This little birthday boy of mine has been such a trooper — the youngest and smallest member of our #sandwichgeneration family. For the third time in his 7 years of birthdays, his special day was quietly placed on hold as we navigated some heavy family matters. 

That meant: 
• no class party
• no birthday play date
• no jumping on trampolines
• no big plan, not even a little one 

… and not one single complaint from this compassionate little guy.

He’s simply grateful to be where he’s needed most — with family. 

To his (and our) surprise, his incredible teacher sent us this beautiful video of his classmates from far away, singing him #HappyBirthday, and the emotion it stirred in our family was something we’ll never forget. It was the very medicine our hearts needed right about now.

I may or may not have shed a tear or two… thousand.

And as for the #birthdayboy?

Well — it’s written all over his sweet face.

#thegiftthatkeepsongiving #itsthelittlethings #ittakesavillage #caregiving #bestgiftever #lovewins #realparentingmoments #sandwichgenerationlife
G E T * T O * T H E * R O O T :: I recorded this a G E T * T O * T H E * R O O T :: I recorded this a little while ago… but life had other plans. 💔

It’s been a challenging month — on top of caregiving, moving homes, and homeschooling, we’ve been navigating some heavy family stuff. So I stepped back to focus on what matters most. 💗

That said… I’m slowly finding my way back.

And while it might seem small, leaning into this lighthearted moment — unboxing the full #Rootist kit, the #HJ for scalp — feels like a tiny act of #respite I really need right now. 

I’ve been working on my #guthealth with #Amare, and now I’m turning my attention to my #scalp #microbiome — because healing starts from the inside out… but the outside could use a little love too. 💆🏻‍♀️✨

Here’s to strong, luscious hair (maybe even retiring the ol’ #mombun? We’ll see 😅) and giving myself a moment to feel good again. 💚
#ScalpMicrobiome #GutBrainaxis #MomLifeRecovery #momlifebelike
🔥 SEASON FINALE DROP 🔥 We’re closing out 🔥 SEASON FINALE DROP 🔥

We’re closing out Season 1 of “Sass & Small Talk” with serious depth, healing, and one heck of a magical mic-drop moment. ✨

In this powerful finale #onthepod, I sit down with @scarletjaxen — a Victoria-based #author, counsellor, and storyteller with years of experience in clinical social work. She brings together sharp intellect and soul-deep wisdom to help us explore #burnout and intuition, through the power of #multisensory storytelling.

Scarlet believes change is possible, healing is available, and that WHO we ARE can evolve—when we’re ready to take the risk to live with intention, while trusting our own instincts.

She takes #trustyourgut to a whole new level.

For every #caregiver, #mama, and recovering #overachiever... this one’s for you.

🎥 NOW streaming on @TELUS OptikTV Stream+

📅 Coming May 27 to @storyhive + @sassandsmalltalkpodcast #YouTube + all podcast platforms.

#watchlocal #YYJ #Victoria #storyhive #behindthescenes #onthepod #VancouverIsland #Telus #OptikTV #videopodcast #womensempowerment
B O S S * L A D Y * B U R N O U T :: She builds be B O S S * L A D Y * B U R N O U T :: She builds beauty brands by day and dominates video games by night 🎮💅 

Meet Sara Jonsson @sarjo08 #mama (human & furry), #wifey, #caregiver, #entrepreneur, and low-key savage when gaming with her son 😂. 

As the go-to support for her parents through some tough health-related seasons, Sara’s #familyfirst mindset fuels everything she does—including the business she built from love. 

In Episode 7, we get real about #caregiverburnout, while running multi businesses with heart, and finding joy in the chaos. 

…and,

HOW. THE. HECK. SHE. DOES. IT. ALL. 

NOW streaming on @TELUS OptikTV Stream+ 

Will be available on @storyhive and @sassandsmalltalkpodcast #YouTube and all podcast platforms on May 27th. 

#watchlocal #YYJ #Victoria #storyhive #behindthescenes #onthepod #VancouverIsland #Telus #OptikTV #videopodcast #bossladyvibes @toastibeautycollection
SOMETHING * IS * BREWING :: A #behindthescenes gli SOMETHING * IS * BREWING :: A #behindthescenes glimpse of what feels like the beginning of a powerful shift in #womenshealth right here in #Victoria.

To stand alongside such empowered women — #caregivers, #changemakers, survivors, women from all walks of life — in the very place where the hands and hearts of this hospital held me and my family together (in more ways than one)… it was overwhelming in the best way.

Even more so, to share it with my daughter, my fiercest little survivor. Both of our stories of survival are woven into these hospital walls.

This was more than just a shoot. This was change taking place in real time. Honoured to be a tiny part of this moment as it unfolds.

Thank you for bringing this to life @ourvichospitals @averybrohman @gaellevanerp 💛
✨UPDATE!! We found our mystery fam! ✨@chris.co ✨UPDATE!! We found our mystery fam! ✨@chris.cochrane.realtor, you and your kiddos are what our world needs more of! And grateful to our dear friend @oliviabozovic who made the connection! SMALL 🌍 BIG 🩷♥️💙! Adore you both!! 

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To the kind dad at the @royalbaycolwood Easter Egg Hunt this past Saturday—

You probably didn’t realize how much you and your kids impacted our day.

My son had just missed the first few minutes of the egg hunt (as usual, this mama was running late with a million things on her plate—homeschooling, caregiving, promoting a show, working from home, managing the home, advocating, feeding the young and old, managing moods... the usual chaos).

He stood in line for the balloon dome and said quietly, trying , “I got zero eggs, mama.”

You heard him. Your son, who seemed a bit overwhelmed himself covering his ears from all the noise, and your little girl, reached into their own baskets and filled my son’s bag.

I watched as kindness bloomed in real time.

You didn’t just hand out chocolate—you gave my son the gift of feeling seen and included. You taught your kids what generosity really looks like.

And for this tired, always-late, sandwich-gen special-needs mom—your gesture meant more than you’ll ever know.

If anyone in the Westshore community knows this lovely family (dad of Grayson?), please tag them or send them our thanks.

This is what #community looks like. 🐣💛

#SandwichGeneration #GlassChild #NeurodivergentMom #MomGuilt #CommunityLove #WestshoreBC #VictoriaMoms #RoyalBayColwood #RealEasterMagic #SmallKindnessBigImpact
She podcasts. She parents. She’s got a 🌶️ She podcasts. 
She parents. 
She’s got a 🌶️ 🧠.
She’s fresh outta burnout mode.
She sips #HappyJ.
And now, with🎙️in hand… she’s streaming on @TELUS @STORYHIVE (because even #actionfigures need a l’il 📺 airtime).

Hey, I’m Deb B., host of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast — a podcast turned video series where we get real about #parenting and #caregiver #burnout, and find joy in the messy middle.

Fueled by my go-to fix-the-gut-fix-the-burnout potion🥤, a l’il bit of tears, and a whole lotta sass, this season brings on the reality of living in the #burnout generation, with guests who will leave you asking yourself “where have they been all my life?”

Because we are DONE glorifying busy.
We’re saying YES to rest.
And HEEEECK YES to finding our joy once again. #INeedMySassBack

Catch the Pod Edition now on TELUS OptikTV Ch 9, Stream+, and on #Storyhive YouTube (Search Storyhive Sass Small Talk) Link on my bio for Episodes 1 & 2.

🦉 Sexy Studio. ✔️ I 👀 @haus.of.owl 
🛋️ Cozy couch. ✔️
🎙️ Good convo. ✔️
🥹 Big feelings. ✔️
🤩 And even bigger lashes. ✔️✔️✔️

LET’S TALK. 

Oh and PS - wanna know how to get your action figure #animated? Follow me, write “SASS”, and let me know what your action figure would be in the comments below and I’ll hook you up. 

#SassAndSmalls #TelusStoryhive #HappyJEnergy #GoodbyeBurnout #SmallTalkBigFeels #actionfigure #barbie #AI #Amare #happyblend #cortisol
When life gives you burnout… do squats. 🍑 In When life gives you burnout… do squats. 🍑

In Episode 2 of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast “Reclaiming Joy of #Parenthood Beyond Burnout”, I take on the ultimate #challenge:
Fitting fitness into my already chaotic #caregiving, #homeschooling, always behind the wheel, #neurodivergent navigating, mom-life schedule. 🧠🎢💪

Add to the mix, a busy 🧠 that thrives on chaos and fun? Why not #gamify? Moms- let’s do the #TriggerWordChallenge!! Every time your kids say (aka “demand”, I mean c’mon now…) “MOM!”, do a squat! In the kitchen, while cleaning, cooking, folding laundry. Just don’t do it driving! #safetyfirst

For this episode, Every time *I* said the word “lash” — yep, I squat. 😅

Joining me is none other than Victoria’s go-to #LashLady, who most would call a client-proclaimed “lash-a-pist” and certified #fitness coach, Emily Bowman @nevaehjade.beautywellness, who’s here to talk #burnout, #beauty, and #body movement. And I’m here to try and master the world’s most chaotic squat routine. 🙃

Side note: Psssst… your girl hasn’t done a squat since before the Pandy of 2020 so this may be nbd to the average person, but it’s quite literally a miracle ⛪️ for 🙋🏻‍♀️. #whateverworks #amIright?

Catch more laughter, squats, Yoga-envy 🧘🏻‍♀️, words of wisdom, and a tear or two…  on the full episode 🎙️NOW STREAMING on a 📺 near you. @Telus OptikTV (search “Storyhive Sass” on Demand), Ch. 9, Stream+ app, @storyhive YouTube

Comment “Squat” if you want the full episode link on @storyhive‘s YouTube. But it’s even more fun on TV, so try that first! We sure are…

#SassAndSmallTalk #SquatGoals #BurnoutAndBootyGains #bunsofsteel #LashLadyTakesOver #NeurodivergentMomLife #CaregiverFitness #SquatWhileYouCan #HomeschoolChaos #MomLifeUnfiltered #VictoriaBC #StoryHive #ReclaimYourJoy #JLoGotNothingOnMe
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