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Happy BIRTH – Day to our Sweet Tory. Celebrating a Tiny Miracle.

June 10, 2013 By Deb B. 38 Comments

Tory and Kevin Going for a Walk

40 weeks ago, from this very day, a tiny miracle happened.  Her name was Tory.  She was to be my second born.  She was a miracle from the onset because despite us being told many times over that it was going to be impossible to conceive without assistance, we beat the odds.  We got pregnant.  And this time, she was, what we like to call – our unexpected surprise.  It was the very reason we named her Victoria. In so many ways – it was somewhat of a victory – knowing that through faith, perseverance, and plain ol’ stubbornness – we were going to keep trying until we succeeded.  And we did.

But let’s turn the clocks back a bit.  Prior to 40 weeks ago, we already had a miracle.  She’s the reason I am who I am, I do what I do, and hope to be what I can potentially be.  LD is my miracle. As soon as we introduced LD to the world 2 years ago, we knew we were in for an amazing adventure.  Our lives were flipped upside down, and as a family, we took risks, jumped hoops, and reached for the impossible – just so we could find a better life for our precious little girl.  You can say we are wrapped around her chubby little finger.  All we did… we did for her. Among these changes was leaving a life we knew so well. Ruffling the feathers of familiarity, leaving the very place we called home, and making our way across the continent building our brand and coming up with something tangible so we could make our little miracle proud. We travelled, hopping from couch to couch, taking all our experiences along the way and carefully folding them up and tucking them away into our back pockets.  We did all we could to eventually bring security to our family of three (4, if you count our jetsetting Pomeranian).

We were definitely on our way to a brighter day – but it didn’t come without its share of bumps and bruises. From days of unrelenting tension, sleepless nights tossing and turning – our minds filled with uncertainty, and a severe bout of depression on my end. But what surprised us more than our own feelings of hopelessness and worry – was the smile that greeted us every morning from our sweet toddler, blissfully enjoying these adventures of the unknown, ignorant of the unsettling panic that drove the very people responsible for her well-being.

Unbeknownst to us, this period of 4.5 months involved another human being. Yet another innocent bystander who knew nothing of the struggle, and just enjoyed the ride as our family bounced from situation to situation, in search of greener pastures.  When we finally settled down after months of travel and an emotional rollercoaster that we just could not jump out of – we made an appointment with the doctor.  To our amazement – we found out that we were pregnant.  Approaching our 5th month, and well into our second trimester (keep in mind – for reasons I need not bore you with, ovulation is not an every month occurrence, as far as I have been diagnosed) – we were delighted to welcome a new little jetsetter into our family.

However, after a week of blood tests, back to back appointments, and our first ultrasound – we discovered the tragic news that in the last 6 weeks, I have been carrying a fetus that no longer had a heartbeat.  If it was possible for us to feel any lower than we already did – this was that moment.  It was the final kick in the gut that knocked us right out. And this time – we didn’t want to get up and try again.  Losing a baby at 20 weeks, with the heartbreaking news that I have been carrying her weeks past the end of her life, isn’t something I ever would have imagined experiencing first hand. It was like this entire half year was just a bad dream.

But after the D&C procedure, I woke up from that bad dream.  Within a couple weeks, the depression eased (turns out it was almost entirely hormone-related), and I was starting to see the light at the end of this dark, lonely tunnel.  I started to respond to LD‘s sweet smiles and giggles again, and would even surprise myself with accompanying laughter.  And after doing some math, I had realized that my darling baby went to heaven the very same weekend the sweet angels of Sandy Hook, whose lives were ended far too quickly, entered the gates of heaven.

I came across this poem dedicated to the young victims of Sandy Hook, written flawlessly by Cameo Smith, Mt. Wolf, PA:

Twas’ 11 days before Christmas, around 9:38

when 20 beautiful children stormed through heaven’s gate.

their smiles were contagious, their laughter filled the air.

They could hardly believe all the beauty they saw there.

They were filled with such joy, they didn’t know what to say.

They remembered nothing of what had happened earlier that day.

“Where are we?” asked a little girl, as quiet as a mouse.

“This is heaven.” declared a small boy. “We’re spending Christmas at God’s house.”

When what to their wondering eyes did appear,

but Jesus, their savior, the children gathered near.

He looked at them and smiled, and they smiled just the same.

Then He opened His arms and He called them by name.

and in that moment was joy, that only heaven can bring

those children all flew into the arms of their King

and as they lingered in the warmth of His embrace,

one small girl turned and looked at Jesus’ face.

And as if He could read all the questions she had

He gently whispered to her, “I’ll take care of mom and dad.”

Then He looked down on earth, the world far below

He saw all of the hurt, the sorrow, and woe

then He closed His eyes and He outstretched His hand,

“Let My power and presence re-enter this land!”

“May this country be delivered from the hands of fools”

“I’m taking back my nation. I’m taking back my schools!”

Then He and the children stood up without a sound.

“Come now my children, let me show you around.”

Excitement filled the space, some skipped and some ran.

All displaying enthusiasm that only a small child can.

And I heard Him proclaim as He walked out of sight,

“in the midst of this darkness, I AM STILL THE LIGHT.”

These were the very words that gave me comfort.  I suddenly realized that everything was going to be okay.  Tory was going to be okay.  I imagined a sweet school-aged child was holding her precious hand as they entered paradise.  Kevin, our pug, who we lost earlier this year (indeed – it has truly been a year of loss for us), greeted Tory with his curly tail wagging behind him.  She was in good hands (and in good paws), and our family has now gained a guardian angel.  We were all going to be okay.

LD even adopted a build-a-bear adorned in disco sequin (naturally!), and named her after her baby angel sis, Tory.

Tory Build A Bear

Poor Tory Bear was forced to surrender to a loving big sis headlock like I imagine every little sister would, while mama wasn’t looking:

LD Build A Bear headlock

But where we really started to experience miracles unfold was during our recent trip to New York for Kids Fashion Week this past spring.

Babystylista at work in NYC Kids Fashion Week

NYC Kids Fashion Week Babystylista

I was in my element and was reasonably back to my old fashion-crazed self, LD was soaking in all the attention, as per usual, and Big Daddy was taking notes on East Coast men’s street fashion (which consisted of formal fitted pin stripe suits while riding a bike – quite fascinating, really).  We were definitely taking a bite from the big apple and loving every second of it. But what really blew us away was literally stumbling upon L’il Moses (so appropriately named), our sweet Kevin‘s NY doppleganger who appeared out of NOWHERE, on what would have been Kevin‘s 13th birthday.  Moses was also 13 years old.

Little Moses NY Babystylista

Since we were on a roll (of sweet miraculous surprises), we decided to head over to the Church of the Holy Innocents.

Church of Holy Innocents

This inspiring shrine is where Tory’s name has been inscribed in the Book of Life where a candle is always lit, and a special mass is celebrated every Monday, to honor the lives of the unborn.

The Shrine of Holy Innocents

The Shrine of Holy Innocents

It certainly brought us comfort to know that she was being honored in such a sacred way. LD, Big Daddy, and I all absorbed ourselves in prayer as we tearfully paid homage to our sweet Tory.

Honoring Tory at the Shrine of Holy Innocents Babystylista

Today would have been her birth day.  Every couple minutes, I stop to think how life would have been this very moment had I been given the chance to bring her into this world.  It still hurts my heart.  There’s a quote from Six Feet Under that rings so true (Of course I’ll have to paraphrase it and keep it PG13):

If you lose a spouse, you’re called a widow, or a widower.

If you’re a child and you lose your parents, then you’re an orphan.

But what’s the word to describe a parent who loses a child?

I guess that’s just too <xxxx> awful to even have a name.

Having said all this – I do believe that we are given only as much as we can handle.  And we handled it, in the best way we can.  We allowed ourselves to heal.  We continue to heal. As we go through this day, some moments with sheer joy (can’t help but laugh at LD‘s antics), other moments with blurry eyes and a heavy heart – we know that we have a little someone watching over us.  She’s watching me now, as I type this, sharing with the world the story of our tiny miracle, and how her short physical presence in our lives taught us so much. Even the brief knowledge of her existence taught us that no matter the hardships we face, no matter how trying our lives seem, there is always hope and happiness found at the end of that long stretch.  We just have to hang in there, keep the faith, and wait patiently for our miracles to come to us.

In the meantime, I have stopped blaming myself for her untimely death.  I have learned to accept that Tory’s place is just not on earth, at this very moment.  I have embraced the idea that LD will always have an angel baby sister that will hold her hand and guide her as she walks through this crazy adventure we call life.

LD Walking Seth Babystylista

And I have completely accepted the fact that Tory is presently in a wonderful place taking Kevin on long walks and causing some delightful chaos that would have otherwise been in my home.

Thank you my dear friends, for allowing me to express myself, in the most raw and rather unstylish way I can. I’m sure it will come as a surprise to many, even to some of my close friends.  (Sorry, you had to find out this way)… But today was THE day to bring to light, the story of my sweet Tory.  She is our guardian angel, after all.

Tory and Kevin

 A special thank you to Big Daddy who effortlessly captured an immaculate rendition of how we envision our two angel kiddos running around paradise causing all kinds of wonderful havoc.  Check out more of these two illustrated by their amazingly talented daddy at www.georgebalino.com.  We’re about to breathe some life into these two troublemakers, so watch out world!

Wherever you are sweet Tory, we love you. We loved you the moment we knew of you, and we will love you until we meet you again.

With a heavy, but accepting heart,

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Filed Under: our fertility journey, Sass & Smalls gets real Tagged With: Baby, child, Church of Holy Innocents, D&C, death, dog, faith, fertility, grieving, healing, heaven, late, losing a child, loss, miracle, miscarriage, pain, paradise, pomeranian, prayer, pregnancy, pug, sadness, Sandy Hook, Shrine, siblings, Toddler

About Deb B.

Deb Balino is the voice behind Sass & Smalls, host of the newly launched Podcast - Sass & Small Talk, and a mom of two - an artistic and quirky 11-year-old, and an outspoken, homewrecking, retro music loving, 4-year-old. A décor and style enthusiast, as well as a home systems hack creator, with a mildly concerning obsession of all things "bin-worthy", Deb enjoys sharing products, experiences, progressive ideas, and simple shifts in mindset that has helped her family navigate the beautiful chaos of parenting. Deb is also a homeschool teacher, partially by choice, partially pandemic-inspired, while advocating and caring for her parents as an active member of the Sandwich Generation. With vulnerability, and a dash of humour - she shares the reality of her world, all while keeping things as sassy as they once were before the drool, meltdowns, and potty mishaps entered the picture.

Her creative ideas, lengthy storytelling, and everyday musings have been featured on Huffington Post, Yahoo Style, BBC News, and YMC.CA

Comments

  1. monica says

    June 10, 2013 at 8:31 pm

    I’m in tears. Thank you for sharing the story of your sweet Angel. So glad that I had the chance to spend time with you at Petite Parade. Sending love.
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:57 am

      Thank you for reading this Monica. And yes – I am so glad to have spent some time with you at Petite Parade. You were so kind and helpful to another struggling mom, and I will never forget that! Feeling your love from a distance! See you soon!
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  2. Acooba Scott says

    June 10, 2013 at 9:09 pm

    Aw Debbie, I'm so sorry…I had no idea. You've brought me to tears. Thanks for sharing your beautiful story. I'm feeling and projecting so much love to you guys right now. Keeping you in prayer. God bless you all and your sweet little angel. xoxo
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:53 am

      Thank you so much Acooba, for your kind words and prayers. I hope to someday be the mom that you are to all of your children!
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  3. Trina Johnson says

    June 10, 2013 at 11:13 pm

    Love it. No other words…
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:44 am

      Thanks for reading and being such amazing support when it was such a difficult moment for us Treens. We're blessed to have such incredible friends. Miss you!
      Reply
  4. Paula Schuck says

    June 10, 2013 at 11:48 pm

    So sad. This is my first visit to your blog and it is lovely and this is the first post I read. I am so very sorry for your loss. What a hard day today must be for you. I am truly sorry.
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:43 am

      I'm so glad you visited our site – sorry the first post was so sad… I promise we'll bring you more happy ones 🙂 It was definitely a tough day, but we got through it with a lot of support. Thank you so much for your kind words.
      Reply
  5. Irene Duran-de Los Santos says

    June 11, 2013 at 5:04 am

    ;_;
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:47 am

      Thank you for reading Irene 🙂 You're always such loving support. I know losing a loved one is something you know all too well and you inspire me to be able to pull myself out of sadness and to see that life can be okay again. 🙂
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  6. Jeni Osborne says

    June 11, 2013 at 6:20 am

    I can hear her warm giggles as Kevin is running around her chasing his tail.
    Happy BIRTH-day sweet angel Tory.
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:36 am

      Awww! Yes! I can hear it too! Thank you! I miss seeing Kevin chase his own curly tail!
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  7. Jeff Bobila says

    June 11, 2013 at 7:20 am

    Happy Birthday little Tory! Thank you for keeping Kevin company! We love you!!
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:40 am

      Awww Thank you Jeffy! I know how much you loved Kevin too! Tory would have loved you as an Uncky! 🙂 xx
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  8. Kristen B says

    June 11, 2013 at 12:25 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my first baby from an ectopic pregnancy. It is amazing what we can overcome and how strong we can become in the face of despair. Stay strong Mama and whenever you are feeling sad give your baby girl an extra long hug. It helps.
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:58 am

      I am so very sorry for your loss as well Kristen. It really is so heart breaking – but yes – it is amazing how we can heal from such grief. Thank you for your kind words, and you’re so right – hugging LD is the most healing of all!
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  9. ashley says

    June 11, 2013 at 12:36 pm

    I am in awe of your strength – it comes through in your writing. Thank you for sharing this – it must not have been easy
    Reply
    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 7:00 am

      Thank you Ashley. I don’t feel very strong, that’s for sure. But it is so nice to hear it, so I feel that I’m actually getting there. Definitely not easy to write – but necessary to write. I couldn’t sleep until I did. Crazy right? Thanks for reading!
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  10. Jody @ Mommy Moment says

    June 11, 2013 at 1:54 pm

    It must have been so hard to write that post, i’m glad you did though! (Hugs)
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 7:01 am

      Thanks for the hugs! It was hard to write, yes – but I’m happy I did too. It just didn’t feel right to keep Tory “under wraps” anymore. Thank you for reading and your kind words.
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  11. Grace Montero says

    June 11, 2013 at 2:01 pm

    Happy Birthday Tory ♥….sooo beautiful!
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:43 am

      Thanks Gracey! She's watching over you too! 🙂
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  12. Jennifer says

    June 11, 2013 at 2:28 pm

    I am so very sorry for you loss, you wrote your feelings out so beautifully.
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 7:02 am

      Thank you Jennifer. I truly felt raw writing this – so thank you for your sweet compliment. It helped so much to share my story. Thank you for reading 🙂
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  13. Sandi Allen says

    June 11, 2013 at 2:57 pm

    What a wonderful post. It must have been heart-wrenching to write it. It is beautifully written and a great tribute to your little one. I know someone who went through something very similar. It was so hard to watch…but she is doing great today…with her new little man.
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:39 am

      Thank you so much. I love hearing that a new little blessing came after such heart break. Yes – it was heart wrenching, but for some reason I just couldn't let the day pass without me writing it all down. It's amazing how healing it can be. xx
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  14. Nicole Hall says

    June 12, 2013 at 2:15 am

    We love you all and little baby angel Tory. This was beautifully written from the heart. Since, I am also not new to tragedy myself, I truly feel deeply for you all. I think it is wonderful that you are paying homage to her soul. She is smiling at you for doing it and you are just as precious to her as she is to you. She will live on in your hearts forever.
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:41 am

      Thank you for saying what you did Nik. I really needed to pay homage to her and bring her existence to light. I just couldn't ignore it anymore – I know you understand this pain all too well. You are our inspiration as well… xx
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  15. Shari Goss says

    June 12, 2013 at 2:49 pm

    I had a missed miscarriage it was much earlier on than you, but I remember that feeling of carrying a baby long after it's soul had moved on. I was in my first trimester and the heartbreak was so hard. For us, by the time that baby's birthday was here, I was pregnant with our oldest son. So even 8 years later I still think about that baby often, but now I realize if I had that baby I wouldn't have my Jack and that is just as heart breaking.

    Thank you so much for linking up with my comment love linky! This is the reason I started it, so I would be able to come across new blogs I hadn't discovered and I would remember to read them! I love your writing style you really sucked me in, and told your story! I would love if you linked up again: http://www.theknitwitbyshair.com/p/comment-love-linky.html.

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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:38 am

      Thank you so much for sharing your story. How inspiring, and what a blessing to have Jack! And I'm new at the linky stuff – so thank you so much for opening this up for me! Love your posts and writing style as well. xx
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  16. Jennifer Estaris says

    June 12, 2013 at 6:39 pm

    All my love, DeBalino. Thank you for sharing this beautiful piece. Thinking of your little angel.
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 6:42 am

      Thank you Jenn! We were honored to have shared the same due date as your sweet blessing. They would have been the best of friends. I am so excited to meet your mini-you (and Benn). Love you guys!
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  17. Sarah De Diego (Journeys of The Zoo) says

    June 13, 2013 at 10:06 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, I can relate to some of what you write as I too have lost a child. No matter when it happens, a loss is a loss. How nice that you remember her birthday. Sometimes I find it hard to remember but it’s harder to forget.

    Besos, Sarah
    Blogger at Journeys of The Zoo
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    • babystylista says

      June 19, 2013 at 7:06 am

      You know how I feel about what you have written with regards to your sweet Alexander, Sarah. It’s so true – loss at any point is still so heart wrenching as these children are emotionally, and PHYSICALLY a part of us. I didn’t quite know how I would feel on her due date – but I have to say – I’m glad I paid homage to my sweet daughter. I chose not to meet her because it was just too painful, and now I have some guilt I have to work through with regards to that choice. So remembering her on her birthday really helps with the healing. Thank you for stopping by and for your kind words.
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  18. Kristen @ My 3 Little Kittens says

    June 26, 2013 at 7:50 am

    I am sitting here crying my eyes out. I can’t even begin to imagine the sheer pain you have & currently are going through. I know without doubt that your beautiful, sweet Baby is in God’s Kingdom with Kevin!!! My heart is breaking for you and I am so truly sorry for your loss. You have a beautiful soul and I know that one day, you will be able to enter that light yourself and be with your Baby & doggie again. *Hugs*
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  19. Lana Varela says

    June 26, 2013 at 9:27 pm

    My heart is devastated for the hurt you know. The loss of a child is a terrible ache that never really goes away. Thinking about you today. Xoxo
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🛋️ Cozy couch. ✔️
🎙️ Good convo. ✔️
🥹 Big feelings. ✔️
🤩 And even bigger lashes. ✔️✔️✔️

LET’S TALK. 

Oh and PS - wanna know how to get your action figure #animated? Follow me, write “SASS”, and let me know what your action figure would be in the comments below and I’ll hook you up. 

#SassAndSmalls #TelusStoryhive #HappyJEnergy #GoodbyeBurnout #SmallTalkBigFeels #actionfigure #barbie #AI #Amare #happyblend #cortisol
When life gives you burnout… do squats. 🍑 In When life gives you burnout… do squats. 🍑

In Episode 2 of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast “Reclaiming Joy of #Parenthood Beyond Burnout”, I take on the ultimate #challenge:
Fitting fitness into my already chaotic #caregiving, #homeschooling, always behind the wheel, #neurodivergent navigating, mom-life schedule. 🧠🎢💪

Add to the mix, a busy 🧠 that thrives on chaos and fun? Why not #gamify? Moms- let’s do the #TriggerWordChallenge!! Every time your kids say (aka “demand”, I mean c’mon now…) “MOM!”, do a squat! In the kitchen, while cleaning, cooking, folding laundry. Just don’t do it driving! #safetyfirst

For this episode, Every time *I* said the word “lash” — yep, I squat. 😅

Joining me is none other than Victoria’s go-to #LashLady, who most would call a client-proclaimed “lash-a-pist” and certified #fitness coach, Emily Bowman @nevaehjade.beautywellness, who’s here to talk #burnout, #beauty, and #body movement. And I’m here to try and master the world’s most chaotic squat routine. 🙃

Side note: Psssst… your girl hasn’t done a squat since before the Pandy of 2020 so this may be nbd to the average person, but it’s quite literally a miracle ⛪️ for 🙋🏻‍♀️. #whateverworks #amIright?

Catch more laughter, squats, Yoga-envy 🧘🏻‍♀️, words of wisdom, and a tear or two…  on the full episode 🎙️NOW STREAMING on a 📺 near you. @Telus OptikTV (search “Storyhive Sass” on Demand), Ch. 9, Stream+ app, @storyhive YouTube

Comment “Squat” if you want the full episode link on @storyhive‘s YouTube. But it’s even more fun on TV, so try that first! We sure are…

#SassAndSmallTalk #SquatGoals #BurnoutAndBootyGains #bunsofsteel #LashLadyTakesOver #NeurodivergentMomLife #CaregiverFitness #SquatWhileYouCan #HomeschoolChaos #MomLifeUnfiltered #VictoriaBC #StoryHive #ReclaimYourJoy #JLoGotNothingOnMe
The PREMIERE episode is now LIVE on a 📺 near yo The PREMIERE episode is now LIVE on a 📺 near you!

SASS & SMALL TALK “Reclaiming the Joy of Parenthood, Beyond Burnout” is NOW STREAMING on @TELUS OptikTV, Ch. 9, Stream+, and @storyhive. 

“Join Deb and local lifestyle creator and entrepreneur, Natasha Mills of @mommamillsblog. Natasha reveals her bold shift from a successful corporate career to building a personal brand from home, striving for family balance while advocating for her community in Victoria, BC. Will this new path bring the joy she seeks, or will it come with its own set of challenges and #burnout? Tune in for an inspiring discussion on making a #careerpivot, finding purpose, and evolving as a recovering high achiever.”

Recorded & Produced @haus.of.owl @nikkye_music @jakerfilms @eric.thebald @remy.is.remy @hoelune 

@sassandsmalltalkpodcast is made possible with the support from TELUS STORYHIVE, and is available for free on
TELUS Optik TV, CH.9, and Stream+

#watchlocal #SassAndSmallTalk #ParenthoodUnfiltered #MomBurnout  #ParentingPodcast #StoryHive #VictoriaBC #MentalWellnessMatters #twinmom #momprenuer #burnoutrecovery #twinfamily
Calling in the troops. 🫠🔥 Because burnout is Calling in the troops. 🫠🔥
Because burnout is real—and so is the comeback.

Meet the incredible guests of the debut Season on TELUS StoryHive of “Sass & Small Talk: Reclaiming the Joy of Parenthood Beyond Burnout” 🎙️

After years of #caregiving, #homeschooling, and navigating life in a #neurodivergent family… I hit a wall. 

Hello, #Burnout. 👋 

But thanks to @telus and the @storyhive Video Podcast Program, I sat down with fellow parents, experts, and some of the most resilient humans right here in Victoria, BC to have the conversations we ALL need.

Together, we talk burnout, grief, the mental load of parenting, partnership, career pivots, and what it really takes to reclaim joy and purpose in the thick of #parenting and caregiving. 

Made in the community. For the community. 

📍Filmed at: @hausofowl
🎤 Featuring:
@mommamillsblog @nevaehjade.beautywellness @glowjar_ 
@truedad.community 
@minimaggie 
@sacred_advantage 
@sarjo08 
@scarletjaxen

Episodes 1 & 2 NOW streaming on TELUS OptikTV Ch. 9, Stream+, Storyhive YouTube. One episode drop every Tuesday until May 20th. 

This is for the #caregivers. The #sandwichgen. #Parents rebuilding from burnout with community, courage, and a whole lotta sass. 💬

#CallingInTheTroops
#SassAndSmallTalk #ParenthoodUnfiltered #CaregiverBurnout #NeurodivergentFamily #MomBurnout #ReclaimYourJoy #ParentingPodcast #StoryHive #VictoriaBC #MentalWellnessMatters 
#watchLocalTV
AUTISTIC BURNOUT :: Did you know there was such a AUTISTIC BURNOUT :: Did you know there was such a thing?

Me Neither! 

But it sure helped me understand my #neurdodivergent not-so-baby teen daughter who has been in #burnout mode for years. Gaining understanding of this aspect of burnout helps us find ways to cope when it creeps up on us as parents - and especially for our children. 

Here’s a #behindthescenes look of my talk on @sassandsmalltalkpodcast filmed at the amazing creative studios of @haus.of.owl with @kkayjudas at @sacred_advantage. She is our wonderful guest and a dear friend (and incredible advocate for my daughter specifically), who shares insight and personal experience on #autisticburnout in this raw and honest interview about how she navigated (continues to navigate) life on the spectrum especially during burnout. I may or may not have shed a tear… or 10… 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tune in on @telus OptikTV Channel 9, stream+ on MAY 6th, and @storyhive YouTube on May 27th  to watch this compelling episode. 

And giving extra love to my beautiful and talented daughter who fine tuned the edit of this video! How blessed am I to be the mama of this creative young lady. Now gimme my phone back!!! 🤨

Have you or a loved one experienced Autistic Burnout?
Behind every #sandwichgeneration #entrepreneural # Behind every #sandwichgeneration #entrepreneural #homeschool #mom with #ADHD and #spicy kids, is: 
• a floor filled with painful-to-step-on toys and crafts
• Sniffly kiddos every few weeks 
• nothing crossed off her to-do list
• hundreds of unanswered texts/emails
• and a #mentalload sometimes too overwhelming to carry 

But unlike all the other gloomy seasons I’ve experienced this tough season, I have never felt such peace. 

WHY: 

• I have been walking through my #faithjourney with George and it’s been giving me a different outlook on everything life has thrown our way. My sistas in faith have kept us afloat this tough season @esther.driver @caarly.xo @lishgarv @nicoleacaldwell 

• I have been intentional on fixing my #guthealth, #cortisollevels, and #cognitivefunction with my daily #HJ #happy blend drink, and it has done wonders to my #mentalwellness  and overall health. <DM me for more info on this game changer drink>.

• I’ve been learning to just live in the moment and not be so caught up with doing EVERYTHING all at once. 

• I’m surrounding myself (albeit virtually and in spirit) with some of my chosen fam who probably get the most neglect of all, but still give me grace while I clumsily navigate this crazy season @nengineermom @rahannavu  @iamharpsra 
@m_stiggity 
@jenny_p1987  @westislanddesigns @kkayjudas @teacuphuman09 @i_am_miss_jen @swanny80 @trishita_namagita 

• Even though my business relies heavily on my #online presence, I’m giving myself grace for fully immersing myself in the needs of my family this last month I’ve been MIA. I know I can pick up where I left off, and lean on my mentors & biz sistas to pull me out of the seasonal funk @caitoaks @mommamillsblog, @happybalancemama @sweetmamalifedaily, and get back on track. 

Busy, overwhelmed mama… I see you. This is just a season. Do what you need to do, especially for you and your loved ones. Everything will still be there ready for you to “tackle” when you’re ready. 

And what losing two loved ones these last couple weeks has taught me - we’re only here temporarily. Spend your time earthside doing what you love, and loving who you love. @gjavier5 ❤️
No amount of “juice” can lessen the exposure t No amount of “juice” can lessen the exposure to elementary school winter bugs, but it sure came in handy when we need it IN & OUT of our household. 

Especially since I have elderly under my care. 

It skipped George and I entirely - but it definitely hit our two little ones, as bugs do. 

After a nice, tall glass of kid’s #HJ (mixed with some mango edge+ for my bigger and pickier smallie) - along with a nice snuggly nap - the symptoms were way less vicious than previous colds, and gone by the time I blended them their dose the next morning. 

It’s not some miracle drink with empty promises - it’s just ALL the good stuff in a glass. 

DM me if you want a sip for yourself or your sniffly kiddos. I’m telling you, our overall health and wellness as a family, has improved, since focusing on our #guthealth.

There is no price too high to pay for overall #wellness.

#happyblend #amare #fluseason
Impromptu check-in with my girl, Nicole from @happ Impromptu check-in with my girl, Nicole from @happybalancemama talking about all things #Amare. The reality behind #burnout,  #mentalwellness, finding our way through the everyday challenges and #mentalload of #motherhood, and how both of our lives have SHIFTED dramatically since starting our journey with fixing our #guthealth. 

#happyblend #juice #GBX #gutbrainconnection #gutbrainaxis #gutbrainhealth #gutbrain #motherhood #overwhelm
C O R T I S O L :: If you’re anything like me, y C O R T I S O L :: If you’re anything like me, you’ve tried to amp up in overall wellness - doing ALL the things…  and nothing worked 🪀🪀🪀🪀🪀 

ME THEN:(4.5 mnths + 4 decades ago)

• Cortisol levels out of control 
• Made self-sabotaging choices 
 • giving into sugar cravings
 • staying up all night doom 
  scrolling & researching 
  how to “fix” my life/kids/home 
  leading to #burnout
• Poor time management
• Emotionally charged and reactive due to poor quality sleep 

• What REALLY needed the most help - was my GUT. <ENTER #HJ #Amare #cortisolcontrol>

ME NOW: 

• Boost in: mood, motivation, metabolism, energy
• reduced bloating and inflammation
• Cravings gone, due to regulated blood sugar
• #cortisol #puffyface gone
• Better quality and DEEPER sleep
• Balanced hormones
• Improved cognitive function and no brain fog

** ADDED BONUS: A more organized home 
** DOUBLE ADDED BONUS: I’m the best mom I have ever been for my kiddos: ⬇️ reactive, ⬆️stress resilience

✨✨What I’m doing 👇🏼✨✨

• I mixed these two (or three) very simple supplements (EASY for my busy brain)
• First Supplement: Mood/Motivation/Metabolism - decreased bloating 
• Second supplement: Balanced hormones & mental wellness, improved skin, deeper sleep

2025 - I’m here for ya. BRING. IT. ON.

Comment CORTISOL OR just DM me, and I’ll send you more info and a link! 🥳
LIVE:: Sass & Small Chats with my girl Nicole @hap LIVE:: Sass & Small Chats with my girl Nicole @happybalancemama, before Mama Duty calls!  Chatting all things “Happy Blend”. We’ll do another spontaneous Live 2.0 when it’s not so nice outside!! For now - here’s a little bit of my personal experience with the Happy Blend  and how it’s made major shifts in mine and my family’s lives.  #30DayMentalwellnesschallenge
G R I N C H :: Just over here dreaming of a #green G R I N C H :: Just over here dreaming of a #greenChristmas when the kids and I had more time, energy, and gumption to do community deliveries to our local heroes. 

Since the #Pandemic, this little tradition of ours have stopped but our gratitude remains. @saanichpolice @saanichfiredepartment, Victoria Fertility Clinic, Sherwood Dental, and some of our buds who held our hands through our #grief and #fertility journey. 

Sigh. Was fun while it lasted. 

Thank you @dee_monster_girl @adammessana  @fiendwithoutaface87 for the inspo.

#throwback #grinch #Christmas
#NationalFamilyCaregiversMonth #november P I N K #NationalFamilyCaregiversMonth #november 

P I N K :: I recently learned that flamingos lose their pink when caring for others (notably, mom flamingos) —and I felt that deeply this past year. When my sweet elderly Mama had an unfortunate fall, resulting in emergency surgery, an extended hospital stay, and complete dependence on full time care, I was torn between moving in and being there for her full-time, caring for my sick kids and husband, homeschooling, and managing my business. 

I lost my pink.

Everything else—work, plans, even my son’s birthday—had to wait. Our home was a mess, appointments were missed, mistakes were made, friendships were tested, and the mental load was heavy. But nothing compared to watching my once strong Mama feel powerless as she leaned into the support she needed but once resisted.

My Mom lost her pink. 

It was a season of sacrifice, but now returning the equipment, that helped with her recovery, is a moment I’ll never forget.  I can now see from a clear lens, that working together as a family (my own family, my brother’s, my parents), we made it through, with the power of faith, a supportive community and amazing and understanding friends, love, and especially prayer.

It feels so good to stand back and see the full picture. And best of all… 

Both my Mama and I got our pink back.

@redcrosscanada 

#Caregiving #FamilyFirst #Gratitude #FlamingoFeels #FaithAndFamily
M A G G I E :: 🎉 Some #BTS #onthepod @sassandsm M A G G I E :: 🎉 Some #BTS #onthepod @sassandsmalltalkpodcast with my long lost twin and the hilariously brilliant MAGGIE of @thecatmompodcast ! We’re diving deep into life with a #SpicyBrain 🧠, talking all things #ADHD, and how she’s been navigating motherhood, chaos, and #burnout like the absolute rockstar she is. 💥

🎂 Oh, and did I mention it’s her #BIRTHDAY today?! 🎈 Be sure to give @minimaggie ALL the love in the comments! 🥳👇🏻

This episode, filmed at @haus.of.owl, is packed with so much relatable insight (and laughter... SO. MUCH. LAUGHTER 😂). Catch it #comingsoon #2025 on @TELUS OptikTV @storyhive! You won’t want to miss this one. 💬🎙️

Life just got a little more interesting @gjavier5 @ianshockeycards. Our apologies in advance… #doubletrouble 👭🏻
MY. FAM. IS. THRIVING. That is all. DM (and Fo MY. FAM. IS. THRIVING. 

That is all. 

DM (and Follow me) for deets on this amazing EASY 30sec Wellness supplement (and other #Amare Go-tos) that has elevated this family from shaking things up in the gut (bye 💩 probs), to clearing things up in the 🧠 (Wait - they actually WANT to learn? 🤯) … NOTHING ELSE has worked THIS GOOD for this family of Neuro-Ds. 

It’s not just some magic fix. 
It’s au naturale. Backed by science.
It’s #guthealth.
It’s #cognitivefunction.
Down to the cellular level.

✨ Sidenote: “Thriving” doesn’t mean, perfect, always happy, or that everyone is ALWAYS on the same page. 

That would just be weird. 

It means: 
• our target areas of concern (individually) are being addressed. 
• less chaos, more peace. 
• less reactive, less defensive
• more motivation, less resistance

We’re all collectively on our way to overall physical and mental wellness. 

And the best part is - all the kids care about is that it tastes darrrrrrrrn good. 

So what are you waiting for?
C O N N E C T I O N :: Now that George and I are b C O N N E C T I O N :: Now that George and I are both focusing on our COLLECTIVE #cortisolbalance - both our relationship and our kids benefit from these changes: 

• no longer reactive (to each other/kids)
• more playful with the kids, no longer irritable 
• have the #mentalclarity to pause and let each other have a say
• more well-rested - due to resisting #sleeprevenge (guys, I actually WANT to sleep now!! WHAT!??) 
• less overwhelm by everyday stressors
• tackle to-dos faster, together - procrastination completely not our thing anymore

** And the best and most shocking of them all… I am no longer impulsive with needless, emotional-spending, and that alone is a 🎁 for George! 

So many men and women in our age group are struggling like we were, only a few months ago.

This healthy cortisol mocktail is a daily favorite, takes 30 seconds to make, and is filled with adaptogens and healthy ingredients!

Comment CORTISOL and I’ll send you what we’ve been using to get to the bottom of our cortisol issues. WITH a $10 discount + 10% savings. 

✨ follow me for more simple tips for cortisol, weight, sleep, and stress for mamas and our partners too!

✨ Make sure you are following me to get the DM!

P. S. my husband prioritizes my daily intake as much as his own because we both know - “Happy wifey, easier Lifey” 😂☺️
P A R T N E R S H I P :: Our live discussion with P A R T N E R S H I P :: Our live discussion with Graham Meckling, Author, Coach, Educator, Community builder - as he launches his amazing and groundbreaking Online community at @truedad.community.

With focus on building the foundation as a team/partnership/family even PRIOR to becoming one, and how it’s a complete Gamechanger when faced with the reality of parenting in the coming years. 

Be sure to share this with any new parents-to-be who might need this resource - a sibling, a friend, a coworker, a distant cousin who you only seem to know on IG - we all know someone who might feel a little lost as they navigate this new chapter in their lives. This is not your everyday community - so grab a spot and find the community you never really know you needed! 

Seasoned parents - Graham’s book “Babies Don’t talk” has wonderful insights that are just as applicable to any stage of parenting as it is for the new parent - so GRAB YOUR COPY! I did and George and I ate it right up!
Found her. • • And right behind this once #b Found her. 
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And right behind this once #burntout #Mama, finding her way back into her element again, sass-inclusive, are these #behindthescenes (behind the camera/desk/computer/headphones) MIRACLE WORKERS at @hausofowl. I have so much love for you guys. Thank you. 

@nikkye_music 
@hoelune 
@remy.is.remy 
@jakerfilms 

Not seen here but will pop up here and there as I catch them in action 🤞🏼 hint hint): @laaain_music @eric.thebald 

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And none of this would’ve even been a thang if it weren’t for the Video Podcast Grant Program with @telus @storyhive. Life changing is an understatement. Thank you @made.by.donny & @thereallindakee for encouraging your girl to take the plunge with @sassandsmalltalkpodcast 

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And the energy and gumption to keep me resilient, and in tip top shape to host my own show, and lead my own project - kudos to my girl @mommamillsblog who introduced me to the very #cortisoldrink I needed to amp up. And @caitoaks who also reminds me I got this. My gut and brain thank you both. #bestteamever

And my love, @gjavier5 - I’m doing this not just for me but for us and our little peeps. Thank you for leading the cheering squad and “assisting”
me when I need it most. Hope to make you guys proud. ❤️ 

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Moral of the story, in getting that dang SASS back: 
✨ Take Risks
✨ Get your gut health in check 🥤
✨ Find your peeps 
✨ Tell them how awesome they are

DM me, watch my stories, click on my bio links if you want in on any of this good stuff! 🥤 + 🎙️ + 💰📺

✨Be sure to give a little ❤️ to my 13 year old Smallie who helped me level up with this reel with her magic touch. #ASD #autism #thisishomeschool #homeschooler #mygirl #techgirl #daughter
I’m 1/2 a century, baby. #HappyBirthday to me, i I’m 1/2 a century, baby. #HappyBirthday to me, indeed.
#thisisme

And life just got a little sweeter. 

It’s not some secret recipe, or some overcomplicated skin regimen. 

It’s #faith
Motivation
The want
The humility to accept help
The unconditional love from family
Learning to say no to the wrong, and yes to the right. 

I took a chance on ME a few months ago, and since then, have seen a shift in myself.

I dreaded this #milestonebirthday for the last 10 years. I dreaded ESPECIALLY, being transparent to ANYONE… even my own kids. 

But it dawned on me. 

(With the help of my fellow #hypewoman gals that gave me the gentle nudge to OWN my age, not hide it) @sweetmamalifedaily  @nengineermom @mommamillsblog  @caitoaks  @lilkeez @iamharpsra  @rahannavu @mstiggity

Why hide it? 
What am I scared of? 

I DID IT!

I hit 1/2 a century, I survived 9 brutal pregnancy losses, and held one of them in my arms. I looked death in the eye, and through prayer and community - I came out of it alive and kicking. AND thriving.

It wasn’t my time. I still have work to do here. 

But even with these life altering moments in my life, I STILL:
• made bad health choices
• stretched myself to max capacity
• said YES to things that stifled my growth.
• said NO to hard things that meant growth
• lived in debilitating fear, daily
• allowed my #adhd to paralyze, not enhance my life
• had horrible boundaries… correction… I had no boundaries 

It took 50 years, (3 months ago, to be exact), but I found exactly what I needed: 
• A deeper connection with God
• Gratitude
• A go-to, easy #cortisol #drink that balances out those darn hormones, and targets my #Mentalwellness #HJ 
• Forgiveness and freedom from past hurts 
• An awesome studio to do my craft @haus.of.owl
• A killer program that funds said craft @Telus @storyhive 
• A loving approach #wifey, #specialneeds Mama & #caregiver Daughter
• Self Compassion
• And the GUMPTION to follow (FIX) my Gut. 

Thank you to those who remembered when I chose to forget, that turning 50 is a blessing, not a curse. 

DM me or comment 50 if you want in on this big secret.
✨ I N S I D E * O U T ✨ :: If you wanna see ho ✨ I N S I D E * O U T ✨ :: If you wanna see how HAPPY J blend has made a difference for me, and coincidentally - the family - take a look at our Behind the scenes of this year’s Inside Out FAM-O-WEEN —an honest, messy, and very real snapshot of our year. 2024 was a DOOZY. 

From frustration, to resistance, to acceptance, to finding Joy again (with a DAILY DOSE of HAPPY J and a whoooooole lotta Jesus) - each character felt like a reflection of this year’s whirlwind of emotions. It’s been a time of big decisions, finding our footing, embracing transitions, more sleepless nights,  a diagnosis we’ve been waiting a decade for, falls, accidents, sickness - the whole shebang of emotions. 

And then #anxiety reared its ugly head.  In full force. 

But, alongside family and close friends, Faith, and some yummy sips of a healthy supplement, carried us through. 

In a year that stretched us to our limits, this shoot felt like the perfect way to honour all the “inside out” moments we’ve faced. So here’s to the messy, the joyful, and even the challenging times that shape who we are. From deep #burnout and anxiety to discovering our faith and mental wellness, I’m stepping into the next chapter with a full heart and maybe a few more laughs (even if I’m a year older 😉).

Here’s to growth, gratitude, and whatever’s next. #FamOWeen2024 #InsideOutLife #EmotionalYear #insideout #FindingJoy #Milestonebirthday
#NewChapter #amare #happyblend #hj #happyjuice

Music - AndreaDatzman, 
BENJIxScarlett, TheeOnlyJanessahhh
E M O T I O N S :: #HAPPYHALLOWEEN #FAMOWEEN editi E M O T I O N S :: #HAPPYHALLOWEEN #FAMOWEEN edition! 

2024 has been quite the year of change for us all. Emotions have been all over the map!
• #Caregiving has been amped up with unexpected falls and hospital stays 
• Our little not so little teen is on her last year of Middle school #homeschool version - not so easy but hey, surviving. #Disgust
• Our little guy cut his once curly locks and became a little man overnight - no tears except a very #sad dad who suffered from FOMO #Anger
• George also cut his hair that was once down to his waist. He was ready to let go of the weight of the world literally on his shoulders.
• I got selected for a wonderful @TELUS @Storyhive project to do a broadcast version of my #podcast and got my Juju back #happytears
• and yes… I found the perfect match for me to deal with my very neglected #guthealth, and yes… it’s a Gamechanger that has been behind the true shift in my mental health, productivity, and my road to a better me. Hence, “Happy” #Joy. #happyjuice

All these emotions check out. #insideOut we have thrived and survived. 

Happy Halloween!
S N E A K * P E E K :: I’m so excited to share a S N E A K * P E E K :: I’m so excited to share a little sneak peek of @theoutpostboardgamecafe, our good friend’s soon-to-be-opened #boardgame café, right here in the #Westshore 🎲🎲. The ONLY ONE of its kind in THIS part of town!! 🎉🎉We’ve ALL been waiting for this… 

Mamas… I’m looking at you… 👀

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It’s been amazing watching this space come together - already such a fun vibe and a cozy spot to hang out, play some games, and connect with friends. And I already got my #gameschool curriculum ready to go for my #homeschooler (and her game lovin’ mama-teacher 🙋🏻‍♀️) to enjoy. And of course date nights with my guy and girls night with my ladies!! 

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They’re getting so close to opening, and I can’t wait for everyone to experience it in person!! 

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Be sure to SHARE THIS POST AND SPREAD THE WORD - #Grandopening is Nov 1st!! 🎗️✂️ Stay tuned for more updates—it’s going to be a game-changer! 😉 

#TheOutpostCafe #supportlocal #supportsmallbusiness #supportlocalbusiness #YYJ #vancouverisland #Victoria #langford #boredombuster #family
F E A R L E S S :: Becoming a mom changed me, and F E A R L E S S :: Becoming a mom changed me, and along the way, my confidence started to slip. The bold, carefree version of me was replaced by someone who worried about the little things—like making a simple left turn onto a highway (with nothing but a stop sign and a prayer).

For years, I avoided that turn. I’d ask trusted adults to drive my kid for these once a year field trips, while I anxiously waited for updates. Sometimes, if I couldn’t arrange a ride, I’d keep her home. No amount of spawning salmon is worth my sanity.

It sounds trivial to the average person, but that turn felt like a mountain I couldn’t climb - for 12 years!!! A really winding, single lane, high speed, intolerant and unforgiving mountain to climb.

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Enter my Happy Blend Morning supplement.

After a few weeks of working on my gut health and balancing hormones, including cortisol, I feel lighter—mentally and emotionally. The anxiety that used to grip me just… doesn’t anymore.

Something in me felt COMPELLED to make that turn. It was my actual, nurtured, gut telling me to not take the backroad out (which is 3 times the distance), and it felt like freedom. 

I’ve learned it’s not just about turning left on a highway; it’s about letting go of fear and no longer caring what others think. My people-pleasing feature was activated as I approached the turn - worrying about the driver behind me, but now, I prioritize what’s best for me and my loved ones. And what’s best for my loved ones is that they get the chance to enjoy an educational experience, without my anxious brain standing in the way.

I am mentally clear, more logical, and becoming resilient where stress once controlled me. I’m ME again, free from imbalanced hormones, and the fear of inconveniencing others.

If this resonates with you, drop “FEARLESS” in the comments, and I’ll share what I’ve been using to get here. You’re not alone. #MomLife
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