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The Impact of Social Distancing :: Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner

April 5, 2020 By Deb B. 13 Comments

How am I going to get my work done, support my now work-at-home husband, take care of my toddler, and homeschool my reluctant learner child?

The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.comIs it just me, or is the Global Pandemic stay home order throwing all households with kids into a tailspin? A couple weeks ago, I was on my phone feverishly texting with my fellow school mom friends wondering what our province was going to do regarding school closures in the near future. Well – like most other cities in close proximity, our schools have been closed indefinitely. Since this was announced, my IG newsfeed has been flooding with memes ranging from panic to comic relief, centering solely on having kids home full-time… until further notice. On the other end of the spectrum were a handful of parents with a more positive spin on the news – photos of kids sitting at their beautifully manicured desk where they are anticipated to sit nicely for their parents-turned-teachers-overnight. Even the more… ambitious take on this new reality – was often followed immediately by a viral-worthy video of the same parent rapping, if the pandemic isn’t going to do them in – homeschooling will.

Can I tell you a secret?

I have already designed a life with homeschool in mind – years ago. Most of my friends thought I was naive and most thought I was losing my marbles. But hear me out. As difficult as it is to teach my child, she thrives in an environment that is one-on-one. She is better off in one setting instead of transitioning from one to another. And she is literally the hardest person to get out the door. She is a homebody. No matter how you slice it – she is better off at home. When I first flirted with the idea of homeschooling her, I envisioned a life that ran smoothly, with no major transitions, with no bells to beat, traffic to fight against, and mornings that weren’t filled with such hurried anxiety, raised voices, and pressure. So much pressure.

A life at home without all those external forces… well, I basically envisioned this…

The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.comBecause our neighboring school has the most incredible learning resource supports in place, and an amazing match as far as teachers go for my little one, we decided it was the best plan to keep her in school. She is also a relatively low-key kiddo who can easily fly under the radar, so it was important that she was exposed to the abundance of social situations that only school could offer her.

But now… the option to send her to school is no longer there, for the time being. It’s almost like we’ve been given this opportunity to not have to make this decision, as it’s been made for us. Yes, under duress – but I needed to test the waters and see if this was indeed meant for my kiddo, while working at home and caring for her toddler sibling.

The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.comBut here’s the clincher… she’s a reluctant learner.

No need to get into the logistics behind her resistance to learning – what matters essentially, is that it’s not going to be as easy as it sounds to teach a kiddo who is typically very compliant and hard working at school, but a whole different person at home. And I wouldn’t doubt that most kids her age have this uncanny ability to be two different types of people at school and at home.

I mean… to some degree – aren’t we all reluctant learners?

In any event, here are some ways to help a reluctant learner become an engaged one:

START EVERY DAY BELIEVING THEY ARE NOT RESISTANT

I know this is not as easy as it sounds. At 7:45AM everyday since the onset of social distancing, we start the morning with a strong routine and an abundance of willingness. By 9AM, I will have already lost her to a tea party with her Ninjago lego people, and by 10:30AM, I will have already made 10 threats to send her back to school and straight to her principal’s office. Unfortunately, that threat is not only impossible as far as follow through, she, along with the rest of her student body, adores her Principal, so I’m sure she would happily call me on my bluff.

Point is – although you cannot merely “positive mindset” yourself into a day of little to no resistance, it may be worth at least attempting to erase the expectation that you are already defeated by a reluctant learner. I have noticed that on the days that I went in with little to no expectation, and just handled the day as it came – I found I was able to tackle any situation well…

LIKE. A. BOSS.

Expecting them to fail in the eager learning department is likely the best way for them to prove you right. So just go in with little to no expectations of resistance.

…even if there is.

The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.comAnd for the love of all that is good in this world – do NOT forget your coffee.

SET THEM UP FOR SUCCESS – START WITH THE BASICS

In these early weeks of homeschooling, we are not expected to become star educators overnight. Go easy on yourself and your kids and start realistic. You will most likely not have all the resources available, their regular work books, or any semblance of knowledge of where they ended their learning last term. So bookmark any and all of the resources online that offer curriculum support in your district, take in all the links sent to you by fellow anxious eager parents and see if any would work for your reluctant learner (or you), and don’t be afraid to review what they have already learned in previous terms. When you set them up for success and give them the opportunity to prove to themselves that they are going to be okay in their new norm – then you are more likely to see them become more open to learning something new. Here are some great resources that Little Mama‘s amazing teacher sent us. We’ve already dug right in and we’re loving it!

Scholastic Learn at Home

Wide Open School

Free Worksheets for K-5

Oxford Owl For Home

GET THE SUBJECTS OF MOST RESISTANCE OVER WITH WHEN THEY ARE MOST ALERT

Okay – so who wants to start their day off with math? Well… secretly, I do love math, so… <raises hand reluctantly…>. But it makes the most sense to jump on their most optimal learning hours to tackle some of the stuff they would be more likely to resist later on in the day. It doesn’t have to be the first subject (refer to “Set them Up for Success” above), but perhaps consider covering the more difficult topics earlier in the day rather than later. Or if they seem to be more energetic in the late morning or after lunch, than try that time slot. And remember, it’s homeschool – you, as well as your reluctant learner, know that everything is flexible. The point is – a late afternoon jam-packed with the stuff that makes them cringe, is not only going to end your day on a bitter note, it’s going to make this temporary moment in time feel like an eternity. 

So do yourself and your little in-house student a favor, and end things on a light note. There’s enough heavy going on outside your home.  

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The world is your oyster at this point. You are their educator and their parent so you have the ability to decide what environment is best for your kiddo. There are no hard and fast rules. Our school is incredibly progressive and open to all kinds of learning so in any given classroom you will see a stationary bike, a plethora of balance balls, and cozy corners with blankets and pillows. I have taken a page out of their book and implemented some of these strategies to engage my little fidgety student, and it has provided a vast improvement in retaining her attention and focus.

The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.com The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.comReading in a cozy corner together by the fire doesn’t discount learning just because it’s not situated at a standard desk with an uncomfortable chair. Full disclosure, we don’t have a proper desk in our house (we didn’t exactly prepare for a pandemic-induced homeschool situation), so we make do with our kitchen table. Again, our chairs, although fine for a meal or 15 minutes of journal writing, is not equipped to support a child (or their mama) for a long period of time. So we had to get creative. Turns out, moving around the house and creating make-shift stations for learning was the most ideal way to add variety to her day while giving her a much needed brain break.

The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.comSidenote: It is also great for Teacher Mama’s very sore bottom.

CELEBRATE LITTLE WINS

Like all little kids, my Little Mama thrives on some form of praise. I don’t mean, she needs it entirely, but she sure loves it. So why not celebrate with them! Encourage them to be proud of their efforts, proud of making it through that seemingly impossible multiplication worksheet, and proud of sitting in one spot for a solid 10 minutes without interruption. We use curriculum workbooks that has built-in reward systems, otherwise stickers, stamps, tokens used later for bonus screen or video time, or simply an enthusiastic high five is enough to boost their confidence tenfold.

GIVE THEM THE POWER OF CHOICE

Just like being flexible with where they should “do school” at home, giving our little reluctant learners the choice on what to learn or how to learn is just as wonderful for their morale. My daughter likes it when I give her two very clear and appealing options. I would never give her an option that isn’t something I could follow through with, so I often hold back on always having digital learning as one of the choices. Don’t get me wrong – if I could teach her everything online, and leave her literally to her own devices, I would. But I know my kiddo – and too much screen time, whether actual learning takes place or not – seems to affect her mood. So I like to spread out the screen love mindfully throughout any given day. I know she will always opt for online learning, so I leave that choice for the blocks of learning time that she’s not as eager to hold a pencil.

If she were to have it her way, my little aspiring Artist would probably have art class for the entirety of the school day. Sandwiched between recess and Go Noodle dance breaks.

The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.comThis is my little reluctant learner’s happy place – in proper non-reluctant form. Art for Kids Hub is an excellent resource for finding characters that your kiddos will love. It’s no doubt Little Mama gets a resounding A+ on the daily (see “Celebrate Little Wins” above). It’s no wonder directive art (otherwise known as “art class”) is normally top of our tiny Artists’ list of subjects. She is the direct product of two creatives – a Blogger, and Designer. Go figure!

BRING THEM ON VIRTUAL FIELD TRIPS

I was lucky enough to be able to piggy back on one of my friends’ virtual field trips with her class. We learned about the conservation of the ocean and our environment. It was a neat live experience for my daughter and it was even more inspiring to see other kids injecting their thoughts and questions into the experience. We both learned so much in a span of 30 minutes. Up next, is “Orca Week” where we will be learning about our island’s Marine ecosystem. Could I have taught her this with my own limited knowledge of all that is orca? Probably not. So, make life easier for yourself, jump on the virtual bandwagon and add some dimension to your homeschool curriculum. Who would’ve thought teaching science was as simple as picking up the phone and calling your local aquarium learning centre, or clicking on your city’s Observatory website. Home teaching has never been so… user-friendly!

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PLAY GAMES

I actually learned this from an educator. Not all learning opportunities have to be linear and predictable. Some of the best ways for your reluctant learner to absorb information is to learn it in game form. Be it, online or off, games provide that extra motivational piece of an end reward. And no, I don’t let her win (err… all the time).

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For math, we like to do card games or steal pieces from our closet full of board games that are easy to group or sort. For spelling, we play scrabble with our own twist. For some reading games, we give any or all of these a whirl:

Word World Apps & Games

PBS Kids Reading Games

Storyline Online

Read Works

Starfall Education

Squiggle Park Reading Games

SIDE STEP THE POWER STRUGGLE

Can you relate to parenting a child (or children) that are one way at school and the complete opposite at home? I think part of the challenge of homeschool is being able to get and keep our kids’ attention and willingness to learn. Sometimes it becomes a battle that can only be resolved with empty promises and negotiation. I don’t know about you – but I can’t keep fighting (or losing) this battle. It’s draining and counter-productive. It’s far more logical to take a step back and let the power struggle run its course, and surrender to the fact that sometimes my child just doesn’t want to do what she doesn’t want to do. And this goes for my toddler as well. I finally realized, it’s not a parenting fail to actually give in to the realization (and not give in to their demands, OR make them give in to mine) – and to accept that we are just not getting anywhere with the power struggle. So maybe this is the time to stop, take a break, and reconvene at a later time. This is when going outside, or having a bit of a mental or physical break might be the perfect solution to side stepping the power struggle.

Here are some ways to effectively offset the power struggles with your reluctant learner:

  1. Remind them and yourself this isn’t a competition – there is no winner, per se. Ask them ways that they believe can help find a good solution. Provide choices for them and let them ultimately make the choice. 
  2. Is their resistance triggering something familiar in your life? I know for me, I always felt unheard. As the youngest in my family, the shortest in class, and the quietest in my circle – I always felt like I was destined to be on the losing end of the stick. The key is to let go of the notion that your kiddo is a reluctant learner because they don’t respect you. One of the best ways to prevent you from flipping your lid, is the ability to step back and realize that this isn’t about YOU as the parent, or as their teacher, but just your child’s way to get their needs met and their concerns heard. By doing this, you will inadvertently end up on the same team. And that’s all they want. Perhaps… what you may have wanted in your own life. <enter…lightbulb moment> 
  3. Remain neutral – agree that their frustrations or exhaustion is completely understandable. Not saying they’re right or wrong, but that it makes sense they feel the way they do. Use words like: “Hmmm.. you got a point there”, or “that may just be the case”, or “maybe”. And try to avoid the word “… but” and injecting your own views because that will essentially negate the whole remaining neutral thing.
  4. Acknowledge what they’re feeling and model an alternate way to express it.
  5. Empathize with their overwhelm. There may be a ton of things going on here. First, learning in this new norm, as appealing as it seems, might actually be difficult for them since it’s completely foreign. They may also be suppressing some of their fears of the unknown. Here is a great way to teach our kids to process some of these feelings of overwhelm, especially in light of what is happening on a global scale. I found this article on building resiliency for parents and caregivers to help support kids during these uncertain times. And I strongly encourage to talk to your kids honestly (and age-appropriately) about Covid-19. Here is a great resource to help parents and caregivers as they start and continue an open dialogue with their families.

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LET THE OUTDOORS BE THEIR TEACHER

This isn’t a new concept and as luck would have it (if there is any kind of silver lining to be found), we happen to be going through social distancing in the warm spring months. So getting outside, not just to learn through exploration, but just for some fresh air, can only do a body (and brain) some good.

The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.com The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.comSide note: Yes, yes, I know my toddler is on a “leash” – but… like all puppy of sorts, he loves people, crossing streets, and getting his nose into everything. So for his protection and yours… we’re pulling out the leashes! #sorrynotsorry #socialdistancing #itsmycivicduty #besidesitsadorable

REMOVE DISTRACTIONS… ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE CUTE

Part of my reluctant learner’s challenge is that she is absolutely head over heels in love with her baby brother. As he is with her. Don’t get me wrong – they definitely have their moments too. But whether it’s a positive or a negative interaction – it is still distracting to have your in-house littlest hovering over your in-house student. So have a plan B, C – all the way to Z if need be. Time your more “serious” or challenging subjects for when you pull out the big guns that keep the littlest out of your student’s hair. So if that means their favorite learning program on Netflix for 30 minutes – let it be so. For the more independent study, or more flexible subjects – like letting her write in her daily journal, or working on cursive writing, that’s when pulling out a variety of toddler-safe toys could be as effective as it is fun. Just choose your battles wisely.

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SNEAK IN LEARNING TIME IN EVERYDAY OPPORTUNITIES

I can’t stress this enough – while reading out loud or to themselves, cooking & baking (Little Mama’s love language), cleaning, playing, pretending, and simply conversing – learning is taking place. So take some of that pressure off yourself and your reluctant learner, and know that their busy little minds are soaking everything you are throwing at them.

The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.comTRY AN AUDIOBOOK

My kiddo is more of a visual learner, but she never says no to some good storytelling. When my repeated stories about how her dad and I met, or the day she was born gets too repetitive, a wonderful Audible story does the trick. Here are some awesomeAudible stories for kidsthat are free for your little ones’ enjoyment. Gives Mama a chance to sneak in a little me time too.

STOP HOVERING AND START WORKING

This is more for you work-at-home mamas who are trying to find creative ways to sneak in some work while homeschooling. Of course, I wouldn’t encourage you to multi-task unnecessarily – but for those of you who don’t have much choice, there are ways around the system. Having your notebook, smartphone, or computer, or whatever tool you need to keep some “light” work within arms reach, is a lovely way to fill in those gaps. What makes this so great for your child, is that they see you trust them to figure things out for themselves. It also gives them a glimpse of what life would be like working side-by-side with their favorite big person. I notice, when I stop hovering, and give her the space she so needs to learn and grow – she steps it up and puts more effort into what she is doing. Independence for your reluctant worker, means a little free moment for you to answer an email (1 down, 3254 to go!), make some tweaks to your projects, and have a nice long well-deserved sip of your lukewarm coffee.

The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.comDON’T PRETEND YOU KNOW IT ALL

Girlfriend – you don’t. That’s what makes this kind of a beautiful thing. You can actually learn with them. I have been mildly dreading this role as home teacher because I feel like I’m just not equipped to teach. My memory is shot, and my brain is mush on a good day. And don’t even get me started on a life of math without a calculator.

Don’t pretend you know it all. Take what you can get from this experience. You might not have been put on this earth to teach, but you were definitely put on this earth to be this little human’s parent. As such, you can learn from these tiny geniuses too.

I wanted to share with you our sample schedule for home learning as a general guideline of how I am able to integrate work/home/school balance in one household – while chasing a toddler and inspiring a reluctant learner.

The Impact of Social Distancing -- Homeschooling the Reluctant Learner www.sassandsmalls.comDon’t be fooled – we stray.

ALL. THE. TIME. 

But we stay on track that much more. So try scheduling your day with all the team players in mind. As rigid as it looks – it is actually very freeing. Trust me – knowing what’s next, and making good use of your day not only helps your reluctant learner, but it also helps you, as the reluctant teacher mama, get the job done. So you can finally get YOUR job done. Even if your job at 9:30pm is to catch up on some much-deserved Netflix binging. When your schedule gives you 3+ hours of me time… who needs stickers??

How was your first day of homeschooling? Is it as intimidating as you had feared, or as easy as you thought?

Mama… you can do this. 

Deb B. www.sassandsmalls.com

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For more inspo and ideas on Homeschooling, balancing multiple kids, and working from home – be sure to visit our dear friends at The Koala Mom. Bonnie continues to amaze me as a rockstar author and work-at-home Mama,  homeschooling her 5 beautiful kids, chasing her adorable little toddler around, while raising her family in faith. 

**A special and humble “thank you” for all the essential workers that are on the front lines of this global pandemic. You are showing up, so we can stay home and be safe. Stay well, stay safe, and God speed

Filed Under: Perfection in the Imperfection, quarantine chronicles, Sass & Smalls gets real, the everyday Tagged With: Baby, covid 19, distance learning, family, global pandemic, homeschool, impact, kids, learner, mom life, mother, online, quarantine, reluctant learner, schedule, School, school age, self isolation, Social distancing, Toddler, virtual learning, WAHM, work from home

About Deb B.

Deb Balino is the voice behind Sass & Smalls, host of the newly launched Podcast - Sass & Small Talk, and a mom of two - an artistic and quirky 11-year-old, and an outspoken, homewrecking, retro music loving, 4-year-old. A décor and style enthusiast, as well as a home systems hack creator, with a mildly concerning obsession of all things "bin-worthy", Deb enjoys sharing products, experiences, progressive ideas, and simple shifts in mindset that has helped her family navigate the beautiful chaos of parenting. Deb is also a homeschool teacher, partially by choice, partially pandemic-inspired, while advocating and caring for her parents as an active member of the Sandwich Generation. With vulnerability, and a dash of humour - she shares the reality of her world, all while keeping things as sassy as they once were before the drool, meltdowns, and potty mishaps entered the picture.

Her creative ideas, lengthy storytelling, and everyday musings have been featured on Huffington Post, Yahoo Style, BBC News, and YMC.CA

Comments

  1. Raina says

    April 7, 2020 at 1:41 pm

    Such great tips! We are taking it day by day. Setting them up for success with a good work space has been key for us!
    Reply
  2. Nadalie Bardo says

    April 7, 2020 at 4:04 pm

    It’s a whole new world with new challenges for kids and parents. So great that you’re finding a way to work with it and get some learning in at home.
    Reply
  3. Rachel Loza says

    April 7, 2020 at 7:25 pm

    We are definitely creating little wins in this situation. It’s such a struggle. My 7 -y-old was SO into school and socializing and now he has to be home 24/7 with his two little sisters!
    Reply
  4. Christa says

    April 7, 2020 at 9:16 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story and so many helpful resources. It’s been a difficult few weeks for many reasons but I’m going to try some of these suggestions.
    Reply
  5. Peachy @ The Peach Kitchen says

    April 8, 2020 at 1:38 pm

    We are a bit fortunate that this lockdown’s timing are my kids Summer vacation. I don’t know about the next school year, though.
    Reply
  6. Shayla Marie says

    April 9, 2020 at 6:59 am

    Lovely post! You’ve got this! I’ve been a homeschool mom from the start, 10 years and counting. Let me know if there is anything I can do to support you through if you need that!
    Reply
  7. Marysa says

    April 9, 2020 at 9:40 am

    It sounds like you have a good system worked out for homeschooling. My daughter was struggling in school because of the class in general; she wasn’t getting what she needed. I am trying to make a healthy home school life for her now. I’ll have to use some of your ideas.
    Reply
  8. Sarah says

    April 9, 2020 at 10:38 am

    It can definitely be hard to have such a drastic change in your learning environment.
    Reply
  9. Monica says

    April 9, 2020 at 1:21 pm

    Mornings are best to get work done. I think we are settling into a good routine. It’s been a learning curve for sure.
    Reply
  10. Laura says

    April 10, 2020 at 1:25 am

    This is such a great post and so important to share now. We have been homeschooling for over a year and it took us ages to adjust – but now parents don’t have the luxury of that time to adjust! it is tough
    Reply
  11. vidya says

    April 12, 2020 at 1:12 pm

    such a detailed post and love the pics as well
    Reply
  12. Aliya says

    April 13, 2020 at 12:23 pm

    Homeschooling my preschooler has been and adjustment. I use to teaching her the fundamentals during the summer. But, teaching her lesson, lesson plans has been different. Thanks for sharing.
    Reply
  13. Surabhi says

    April 27, 2020 at 3:42 am

    Very informative! Need of the hour
    Reply

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And now, with🎙️in hand… she’s streaming on @TELUS @STORYHIVE (because even #actionfigures need a l’il 📺 airtime).

Hey, I’m Deb B., host of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast — a podcast turned video series where we get real about #parenting and #caregiver #burnout, and find joy in the messy middle.

Fueled by my go-to fix-the-gut-fix-the-burnout potion🥤, a l’il bit of tears, and a whole lotta sass, this season brings on the reality of living in the #burnout generation, with guests who will leave you asking yourself “where have they been all my life?”

Because we are DONE glorifying busy.
We’re saying YES to rest.
And HEEEECK YES to finding our joy once again. #INeedMySassBack

Catch the Pod Edition now on TELUS OptikTV Ch 9, Stream+, and on #Storyhive YouTube (Search Storyhive Sass Small Talk) Link on my bio for Episodes 1 & 2.

🦉 Sexy Studio. ✔️ I 👀 @haus.of.owl 
🛋️ Cozy couch. ✔️
🎙️ Good convo. ✔️
🥹 Big feelings. ✔️
🤩 And even bigger lashes. ✔️✔️✔️

LET’S TALK. 

Oh and PS - wanna know how to get your action figure #animated? Follow me, write “SASS”, and let me know what your action figure would be in the comments below and I’ll hook you up. 

#SassAndSmalls #TelusStoryhive #HappyJEnergy #GoodbyeBurnout #SmallTalkBigFeels #actionfigure #barbie #AI #Amare #happyblend #cortisol
When life gives you burnout… do squats. 🍑 In When life gives you burnout… do squats. 🍑

In Episode 2 of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast “Reclaiming Joy of #Parenthood Beyond Burnout”, I take on the ultimate #challenge:
Fitting fitness into my already chaotic #caregiving, #homeschooling, always behind the wheel, #neurodivergent navigating, mom-life schedule. 🧠🎢💪

Add to the mix, a busy 🧠 that thrives on chaos and fun? Why not #gamify? Moms- let’s do the #TriggerWordChallenge!! Every time your kids say (aka “demand”, I mean c’mon now…) “MOM!”, do a squat! In the kitchen, while cleaning, cooking, folding laundry. Just don’t do it driving! #safetyfirst

For this episode, Every time *I* said the word “lash” — yep, I squat. 😅

Joining me is none other than Victoria’s go-to #LashLady, who most would call a client-proclaimed “lash-a-pist” and certified #fitness coach, Emily Bowman @nevaehjade.beautywellness, who’s here to talk #burnout, #beauty, and #body movement. And I’m here to try and master the world’s most chaotic squat routine. 🙃

Side note: Psssst… your girl hasn’t done a squat since before the Pandy of 2020 so this may be nbd to the average person, but it’s quite literally a miracle ⛪️ for 🙋🏻‍♀️. #whateverworks #amIright?

Catch more laughter, squats, Yoga-envy 🧘🏻‍♀️, words of wisdom, and a tear or two…  on the full episode 🎙️NOW STREAMING on a 📺 near you. @Telus OptikTV (search “Storyhive Sass” on Demand), Ch. 9, Stream+ app, @storyhive YouTube

Comment “Squat” if you want the full episode link on @storyhive‘s YouTube. But it’s even more fun on TV, so try that first! We sure are…

#SassAndSmallTalk #SquatGoals #BurnoutAndBootyGains #bunsofsteel #LashLadyTakesOver #NeurodivergentMomLife #CaregiverFitness #SquatWhileYouCan #HomeschoolChaos #MomLifeUnfiltered #VictoriaBC #StoryHive #ReclaimYourJoy #JLoGotNothingOnMe
The PREMIERE episode is now LIVE on a 📺 near yo The PREMIERE episode is now LIVE on a 📺 near you!

SASS & SMALL TALK “Reclaiming the Joy of Parenthood, Beyond Burnout” is NOW STREAMING on @TELUS OptikTV, Ch. 9, Stream+, and @storyhive. 

“Join Deb and local lifestyle creator and entrepreneur, Natasha Mills of @mommamillsblog. Natasha reveals her bold shift from a successful corporate career to building a personal brand from home, striving for family balance while advocating for her community in Victoria, BC. Will this new path bring the joy she seeks, or will it come with its own set of challenges and #burnout? Tune in for an inspiring discussion on making a #careerpivot, finding purpose, and evolving as a recovering high achiever.”

Recorded & Produced @haus.of.owl @nikkye_music @jakerfilms @eric.thebald @remy.is.remy @hoelune 

@sassandsmalltalkpodcast is made possible with the support from TELUS STORYHIVE, and is available for free on
TELUS Optik TV, CH.9, and Stream+

#watchlocal #SassAndSmallTalk #ParenthoodUnfiltered #MomBurnout  #ParentingPodcast #StoryHive #VictoriaBC #MentalWellnessMatters #twinmom #momprenuer #burnoutrecovery #twinfamily
Calling in the troops. 🫠🔥 Because burnout is Calling in the troops. 🫠🔥
Because burnout is real—and so is the comeback.

Meet the incredible guests of the debut Season on TELUS StoryHive of “Sass & Small Talk: Reclaiming the Joy of Parenthood Beyond Burnout” 🎙️

After years of #caregiving, #homeschooling, and navigating life in a #neurodivergent family… I hit a wall. 

Hello, #Burnout. 👋 

But thanks to @telus and the @storyhive Video Podcast Program, I sat down with fellow parents, experts, and some of the most resilient humans right here in Victoria, BC to have the conversations we ALL need.

Together, we talk burnout, grief, the mental load of parenting, partnership, career pivots, and what it really takes to reclaim joy and purpose in the thick of #parenting and caregiving. 

Made in the community. For the community. 

📍Filmed at: @hausofowl
🎤 Featuring:
@mommamillsblog @nevaehjade.beautywellness @glowjar_ 
@truedad.community 
@minimaggie 
@sacred_advantage 
@sarjo08 
@scarletjaxen

Episodes 1 & 2 NOW streaming on TELUS OptikTV Ch. 9, Stream+, Storyhive YouTube. One episode drop every Tuesday until May 20th. 

This is for the #caregivers. The #sandwichgen. #Parents rebuilding from burnout with community, courage, and a whole lotta sass. 💬

#CallingInTheTroops
#SassAndSmallTalk #ParenthoodUnfiltered #CaregiverBurnout #NeurodivergentFamily #MomBurnout #ReclaimYourJoy #ParentingPodcast #StoryHive #VictoriaBC #MentalWellnessMatters 
#watchLocalTV
AUTISTIC BURNOUT :: Did you know there was such a AUTISTIC BURNOUT :: Did you know there was such a thing?

Me Neither! 

But it sure helped me understand my #neurdodivergent not-so-baby teen daughter who has been in #burnout mode for years. Gaining understanding of this aspect of burnout helps us find ways to cope when it creeps up on us as parents - and especially for our children. 

Here’s a #behindthescenes look of my talk on @sassandsmalltalkpodcast filmed at the amazing creative studios of @haus.of.owl with @kkayjudas at @sacred_advantage. She is our wonderful guest and a dear friend (and incredible advocate for my daughter specifically), who shares insight and personal experience on #autisticburnout in this raw and honest interview about how she navigated (continues to navigate) life on the spectrum especially during burnout. I may or may not have shed a tear… or 10… 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tune in on @telus OptikTV Channel 9, stream+ on MAY 6th, and @storyhive YouTube on May 27th  to watch this compelling episode. 

And giving extra love to my beautiful and talented daughter who fine tuned the edit of this video! How blessed am I to be the mama of this creative young lady. Now gimme my phone back!!! 🤨

Have you or a loved one experienced Autistic Burnout?
Behind every #sandwichgeneration #entrepreneural # Behind every #sandwichgeneration #entrepreneural #homeschool #mom with #ADHD and #spicy kids, is: 
• a floor filled with painful-to-step-on toys and crafts
• Sniffly kiddos every few weeks 
• nothing crossed off her to-do list
• hundreds of unanswered texts/emails
• and a #mentalload sometimes too overwhelming to carry 

But unlike all the other gloomy seasons I’ve experienced this tough season, I have never felt such peace. 

WHY: 

• I have been walking through my #faithjourney with George and it’s been giving me a different outlook on everything life has thrown our way. My sistas in faith have kept us afloat this tough season @esther.driver @caarly.xo @lishgarv @nicoleacaldwell 

• I have been intentional on fixing my #guthealth, #cortisollevels, and #cognitivefunction with my daily #HJ #happy blend drink, and it has done wonders to my #mentalwellness  and overall health. <DM me for more info on this game changer drink>.

• I’ve been learning to just live in the moment and not be so caught up with doing EVERYTHING all at once. 

• I’m surrounding myself (albeit virtually and in spirit) with some of my chosen fam who probably get the most neglect of all, but still give me grace while I clumsily navigate this crazy season @nengineermom @rahannavu  @iamharpsra 
@m_stiggity 
@jenny_p1987  @westislanddesigns @kkayjudas @teacuphuman09 @i_am_miss_jen @swanny80 @trishita_namagita 

• Even though my business relies heavily on my #online presence, I’m giving myself grace for fully immersing myself in the needs of my family this last month I’ve been MIA. I know I can pick up where I left off, and lean on my mentors & biz sistas to pull me out of the seasonal funk @caitoaks @mommamillsblog, @happybalancemama @sweetmamalifedaily, and get back on track. 

Busy, overwhelmed mama… I see you. This is just a season. Do what you need to do, especially for you and your loved ones. Everything will still be there ready for you to “tackle” when you’re ready. 

And what losing two loved ones these last couple weeks has taught me - we’re only here temporarily. Spend your time earthside doing what you love, and loving who you love. @gjavier5 ❤️
No amount of “juice” can lessen the exposure t No amount of “juice” can lessen the exposure to elementary school winter bugs, but it sure came in handy when we need it IN & OUT of our household. 

Especially since I have elderly under my care. 

It skipped George and I entirely - but it definitely hit our two little ones, as bugs do. 

After a nice, tall glass of kid’s #HJ (mixed with some mango edge+ for my bigger and pickier smallie) - along with a nice snuggly nap - the symptoms were way less vicious than previous colds, and gone by the time I blended them their dose the next morning. 

It’s not some miracle drink with empty promises - it’s just ALL the good stuff in a glass. 

DM me if you want a sip for yourself or your sniffly kiddos. I’m telling you, our overall health and wellness as a family, has improved, since focusing on our #guthealth.

There is no price too high to pay for overall #wellness.

#happyblend #amare #fluseason
Impromptu check-in with my girl, Nicole from @happ Impromptu check-in with my girl, Nicole from @happybalancemama talking about all things #Amare. The reality behind #burnout,  #mentalwellness, finding our way through the everyday challenges and #mentalload of #motherhood, and how both of our lives have SHIFTED dramatically since starting our journey with fixing our #guthealth. 

#happyblend #juice #GBX #gutbrainconnection #gutbrainaxis #gutbrainhealth #gutbrain #motherhood #overwhelm
C O R T I S O L :: If you’re anything like me, y C O R T I S O L :: If you’re anything like me, you’ve tried to amp up in overall wellness - doing ALL the things…  and nothing worked 🪀🪀🪀🪀🪀 

ME THEN:(4.5 mnths + 4 decades ago)

• Cortisol levels out of control 
• Made self-sabotaging choices 
 • giving into sugar cravings
 • staying up all night doom 
  scrolling & researching 
  how to “fix” my life/kids/home 
  leading to #burnout
• Poor time management
• Emotionally charged and reactive due to poor quality sleep 

• What REALLY needed the most help - was my GUT. <ENTER #HJ #Amare #cortisolcontrol>

ME NOW: 

• Boost in: mood, motivation, metabolism, energy
• reduced bloating and inflammation
• Cravings gone, due to regulated blood sugar
• #cortisol #puffyface gone
• Better quality and DEEPER sleep
• Balanced hormones
• Improved cognitive function and no brain fog

** ADDED BONUS: A more organized home 
** DOUBLE ADDED BONUS: I’m the best mom I have ever been for my kiddos: ⬇️ reactive, ⬆️stress resilience

✨✨What I’m doing 👇🏼✨✨

• I mixed these two (or three) very simple supplements (EASY for my busy brain)
• First Supplement: Mood/Motivation/Metabolism - decreased bloating 
• Second supplement: Balanced hormones & mental wellness, improved skin, deeper sleep

2025 - I’m here for ya. BRING. IT. ON.

Comment CORTISOL OR just DM me, and I’ll send you more info and a link! 🥳
LIVE:: Sass & Small Chats with my girl Nicole @hap LIVE:: Sass & Small Chats with my girl Nicole @happybalancemama, before Mama Duty calls!  Chatting all things “Happy Blend”. We’ll do another spontaneous Live 2.0 when it’s not so nice outside!! For now - here’s a little bit of my personal experience with the Happy Blend  and how it’s made major shifts in mine and my family’s lives.  #30DayMentalwellnesschallenge
G R I N C H :: Just over here dreaming of a #green G R I N C H :: Just over here dreaming of a #greenChristmas when the kids and I had more time, energy, and gumption to do community deliveries to our local heroes. 

Since the #Pandemic, this little tradition of ours have stopped but our gratitude remains. @saanichpolice @saanichfiredepartment, Victoria Fertility Clinic, Sherwood Dental, and some of our buds who held our hands through our #grief and #fertility journey. 

Sigh. Was fun while it lasted. 

Thank you @dee_monster_girl @adammessana  @fiendwithoutaface87 for the inspo.

#throwback #grinch #Christmas
#NationalFamilyCaregiversMonth #november P I N K #NationalFamilyCaregiversMonth #november 

P I N K :: I recently learned that flamingos lose their pink when caring for others (notably, mom flamingos) —and I felt that deeply this past year. When my sweet elderly Mama had an unfortunate fall, resulting in emergency surgery, an extended hospital stay, and complete dependence on full time care, I was torn between moving in and being there for her full-time, caring for my sick kids and husband, homeschooling, and managing my business. 

I lost my pink.

Everything else—work, plans, even my son’s birthday—had to wait. Our home was a mess, appointments were missed, mistakes were made, friendships were tested, and the mental load was heavy. But nothing compared to watching my once strong Mama feel powerless as she leaned into the support she needed but once resisted.

My Mom lost her pink. 

It was a season of sacrifice, but now returning the equipment, that helped with her recovery, is a moment I’ll never forget.  I can now see from a clear lens, that working together as a family (my own family, my brother’s, my parents), we made it through, with the power of faith, a supportive community and amazing and understanding friends, love, and especially prayer.

It feels so good to stand back and see the full picture. And best of all… 

Both my Mama and I got our pink back.

@redcrosscanada 

#Caregiving #FamilyFirst #Gratitude #FlamingoFeels #FaithAndFamily
M A G G I E :: 🎉 Some #BTS #onthepod @sassandsm M A G G I E :: 🎉 Some #BTS #onthepod @sassandsmalltalkpodcast with my long lost twin and the hilariously brilliant MAGGIE of @thecatmompodcast ! We’re diving deep into life with a #SpicyBrain 🧠, talking all things #ADHD, and how she’s been navigating motherhood, chaos, and #burnout like the absolute rockstar she is. 💥

🎂 Oh, and did I mention it’s her #BIRTHDAY today?! 🎈 Be sure to give @minimaggie ALL the love in the comments! 🥳👇🏻

This episode, filmed at @haus.of.owl, is packed with so much relatable insight (and laughter... SO. MUCH. LAUGHTER 😂). Catch it #comingsoon #2025 on @TELUS OptikTV @storyhive! You won’t want to miss this one. 💬🎙️

Life just got a little more interesting @gjavier5 @ianshockeycards. Our apologies in advance… #doubletrouble 👭🏻
MY. FAM. IS. THRIVING. That is all. DM (and Fo MY. FAM. IS. THRIVING. 

That is all. 

DM (and Follow me) for deets on this amazing EASY 30sec Wellness supplement (and other #Amare Go-tos) that has elevated this family from shaking things up in the gut (bye 💩 probs), to clearing things up in the 🧠 (Wait - they actually WANT to learn? 🤯) … NOTHING ELSE has worked THIS GOOD for this family of Neuro-Ds. 

It’s not just some magic fix. 
It’s au naturale. Backed by science.
It’s #guthealth.
It’s #cognitivefunction.
Down to the cellular level.

✨ Sidenote: “Thriving” doesn’t mean, perfect, always happy, or that everyone is ALWAYS on the same page. 

That would just be weird. 

It means: 
• our target areas of concern (individually) are being addressed. 
• less chaos, more peace. 
• less reactive, less defensive
• more motivation, less resistance

We’re all collectively on our way to overall physical and mental wellness. 

And the best part is - all the kids care about is that it tastes darrrrrrrrn good. 

So what are you waiting for?
C O N N E C T I O N :: Now that George and I are b C O N N E C T I O N :: Now that George and I are both focusing on our COLLECTIVE #cortisolbalance - both our relationship and our kids benefit from these changes: 

• no longer reactive (to each other/kids)
• more playful with the kids, no longer irritable 
• have the #mentalclarity to pause and let each other have a say
• more well-rested - due to resisting #sleeprevenge (guys, I actually WANT to sleep now!! WHAT!??) 
• less overwhelm by everyday stressors
• tackle to-dos faster, together - procrastination completely not our thing anymore

** And the best and most shocking of them all… I am no longer impulsive with needless, emotional-spending, and that alone is a 🎁 for George! 

So many men and women in our age group are struggling like we were, only a few months ago.

This healthy cortisol mocktail is a daily favorite, takes 30 seconds to make, and is filled with adaptogens and healthy ingredients!

Comment CORTISOL and I’ll send you what we’ve been using to get to the bottom of our cortisol issues. WITH a $10 discount + 10% savings. 

✨ follow me for more simple tips for cortisol, weight, sleep, and stress for mamas and our partners too!

✨ Make sure you are following me to get the DM!

P. S. my husband prioritizes my daily intake as much as his own because we both know - “Happy wifey, easier Lifey” 😂☺️
P A R T N E R S H I P :: Our live discussion with P A R T N E R S H I P :: Our live discussion with Graham Meckling, Author, Coach, Educator, Community builder - as he launches his amazing and groundbreaking Online community at @truedad.community.

With focus on building the foundation as a team/partnership/family even PRIOR to becoming one, and how it’s a complete Gamechanger when faced with the reality of parenting in the coming years. 

Be sure to share this with any new parents-to-be who might need this resource - a sibling, a friend, a coworker, a distant cousin who you only seem to know on IG - we all know someone who might feel a little lost as they navigate this new chapter in their lives. This is not your everyday community - so grab a spot and find the community you never really know you needed! 

Seasoned parents - Graham’s book “Babies Don’t talk” has wonderful insights that are just as applicable to any stage of parenting as it is for the new parent - so GRAB YOUR COPY! I did and George and I ate it right up!
Found her. • • And right behind this once #b Found her. 
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And right behind this once #burntout #Mama, finding her way back into her element again, sass-inclusive, are these #behindthescenes (behind the camera/desk/computer/headphones) MIRACLE WORKERS at @hausofowl. I have so much love for you guys. Thank you. 

@nikkye_music 
@hoelune 
@remy.is.remy 
@jakerfilms 

Not seen here but will pop up here and there as I catch them in action 🤞🏼 hint hint): @laaain_music @eric.thebald 

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And none of this would’ve even been a thang if it weren’t for the Video Podcast Grant Program with @telus @storyhive. Life changing is an understatement. Thank you @made.by.donny & @thereallindakee for encouraging your girl to take the plunge with @sassandsmalltalkpodcast 

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And the energy and gumption to keep me resilient, and in tip top shape to host my own show, and lead my own project - kudos to my girl @mommamillsblog who introduced me to the very #cortisoldrink I needed to amp up. And @caitoaks who also reminds me I got this. My gut and brain thank you both. #bestteamever

And my love, @gjavier5 - I’m doing this not just for me but for us and our little peeps. Thank you for leading the cheering squad and “assisting”
me when I need it most. Hope to make you guys proud. ❤️ 

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Moral of the story, in getting that dang SASS back: 
✨ Take Risks
✨ Get your gut health in check 🥤
✨ Find your peeps 
✨ Tell them how awesome they are

DM me, watch my stories, click on my bio links if you want in on any of this good stuff! 🥤 + 🎙️ + 💰📺

✨Be sure to give a little ❤️ to my 13 year old Smallie who helped me level up with this reel with her magic touch. #ASD #autism #thisishomeschool #homeschooler #mygirl #techgirl #daughter
I’m 1/2 a century, baby. #HappyBirthday to me, i I’m 1/2 a century, baby. #HappyBirthday to me, indeed.
#thisisme

And life just got a little sweeter. 

It’s not some secret recipe, or some overcomplicated skin regimen. 

It’s #faith
Motivation
The want
The humility to accept help
The unconditional love from family
Learning to say no to the wrong, and yes to the right. 

I took a chance on ME a few months ago, and since then, have seen a shift in myself.

I dreaded this #milestonebirthday for the last 10 years. I dreaded ESPECIALLY, being transparent to ANYONE… even my own kids. 

But it dawned on me. 

(With the help of my fellow #hypewoman gals that gave me the gentle nudge to OWN my age, not hide it) @sweetmamalifedaily  @nengineermom @mommamillsblog  @caitoaks  @lilkeez @iamharpsra  @rahannavu @mstiggity

Why hide it? 
What am I scared of? 

I DID IT!

I hit 1/2 a century, I survived 9 brutal pregnancy losses, and held one of them in my arms. I looked death in the eye, and through prayer and community - I came out of it alive and kicking. AND thriving.

It wasn’t my time. I still have work to do here. 

But even with these life altering moments in my life, I STILL:
• made bad health choices
• stretched myself to max capacity
• said YES to things that stifled my growth.
• said NO to hard things that meant growth
• lived in debilitating fear, daily
• allowed my #adhd to paralyze, not enhance my life
• had horrible boundaries… correction… I had no boundaries 

It took 50 years, (3 months ago, to be exact), but I found exactly what I needed: 
• A deeper connection with God
• Gratitude
• A go-to, easy #cortisol #drink that balances out those darn hormones, and targets my #Mentalwellness #HJ 
• Forgiveness and freedom from past hurts 
• An awesome studio to do my craft @haus.of.owl
• A killer program that funds said craft @Telus @storyhive 
• A loving approach #wifey, #specialneeds Mama & #caregiver Daughter
• Self Compassion
• And the GUMPTION to follow (FIX) my Gut. 

Thank you to those who remembered when I chose to forget, that turning 50 is a blessing, not a curse. 

DM me or comment 50 if you want in on this big secret.
✨ I N S I D E * O U T ✨ :: If you wanna see ho ✨ I N S I D E * O U T ✨ :: If you wanna see how HAPPY J blend has made a difference for me, and coincidentally - the family - take a look at our Behind the scenes of this year’s Inside Out FAM-O-WEEN —an honest, messy, and very real snapshot of our year. 2024 was a DOOZY. 

From frustration, to resistance, to acceptance, to finding Joy again (with a DAILY DOSE of HAPPY J and a whoooooole lotta Jesus) - each character felt like a reflection of this year’s whirlwind of emotions. It’s been a time of big decisions, finding our footing, embracing transitions, more sleepless nights,  a diagnosis we’ve been waiting a decade for, falls, accidents, sickness - the whole shebang of emotions. 

And then #anxiety reared its ugly head.  In full force. 

But, alongside family and close friends, Faith, and some yummy sips of a healthy supplement, carried us through. 

In a year that stretched us to our limits, this shoot felt like the perfect way to honour all the “inside out” moments we’ve faced. So here’s to the messy, the joyful, and even the challenging times that shape who we are. From deep #burnout and anxiety to discovering our faith and mental wellness, I’m stepping into the next chapter with a full heart and maybe a few more laughs (even if I’m a year older 😉).

Here’s to growth, gratitude, and whatever’s next. #FamOWeen2024 #InsideOutLife #EmotionalYear #insideout #FindingJoy #Milestonebirthday
#NewChapter #amare #happyblend #hj #happyjuice

Music - AndreaDatzman, 
BENJIxScarlett, TheeOnlyJanessahhh
E M O T I O N S :: #HAPPYHALLOWEEN #FAMOWEEN editi E M O T I O N S :: #HAPPYHALLOWEEN #FAMOWEEN edition! 

2024 has been quite the year of change for us all. Emotions have been all over the map!
• #Caregiving has been amped up with unexpected falls and hospital stays 
• Our little not so little teen is on her last year of Middle school #homeschool version - not so easy but hey, surviving. #Disgust
• Our little guy cut his once curly locks and became a little man overnight - no tears except a very #sad dad who suffered from FOMO #Anger
• George also cut his hair that was once down to his waist. He was ready to let go of the weight of the world literally on his shoulders.
• I got selected for a wonderful @TELUS @Storyhive project to do a broadcast version of my #podcast and got my Juju back #happytears
• and yes… I found the perfect match for me to deal with my very neglected #guthealth, and yes… it’s a Gamechanger that has been behind the true shift in my mental health, productivity, and my road to a better me. Hence, “Happy” #Joy. #happyjuice

All these emotions check out. #insideOut we have thrived and survived. 

Happy Halloween!
S N E A K * P E E K :: I’m so excited to share a S N E A K * P E E K :: I’m so excited to share a little sneak peek of @theoutpostboardgamecafe, our good friend’s soon-to-be-opened #boardgame café, right here in the #Westshore 🎲🎲. The ONLY ONE of its kind in THIS part of town!! 🎉🎉We’ve ALL been waiting for this… 

Mamas… I’m looking at you… 👀

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It’s been amazing watching this space come together - already such a fun vibe and a cozy spot to hang out, play some games, and connect with friends. And I already got my #gameschool curriculum ready to go for my #homeschooler (and her game lovin’ mama-teacher 🙋🏻‍♀️) to enjoy. And of course date nights with my guy and girls night with my ladies!! 

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They’re getting so close to opening, and I can’t wait for everyone to experience it in person!! 

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Be sure to SHARE THIS POST AND SPREAD THE WORD - #Grandopening is Nov 1st!! 🎗️✂️ Stay tuned for more updates—it’s going to be a game-changer! 😉 

#TheOutpostCafe #supportlocal #supportsmallbusiness #supportlocalbusiness #YYJ #vancouverisland #Victoria #langford #boredombuster #family
F E A R L E S S :: Becoming a mom changed me, and F E A R L E S S :: Becoming a mom changed me, and along the way, my confidence started to slip. The bold, carefree version of me was replaced by someone who worried about the little things—like making a simple left turn onto a highway (with nothing but a stop sign and a prayer).

For years, I avoided that turn. I’d ask trusted adults to drive my kid for these once a year field trips, while I anxiously waited for updates. Sometimes, if I couldn’t arrange a ride, I’d keep her home. No amount of spawning salmon is worth my sanity.

It sounds trivial to the average person, but that turn felt like a mountain I couldn’t climb - for 12 years!!! A really winding, single lane, high speed, intolerant and unforgiving mountain to climb.

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Enter my Happy Blend Morning supplement.

After a few weeks of working on my gut health and balancing hormones, including cortisol, I feel lighter—mentally and emotionally. The anxiety that used to grip me just… doesn’t anymore.

Something in me felt COMPELLED to make that turn. It was my actual, nurtured, gut telling me to not take the backroad out (which is 3 times the distance), and it felt like freedom. 

I’ve learned it’s not just about turning left on a highway; it’s about letting go of fear and no longer caring what others think. My people-pleasing feature was activated as I approached the turn - worrying about the driver behind me, but now, I prioritize what’s best for me and my loved ones. And what’s best for my loved ones is that they get the chance to enjoy an educational experience, without my anxious brain standing in the way.

I am mentally clear, more logical, and becoming resilient where stress once controlled me. I’m ME again, free from imbalanced hormones, and the fear of inconveniencing others.

If this resonates with you, drop “FEARLESS” in the comments, and I’ll share what I’ve been using to get here. You’re not alone. #MomLife
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