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The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom’s Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety

March 29, 2020 By Deb B. 11 Comments

I’ve never really considered myself to be an anxious person. High strung maybe? With a dash of crazy? Yes. But someone with anxiety. Not really.

The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.comAsk me the same question now, however… and my answer would be a resounding YES. INDEED. I have never felt such anxiety in my entire three four decades of life. I think the whole idea of being worried about my kids, coupled with worries about myself and my husband, all of which is completely overshadowed by my worries about my aging parents – is the perfect recipe to developing anxiety. Worry has become my new go-to emotion and I, along with billions of other people in my position just can’t seem to shake it. This whole global pandemic and a strong recommendation to follow the simple rules of social distancing – has introduced a plethora of mental health concerns – and we need to just take a break from the hysteria and talk about it. Goodness knows we have a chance to now that we’re forced to literally stop what we’re doing, lay low and think things through.

Being a mom has given me the fundamental head start in regards to safety and good health/hygiene practice. Not just for stay-at-home moms, but for work-at-home moms, and work out-of-home moms. Moms (and dads) in general, just have this intrinsic ability to mama (papa) bear their cubs and their aging parents and even if it takes all their might and soul to keep their loved ones safe, they will do it. As caregivers, we have this innate ability to set aside our own levels of anxiety to protect our loved ones. But at the end of the day (and hell, throughout the day in between Mama Bear moments) – those feelings of anxiety and worry completely take over. What to do about them?

Deflect.

Deflect deflect deflect.

I’m not saying to ignore them. And I’m definitely not saying to ignore clinical anxiety – please DO take the advice given to you by your medical professionals.  But alongside the obvious, there are ways to ease some of the understandable anxiety that have successfully reared its ugly head these past few weeks. Here is a list of what has worked for me, and fellow mamas across the globe.

TALK ABOUT IT

I have never been one to be at a loss for words, but other than the usual “OMG I can’t believe this is happening” and “Gasp” and “Ugh”, that’s been filling all crevices of our home, it took a little time before we decided to actually sit down and chat about it. Talking to my husband, or face-timing my best friend, or calling my mom (who happens to live only mere steps away from me, but I’m doing my civic duty of keeping her safe at arm’s length, much to my chagrin) – have all been very helpful and healing. Bouncing ideas off each other instead of coming up with my own scenarios in my head – is not only productive, but healthy. Between laughing at silly memes, or crying over realistic concerns, letting it out has been the best medicine for myself, other moms (including my own), and my spouse. The open dialogue is necessary to ward off some of those anxiety ridden scenarios in my head that creeps up later in my dreams. The key is to Let. It. out.

TAKE A BREAK FROM THE NEWS

I don’t have anything against keeping informed, it would be irresponsible not to be. But after one hour of listening to the same incoming, and dare I mention, depressing facts, isn’t it time to take a break? Limit your viewing based on what you or what your family can handle, and stick to it. We all know what is happening around the world. You don’t need the news to be on repeat. Now it’s time to take a break from it because sitting there, soaking it all in, and worrying ourselves into a frenzy isn’t going to change anything. Now is the time to do something about it. And guess what that something is? STAYING HOME.

Apparently, news on repeat is how my parents roll, and I am finding that their levels of worry and anxiety is sky rocketing. I’ve since hooked them up with their go-to Asian Dramas for a healthy escape, and I’m happy to report, they’re happily immersed.

We don’t have much control over the situation, but we do have control over how we allow our knowledge of what’s happening around us to consume us. We have control over our televisions/radios/web surfing. We can make the decision to stop well before the news takes over our everyday language, behavior, and overall mental health. The news is necessary – but trust that after hearing the same things repeated over and over in a single day, your brain and your heavy heart need a break. Believe me – any incoming news will be reiterated and find its way to you in about a million other ways. From a quick post on facebook, to a trend on twitter, to your parents who are quite well-versed on all that is covered on CNN – you will not be left in the dark. So give yourself a set amount of time to watch, get your fix, and turn it off. Don’t worry – it will still be there tomorrow.

GO FOR A WALK IN A SECLUDED PLACE CLOSE TO HOME (and far from playgrounds)

I know there is still some debate over leaving the safety of your home at all. I challenge this warning, as there is nothing wrong with getting a healthy daily dose of Vitamin D – preferably multiple times a day. Physically, and mentally – it could completely make or break your day. I believe that the rules of social distancing can and will be followed so long as your family or solo walk is at a safe 6ft+ distance from others, and your destination is well below crowd standards. We have managed to find a place and time where a nice walk/scooter/bike session can happen, where safety and good health is top of mind.

The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.com The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.comThe Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.com PICK UP A BOOK

A book? What in the world is that? That is, a book that isn’t Robert Munsch, Kid’s National Geographic, or Dr. Seuss (we love them all by the way). You don’t even know how excited I am to finally open up a book for MY enjoyment. I have about three sitting on my night stand, collecting dust, waiting for me to break the crease. I can actually hear the beautiful sound of that book crease tearing.

For the golden oldies like myself, who would rather rest their eyes while absorbing information, Audible is the next best thing. I have a wonderful roster of books that I’ve saved for my long walks with the baby. Lately, however, they’ve been replaced by podcasts and self improvement Ted Talks. I see you, Mel Robbins… and I hear you Brene Brown. But right now, I’m feeling like a nice escape into a fictional world is just what the doctor ordered. And this day and age, listening to the doctor is the ONLY way to go.

Most of us are new at the homeschooling situation, and modelling good practice like reading – is a great way to teach our kids the power of a good book and the skill of reading. I’ve come to realize that I’ve been so busy “teaching” my kiddo to read her books, that I forgot that the best lesson of all is showing her how great of a skill it is as an adult. So pick up that book, and when you least expect it, your little ones will be picking theirs up too.

The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.comBe sure to take advantage of Audible’s free streaming for kids while schools are closed. It’s a great way to get them engaged and while keeping their minds active and imaginative.

START THAT ONLINE JOURNAL YOU’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO START

Or offline. Journalling is a healing tool and my friend – it works. Taking the simple concept that transferring what is on your mind on to paper, is so profound, and yet severely under-utilized. If you aren’t a fan of handwriting and are more of a typer/texter, starting a little journal folder on your computer with daily entries, or a note app on your phone (may I suggest “The Five Minute Journal”) are just as effective, and easier on your hands.

Remember, there are no rules to journalling your thoughts. This is your journal, and it’s not supposed to be an added pressure to your life. It doesn’t have to be everyday. Write what you want, and when you’re compelled to. But it wouldn’t hurt to set a time and space to do this. I like doing it either at the top of my day while sipping happily on my coffee (and my toddler is conveniently strapped to his high chair), or at the end of the day when my brain is relaxed enough to unwind. I write in a small book called “Mom’s One Line a Day: A Five-Year Memory Book“. Truth be told, it’s actually 5 lines. Less pressure, and a nice pretty package. That’s my kind of diary.

BRAIN DUMP

Got a ton of creative ideas? Or big bucket list plans but just can’t organize it in your brain? Grab yourself a notebook and start a makeshift bullet journal and dump those ideas on paper. It is cathartic to be able to transfer some of those big brain ideas on to something tangible. I like to think it’s similar to taking that mixed bag of nuts (your thoughts) and placing them nice and neatly in separate containers (on paper).  

Sometimes a brain dump on paper isn’t as pretty as writing lists or creating mind maps (or what my kiddos like to call spider bubbles). I may be talking about creative ideas and future business ventures. But sometimes you just have to stay true to the term – BRAIN. DUMP. Dump all your ideas on to paper. Your worries, your fears, what you want to do about it. However it comes to you, dump it. And then sort it out and organize your thoughts and plans later. Just get it out of your brain.

NETFLIX/PRIME TV/DISNEY + BINGE

Binge is often seen as such a negative concept. But when Netflix/Prime TV was introduced with the availability of entire seasons for easy accessibility – this beautiful concept of binge watching was born. Like reading, there is a natural inclination to get swept away into the abyss of fictional storytelling. And what better time to do that, than the present. I highly recommend choosing a selected movie/series that the whole family can enjoy to fill up some of those “free” hours you have during the day. And for those closet Rom-com international movie lovers out there, add those to your watch list for the evening after the kiddos are fast asleep. You deserve it mama… So binge away!

GO FOR A DRIVE (And stay in the car)

Again – this is a topic of sensitivity as once again, it’s technically not staying home. And the drastic decrease of smog in our current world as a whole, is absolutely mind blowing. So I’m not going to strongly encourage it as a regular thing. But if you are so compelled to get out of your house, need a quick fix, and your kids are jonesing for a short adventure – I don’t think it would do much harm to drive to a fun crowd-free spot, overlooking that gorgeous, smog-free city of yours, and having some quality time with your little passengers. 

The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.comGET DIGITAL AND CONNECT

We are SO lucky to live in a time that connecting with our loved ones is as easy as a push of a button. No one has to guess how we’re doing and where we’re at, because at any given moment and with one simple click, we are connected. To our loved ones, our teachers, our coworkers, even our best friend’s dogs. We have an opportunity to play games (board games, digi games, or otherwise) virtually, watch movies together, enjoy a glass of wine, continue our moms night out, even have a birthday celebration with a bunch of your close cousins – all on one beautiful app that makes it super easy for us. Jump on this opportunity, because at this point, there isn’t much choice.

The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.comLet your kids connect safely with their friends. My husband and I are still on the fence about allowing our little one to have her own kid’s messenger account – but we see the benefits of getting her involved in good old fashioned one-on-one conversation with her peers. Heck, you can even have virtual playdates on the backyard trampoline and get that blood flowing again. Goodness knows, at the end of this she will be all adulted-out. And toddler sibling’ed out as well. We’re also looking at this online interaction with her peers as good practice for writing and reading. Shhh…. don’t tell her about my hidden agenda. 

EAT THAT TREAT AND INDULGE… Within Reason

This can get tricky because it’s easy to fall into the trap of emotional eating – and believe me – as a past emotional eating addict, there’s never a time for me to encourage that. However, there is nothing wrong with finding comfort in certain meals or snacks, and yes, treats. It was my daughter’s birthday just at the beginning of the social distancing recommendation in our country – and I felt absolutely no guilt in enjoying a couple pieces of strawberry short cake. The birthday girl’s favorite, as well as mine. It gave us as a family – pure joy to eat and be together while partaking. We not only indulge in the overwhelmingly delicious taste, but in the entire experience. Guilt free. Pure goodness.

But all things in moderation…

Every night since we’ve been on lockdown – I’ve been allowing myself to have my go-to snacks. But before I go for the second or third round, I stop and think about how hard I worked to get here (6 months of mindful eating). And I walk away proud that I acknowledged my own hard work, and that I didn’t let my emotions eat away at all my progress.

Now if indulging on a pair of edible baby cheeks counts, then we are all in!

The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.comKNOW THAT THIS IS TEMPORARY

It’s easy to think that this is a forever thing because we keep hearing the word “indefinite” or “until further notice”, and other than following the patterns and global odometers, we really don’t know what’s going to happen in the foreseeable future. But just as much, I have heard the word, temporary. As long as we keep doing our part and encouraging our community to do the same – adhering to the rules of social distancing, exercising good hand hygiene, and listening to the recommendations of the professionals – there is a way to flatten the curve and put an end to this madness. There is an end to this. We just have to trust that it will happen sooner rather than later.

Meanwhile, in this opportune moment, why not stop and look at ourselves and our homes objectively. What can we do to improve how we run our household. How we think. How we teach. Who we surround ourselves with. How we make the best use of our time. How we invest our emotions. It’s like a mental purge – a clean slate – an opportunity to start fresh.

And by allowing ourselves to just make the best of our situation in our own homes with our own family, we are inadvertently saying to ourselves that we are valuing this time together, because soon enough – we will be back to everyday life. No doubt, life, as we know it going forward, will forever be changed.

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I know it’s easy to forget to brush your hair, change out of your comfy pjs, and resort to a quick swish and spit – because let’s face it, why waste time, energy, and resources if we’re not going to see anyone outside the house? But the truth is, we have to show up for OURSELVES… and our families. And a good way to do that, is to at the very least – appear like we value our own sense of “put together-ness”. Yes, on paper, it doesn’t seem logical, or even practical, but it’s a known fact, that taking that extra 5 – 10 minutes in the morning to set yourself up for a good day, will inevitably lead to a good day. At least at the onset. There’s nothing better than knowing you at least look the part of a mom boss, even though you don’t exactly feel like one. Remember – there’s nothing wrong with faking it ’til you make it. Once in awhile anyway…

EAT HEALTHY (Or at Least Try)

Since our days at the gym or barre class have come to an abrupt end, and turning on a workout video in my living room with two very active and anti-anything-mom-would-enjoy-watching-on-tv kids in close proximity – exercise is pretty much a no-go. At least in the traditional sense of gym memberships and pilates classes. It’s important to not let all your hard work of maintaining a healthy lifestyle fall by the wayside. And if being concerned about your health and lifestyle wasn’t a top item on your priority list, perhaps this is the time to start. Keeping our immunity in its optimal state is so important for not only our physical health and to ward off any unwanted viruses, but also for our mental health. At the very least, by increasing our vitamin D to make up for spending most of our days indoors, and upping our Vitamin C to keep our immunity in tip top shape, we are doing what we can to protect ourselves and our family. Don’t get me wrong – I spent a few of the first few days indulging in some vices I dare not speak of (as it will bring back some of those cravings by the mere mention of it – ahem… chips) – but keeping our physical health in check is a wonderful (and often dismissed) way of keeping our anxiety to a minimum.

I know it’s difficult to opt for fresh and whole foods at this time as we are trying to keep our shopping days down to a minimum, and money for luxury food items may not be as available this next little while, so give yourself grace and acknowledge that this is all temporary. If the option to be healthy is there, give it a whirl. But again – at this point, we can only do the best we can.

START THAT CREATIVE PROJECT AND BE OKAY WITH THE MESS

Remember what I said about believing this is all temporary? Well – that means we have a small opportunity to get started with that creative project you’ve been dying to get into. For me, it’s writing that song I’ve been postponing for… 9 years. Goodness knows I have a ton of material to work with – now it’s just a matter of getting it down on paper and played on the keyboard. Another creative project is picking up a new hobby. Learning how to knit. Starting that blog. Starting that book you’ve been talking about writing for years. And like anything else – starting something new is going to be messy. Don’t worry mama, you’ll get to cleaning it up in no time. Once you just start, the momentum will come naturally and before you know it, you’ll be nose deep in new ideas and ready to tell the world (or your partner) all about it. Just stop thinking about it – and get on it!

BRING MUSIC INTO THE HOME

Whether you listen to music or play, bring it back into the home. Silence is a lovely thing too – but sometimes music can transcend us. Whether you’re tackling a new instrument, or dusting off the piano keys from your concert piano days, or simply turning on Spotify to let someone else perform the magic for you – music is a great way to tune out some of those inevitable mood and mind busters.The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.com The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.comCHECK IN WITH YOURSELF – BE INTROSPECTIVE AND LISTEN

I was just telling a friend about how this whole thing will make it very clear who are innately introverted and who are extroverted. To my surprise, I have come to realize that I could very well be an introvert trapped in an extrovert’s body. I am typically a colorful and loud person and it is no secret that I love connection, but I’ve come to the shocking revelation that I don’t actually thrive solely on <in-person> connection. Not as much as I thought I did anyway. I am happy to write long, epic letters, novella texts, and even chat on the phone (while looking nervously at the time passing by) – but I realized that I’m not in a huge rush to be around big groups of people. It doesn’t appeal to me as much as it used to. I’m sure this, like everything else, is variable and could very well be just a phase – but I do realize ever since becoming a parent, my outlook on life and need for ongoing connection has changed. It’s been even more apparent now,  given the current circumstances of being forced into seclusion with my family at home – I have never felt so… myself. I realized what truly brings me joy isn’t all the extraneous noise that I invite in, or exude out to others. It’s the quiet and comfort of being safe at home with my tiny little crew. I am finding myself blissfully living out the mantra “there’s no place like home”.

The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.comPRAY/MEDITATE

I consider our little family of four a devout Catholic family. We attend mass, participate in faith-based community gatherings, and follow the readings of the church. Because of the state of our world right now – we are not given the opportunity to do much of these things (although, online masses, is kind of a neat and progressive way to make things happen). But the one thing we have ongoing access to is prayer and meditation. I’m not one to force my faith on anyone, but I do urge you, to take this moment to reflect, pray if your faith inspires you to do so, and seek refuge in your own level of reflection and meditation. Other than adhering to social distancing and basic hand hygiene, we don’t have much control over the situation at hand. So digging into your own belief systems to get you through the day to day is a beautiful way to do so. It’s free, it’s open ended, and it can only do your mind some good. And we all need a good dose of “good”. Find your higher power, surrender, and trust we will all get through this.

The Impact of Social Distancing on Mom's Mental Health and How to Alleviate Anxiety www.sassandsmalls.comThese are all the little shifts in mindset that I’ve been able to implement as a mom in light of what’s happening in the world today. It’s important to know what works best for you and where your level of anxiety rests. I’m finding that taking little bits and pieces of ideas from other mamas is also an effective way to ease some of that anxiety that’s been creeping up into my everyday. Know that you are not alone, and we’re all in this together. Separated. Isolated from one another. But together.

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What are some ways you have been able to alleviate some of the understandable worries and anxiety that have come with the current state of the world?

Mama…you may feel alone, but you’re not. 

Deb B. www.sassandsmalls.com

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**A special and humble “thank you” for all the essential workers that are on the front lines of this global pandemic. You are showing up, so we can stay home and be safe. Stay well, stay safe, and God speed… 

Filed Under: quarantine chronicles, Sass & Smalls gets real, self care, the everyday Tagged With: Anxiety, book, brain dump, corona virus, covid 19, family, Home, journalling, media, mental health, mom life, netflix, news, pandemic, reading, self distancing, self isolation, worry, Zoom

About Deb B.

Deb Balino is the voice behind Sass & Smalls, host of the newly launched Podcast - Sass & Small Talk, and a mom of two - an artistic and quirky 11-year-old, and an outspoken, homewrecking, retro music loving, 4-year-old. A décor and style enthusiast, as well as a home systems hack creator, with a mildly concerning obsession of all things "bin-worthy", Deb enjoys sharing products, experiences, progressive ideas, and simple shifts in mindset that has helped her family navigate the beautiful chaos of parenting. Deb is also a homeschool teacher, partially by choice, partially pandemic-inspired, while advocating and caring for her parents as an active member of the Sandwich Generation. With vulnerability, and a dash of humour - she shares the reality of her world, all while keeping things as sassy as they once were before the drool, meltdowns, and potty mishaps entered the picture.

Her creative ideas, lengthy storytelling, and everyday musings have been featured on Huffington Post, Yahoo Style, BBC News, and YMC.CA

Comments

  1. Kileen says

    April 15, 2020 at 9:32 pm

    These are such awesome ideas with dealing with all of this craziness! I know there are times I need to take a break and get outside in order to unwind!!

    Kileen
    cute & little

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    • Surabhi says

      May 17, 2020 at 10:34 pm

      Great tips! Taking the break from the news is definitely needed
      Reply
  2. Jordan | Read. Eat. Repeat. says

    April 16, 2020 at 6:59 am

    Great tips. I don’t really struggle with anxiety, but when I do feel stressed reading, exercise, and prayer are what help pull me out. Also I totally agree about taking a break from the news. I consume almost no ‘news’ and just rely on my husband to tell me if something big happened because it can be a black hole of negativity that sucks you in.
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  3. Tami says

    April 16, 2020 at 7:31 am

    Escaping through t.v. has worked but it isn’t resolving the anxiety long-term. I think journaling along with some prayer might just be the answer I’m looking for. I have an empty journal … somewhere.
    Reply
  4. Amber says

    April 16, 2020 at 9:29 am

    I am just a ball of stress right now and we were hustling to sell our home and keeping it clean is basically impossible with everyone working/schooling from home right now. Our house is under contract now and I am actually relaxing… a little. I stopped paying attention to the news so much and feel like that has helped with some of the anxiety of everything going on out there.
    Reply
  5. Christa says

    April 17, 2020 at 5:55 am

    It’s such an unusual time. Trying to maintain healthy habits is difficult but so important. I need to follow your advice and limit my watching of the news.
    Reply
  6. Josephine Bokuniewicz says

    May 17, 2020 at 9:44 pm

    OH man, yes – I’m already an anxious person and this definitely makes it worse! It doesn’t help that I’m a teacher, so I’m teaching from home – which means I like never leave the house! These are great ideas though! I actually started my blog in quarantine and it’s helped a lot! It keeps me busy and I have less time to be anxious!
    Reply
  7. Holly says

    May 18, 2020 at 5:46 pm

    This is so important!
    Reply
  8. Ashley J Newton says

    May 20, 2020 at 10:00 am

    I have definitely stayed away from the news. It helps a lot, along with lots of talking. Just getting those feelings out.
    Reply
  9. Megan | Bookstacks & Golden Moms says

    August 30, 2020 at 8:46 am

    I absolutely love those Star Wars books for little readers 🙂 My kids have so much fun with them!
    Reply
  10. Auntu Alin says

    February 1, 2021 at 10:10 am

    Your blog is really amazing. I found it really helpful and practical. During this lockdown, everything has changed so much. And a huge impact is seen on our social behavior as well as our mental health. But we should overcome it in a good way. You helped us find better ways.

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He stood in line for the balloon dome and said quietly, trying , “I got zero eggs, mama.”

You heard him. Your son, who seemed a bit overwhelmed himself covering his ears from all the noise, and your little girl, reached into their own baskets and filled my son’s bag.

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If anyone in the Westshore community knows this lovely family (dad of Grayson?), please tag them or send them our thanks.

This is what #community looks like. 🐣💛

#SandwichGeneration #GlassChild #NeurodivergentMom #MomGuilt #CommunityLove #WestshoreBC #VictoriaMoms #RoyalBayColwood #RealEasterMagic #SmallKindnessBigImpact
She podcasts. She parents. She’s got a 🌶️ She podcasts. 
She parents. 
She’s got a 🌶️ 🧠.
She’s fresh outta burnout mode.
She sips #HappyJ.
And now, with🎙️in hand… she’s streaming on @TELUS @STORYHIVE (because even #actionfigures need a l’il 📺 airtime).

Hey, I’m Deb B., host of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast — a podcast turned video series where we get real about #parenting and #caregiver #burnout, and find joy in the messy middle.

Fueled by my go-to fix-the-gut-fix-the-burnout potion🥤, a l’il bit of tears, and a whole lotta sass, this season brings on the reality of living in the #burnout generation, with guests who will leave you asking yourself “where have they been all my life?”

Because we are DONE glorifying busy.
We’re saying YES to rest.
And HEEEECK YES to finding our joy once again. #INeedMySassBack

Catch the Pod Edition now on TELUS OptikTV Ch 9, Stream+, and on #Storyhive YouTube (Search Storyhive Sass Small Talk) Link on my bio for Episodes 1 & 2.

🦉 Sexy Studio. ✔️ I 👀 @haus.of.owl 
🛋️ Cozy couch. ✔️
🎙️ Good convo. ✔️
🥹 Big feelings. ✔️
🤩 And even bigger lashes. ✔️✔️✔️

LET’S TALK. 

Oh and PS - wanna know how to get your action figure #animated? Follow me, write “SASS”, and let me know what your action figure would be in the comments below and I’ll hook you up. 

#SassAndSmalls #TelusStoryhive #HappyJEnergy #GoodbyeBurnout #SmallTalkBigFeels #actionfigure #barbie #AI #Amare #happyblend #cortisol
When life gives you burnout… do squats. 🍑 In When life gives you burnout… do squats. 🍑

In Episode 2 of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast “Reclaiming Joy of #Parenthood Beyond Burnout”, I take on the ultimate #challenge:
Fitting fitness into my already chaotic #caregiving, #homeschooling, always behind the wheel, #neurodivergent navigating, mom-life schedule. 🧠🎢💪

Add to the mix, a busy 🧠 that thrives on chaos and fun? Why not #gamify? Moms- let’s do the #TriggerWordChallenge!! Every time your kids say (aka “demand”, I mean c’mon now…) “MOM!”, do a squat! In the kitchen, while cleaning, cooking, folding laundry. Just don’t do it driving! #safetyfirst

For this episode, Every time *I* said the word “lash” — yep, I squat. 😅

Joining me is none other than Victoria’s go-to #LashLady, who most would call a client-proclaimed “lash-a-pist” and certified #fitness coach, Emily Bowman @nevaehjade.beautywellness, who’s here to talk #burnout, #beauty, and #body movement. And I’m here to try and master the world’s most chaotic squat routine. 🙃

Side note: Psssst… your girl hasn’t done a squat since before the Pandy of 2020 so this may be nbd to the average person, but it’s quite literally a miracle ⛪️ for 🙋🏻‍♀️. #whateverworks #amIright?

Catch more laughter, squats, Yoga-envy 🧘🏻‍♀️, words of wisdom, and a tear or two…  on the full episode 🎙️NOW STREAMING on a 📺 near you. @Telus OptikTV (search “Storyhive Sass” on Demand), Ch. 9, Stream+ app, @storyhive YouTube

Comment “Squat” if you want the full episode link on @storyhive‘s YouTube. But it’s even more fun on TV, so try that first! We sure are…

#SassAndSmallTalk #SquatGoals #BurnoutAndBootyGains #bunsofsteel #LashLadyTakesOver #NeurodivergentMomLife #CaregiverFitness #SquatWhileYouCan #HomeschoolChaos #MomLifeUnfiltered #VictoriaBC #StoryHive #ReclaimYourJoy #JLoGotNothingOnMe
The PREMIERE episode is now LIVE on a 📺 near yo The PREMIERE episode is now LIVE on a 📺 near you!

SASS & SMALL TALK “Reclaiming the Joy of Parenthood, Beyond Burnout” is NOW STREAMING on @TELUS OptikTV, Ch. 9, Stream+, and @storyhive. 

“Join Deb and local lifestyle creator and entrepreneur, Natasha Mills of @mommamillsblog. Natasha reveals her bold shift from a successful corporate career to building a personal brand from home, striving for family balance while advocating for her community in Victoria, BC. Will this new path bring the joy she seeks, or will it come with its own set of challenges and #burnout? Tune in for an inspiring discussion on making a #careerpivot, finding purpose, and evolving as a recovering high achiever.”

Recorded & Produced @haus.of.owl @nikkye_music @jakerfilms @eric.thebald @remy.is.remy @hoelune 

@sassandsmalltalkpodcast is made possible with the support from TELUS STORYHIVE, and is available for free on
TELUS Optik TV, CH.9, and Stream+

#watchlocal #SassAndSmallTalk #ParenthoodUnfiltered #MomBurnout  #ParentingPodcast #StoryHive #VictoriaBC #MentalWellnessMatters #twinmom #momprenuer #burnoutrecovery #twinfamily
Calling in the troops. 🫠🔥 Because burnout is Calling in the troops. 🫠🔥
Because burnout is real—and so is the comeback.

Meet the incredible guests of the debut Season on TELUS StoryHive of “Sass & Small Talk: Reclaiming the Joy of Parenthood Beyond Burnout” 🎙️

After years of #caregiving, #homeschooling, and navigating life in a #neurodivergent family… I hit a wall. 

Hello, #Burnout. 👋 

But thanks to @telus and the @storyhive Video Podcast Program, I sat down with fellow parents, experts, and some of the most resilient humans right here in Victoria, BC to have the conversations we ALL need.

Together, we talk burnout, grief, the mental load of parenting, partnership, career pivots, and what it really takes to reclaim joy and purpose in the thick of #parenting and caregiving. 

Made in the community. For the community. 

📍Filmed at: @hausofowl
🎤 Featuring:
@mommamillsblog @nevaehjade.beautywellness @glowjar_ 
@truedad.community 
@minimaggie 
@sacred_advantage 
@sarjo08 
@scarletjaxen

Episodes 1 & 2 NOW streaming on TELUS OptikTV Ch. 9, Stream+, Storyhive YouTube. One episode drop every Tuesday until May 20th. 

This is for the #caregivers. The #sandwichgen. #Parents rebuilding from burnout with community, courage, and a whole lotta sass. 💬

#CallingInTheTroops
#SassAndSmallTalk #ParenthoodUnfiltered #CaregiverBurnout #NeurodivergentFamily #MomBurnout #ReclaimYourJoy #ParentingPodcast #StoryHive #VictoriaBC #MentalWellnessMatters 
#watchLocalTV
AUTISTIC BURNOUT :: Did you know there was such a AUTISTIC BURNOUT :: Did you know there was such a thing?

Me Neither! 

But it sure helped me understand my #neurdodivergent not-so-baby teen daughter who has been in #burnout mode for years. Gaining understanding of this aspect of burnout helps us find ways to cope when it creeps up on us as parents - and especially for our children. 

Here’s a #behindthescenes look of my talk on @sassandsmalltalkpodcast filmed at the amazing creative studios of @haus.of.owl with @kkayjudas at @sacred_advantage. She is our wonderful guest and a dear friend (and incredible advocate for my daughter specifically), who shares insight and personal experience on #autisticburnout in this raw and honest interview about how she navigated (continues to navigate) life on the spectrum especially during burnout. I may or may not have shed a tear… or 10… 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tune in on @telus OptikTV Channel 9, stream+ on MAY 6th, and @storyhive YouTube on May 27th  to watch this compelling episode. 

And giving extra love to my beautiful and talented daughter who fine tuned the edit of this video! How blessed am I to be the mama of this creative young lady. Now gimme my phone back!!! 🤨

Have you or a loved one experienced Autistic Burnout?
Behind every #sandwichgeneration #entrepreneural # Behind every #sandwichgeneration #entrepreneural #homeschool #mom with #ADHD and #spicy kids, is: 
• a floor filled with painful-to-step-on toys and crafts
• Sniffly kiddos every few weeks 
• nothing crossed off her to-do list
• hundreds of unanswered texts/emails
• and a #mentalload sometimes too overwhelming to carry 

But unlike all the other gloomy seasons I’ve experienced this tough season, I have never felt such peace. 

WHY: 

• I have been walking through my #faithjourney with George and it’s been giving me a different outlook on everything life has thrown our way. My sistas in faith have kept us afloat this tough season @esther.driver @caarly.xo @lishgarv @nicoleacaldwell 

• I have been intentional on fixing my #guthealth, #cortisollevels, and #cognitivefunction with my daily #HJ #happy blend drink, and it has done wonders to my #mentalwellness  and overall health. <DM me for more info on this game changer drink>.

• I’ve been learning to just live in the moment and not be so caught up with doing EVERYTHING all at once. 

• I’m surrounding myself (albeit virtually and in spirit) with some of my chosen fam who probably get the most neglect of all, but still give me grace while I clumsily navigate this crazy season @nengineermom @rahannavu  @iamharpsra 
@m_stiggity 
@jenny_p1987  @westislanddesigns @kkayjudas @teacuphuman09 @i_am_miss_jen @swanny80 @trishita_namagita 

• Even though my business relies heavily on my #online presence, I’m giving myself grace for fully immersing myself in the needs of my family this last month I’ve been MIA. I know I can pick up where I left off, and lean on my mentors & biz sistas to pull me out of the seasonal funk @caitoaks @mommamillsblog, @happybalancemama @sweetmamalifedaily, and get back on track. 

Busy, overwhelmed mama… I see you. This is just a season. Do what you need to do, especially for you and your loved ones. Everything will still be there ready for you to “tackle” when you’re ready. 

And what losing two loved ones these last couple weeks has taught me - we’re only here temporarily. Spend your time earthside doing what you love, and loving who you love. @gjavier5 ❤️
No amount of “juice” can lessen the exposure t No amount of “juice” can lessen the exposure to elementary school winter bugs, but it sure came in handy when we need it IN & OUT of our household. 

Especially since I have elderly under my care. 

It skipped George and I entirely - but it definitely hit our two little ones, as bugs do. 

After a nice, tall glass of kid’s #HJ (mixed with some mango edge+ for my bigger and pickier smallie) - along with a nice snuggly nap - the symptoms were way less vicious than previous colds, and gone by the time I blended them their dose the next morning. 

It’s not some miracle drink with empty promises - it’s just ALL the good stuff in a glass. 

DM me if you want a sip for yourself or your sniffly kiddos. I’m telling you, our overall health and wellness as a family, has improved, since focusing on our #guthealth.

There is no price too high to pay for overall #wellness.

#happyblend #amare #fluseason
Impromptu check-in with my girl, Nicole from @happ Impromptu check-in with my girl, Nicole from @happybalancemama talking about all things #Amare. The reality behind #burnout,  #mentalwellness, finding our way through the everyday challenges and #mentalload of #motherhood, and how both of our lives have SHIFTED dramatically since starting our journey with fixing our #guthealth. 

#happyblend #juice #GBX #gutbrainconnection #gutbrainaxis #gutbrainhealth #gutbrain #motherhood #overwhelm
C O R T I S O L :: If you’re anything like me, y C O R T I S O L :: If you’re anything like me, you’ve tried to amp up in overall wellness - doing ALL the things…  and nothing worked 🪀🪀🪀🪀🪀 

ME THEN:(4.5 mnths + 4 decades ago)

• Cortisol levels out of control 
• Made self-sabotaging choices 
 • giving into sugar cravings
 • staying up all night doom 
  scrolling & researching 
  how to “fix” my life/kids/home 
  leading to #burnout
• Poor time management
• Emotionally charged and reactive due to poor quality sleep 

• What REALLY needed the most help - was my GUT. <ENTER #HJ #Amare #cortisolcontrol>

ME NOW: 

• Boost in: mood, motivation, metabolism, energy
• reduced bloating and inflammation
• Cravings gone, due to regulated blood sugar
• #cortisol #puffyface gone
• Better quality and DEEPER sleep
• Balanced hormones
• Improved cognitive function and no brain fog

** ADDED BONUS: A more organized home 
** DOUBLE ADDED BONUS: I’m the best mom I have ever been for my kiddos: ⬇️ reactive, ⬆️stress resilience

✨✨What I’m doing 👇🏼✨✨

• I mixed these two (or three) very simple supplements (EASY for my busy brain)
• First Supplement: Mood/Motivation/Metabolism - decreased bloating 
• Second supplement: Balanced hormones & mental wellness, improved skin, deeper sleep

2025 - I’m here for ya. BRING. IT. ON.

Comment CORTISOL OR just DM me, and I’ll send you more info and a link! 🥳
LIVE:: Sass & Small Chats with my girl Nicole @hap LIVE:: Sass & Small Chats with my girl Nicole @happybalancemama, before Mama Duty calls!  Chatting all things “Happy Blend”. We’ll do another spontaneous Live 2.0 when it’s not so nice outside!! For now - here’s a little bit of my personal experience with the Happy Blend  and how it’s made major shifts in mine and my family’s lives.  #30DayMentalwellnesschallenge
G R I N C H :: Just over here dreaming of a #green G R I N C H :: Just over here dreaming of a #greenChristmas when the kids and I had more time, energy, and gumption to do community deliveries to our local heroes. 

Since the #Pandemic, this little tradition of ours have stopped but our gratitude remains. @saanichpolice @saanichfiredepartment, Victoria Fertility Clinic, Sherwood Dental, and some of our buds who held our hands through our #grief and #fertility journey. 

Sigh. Was fun while it lasted. 

Thank you @dee_monster_girl @adammessana  @fiendwithoutaface87 for the inspo.

#throwback #grinch #Christmas
#NationalFamilyCaregiversMonth #november P I N K #NationalFamilyCaregiversMonth #november 

P I N K :: I recently learned that flamingos lose their pink when caring for others (notably, mom flamingos) —and I felt that deeply this past year. When my sweet elderly Mama had an unfortunate fall, resulting in emergency surgery, an extended hospital stay, and complete dependence on full time care, I was torn between moving in and being there for her full-time, caring for my sick kids and husband, homeschooling, and managing my business. 

I lost my pink.

Everything else—work, plans, even my son’s birthday—had to wait. Our home was a mess, appointments were missed, mistakes were made, friendships were tested, and the mental load was heavy. But nothing compared to watching my once strong Mama feel powerless as she leaned into the support she needed but once resisted.

My Mom lost her pink. 

It was a season of sacrifice, but now returning the equipment, that helped with her recovery, is a moment I’ll never forget.  I can now see from a clear lens, that working together as a family (my own family, my brother’s, my parents), we made it through, with the power of faith, a supportive community and amazing and understanding friends, love, and especially prayer.

It feels so good to stand back and see the full picture. And best of all… 

Both my Mama and I got our pink back.

@redcrosscanada 

#Caregiving #FamilyFirst #Gratitude #FlamingoFeels #FaithAndFamily
M A G G I E :: 🎉 Some #BTS #onthepod @sassandsm M A G G I E :: 🎉 Some #BTS #onthepod @sassandsmalltalkpodcast with my long lost twin and the hilariously brilliant MAGGIE of @thecatmompodcast ! We’re diving deep into life with a #SpicyBrain 🧠, talking all things #ADHD, and how she’s been navigating motherhood, chaos, and #burnout like the absolute rockstar she is. 💥

🎂 Oh, and did I mention it’s her #BIRTHDAY today?! 🎈 Be sure to give @minimaggie ALL the love in the comments! 🥳👇🏻

This episode, filmed at @haus.of.owl, is packed with so much relatable insight (and laughter... SO. MUCH. LAUGHTER 😂). Catch it #comingsoon #2025 on @TELUS OptikTV @storyhive! You won’t want to miss this one. 💬🎙️

Life just got a little more interesting @gjavier5 @ianshockeycards. Our apologies in advance… #doubletrouble 👭🏻
MY. FAM. IS. THRIVING. That is all. DM (and Fo MY. FAM. IS. THRIVING. 

That is all. 

DM (and Follow me) for deets on this amazing EASY 30sec Wellness supplement (and other #Amare Go-tos) that has elevated this family from shaking things up in the gut (bye 💩 probs), to clearing things up in the 🧠 (Wait - they actually WANT to learn? 🤯) … NOTHING ELSE has worked THIS GOOD for this family of Neuro-Ds. 

It’s not just some magic fix. 
It’s au naturale. Backed by science.
It’s #guthealth.
It’s #cognitivefunction.
Down to the cellular level.

✨ Sidenote: “Thriving” doesn’t mean, perfect, always happy, or that everyone is ALWAYS on the same page. 

That would just be weird. 

It means: 
• our target areas of concern (individually) are being addressed. 
• less chaos, more peace. 
• less reactive, less defensive
• more motivation, less resistance

We’re all collectively on our way to overall physical and mental wellness. 

And the best part is - all the kids care about is that it tastes darrrrrrrrn good. 

So what are you waiting for?
C O N N E C T I O N :: Now that George and I are b C O N N E C T I O N :: Now that George and I are both focusing on our COLLECTIVE #cortisolbalance - both our relationship and our kids benefit from these changes: 

• no longer reactive (to each other/kids)
• more playful with the kids, no longer irritable 
• have the #mentalclarity to pause and let each other have a say
• more well-rested - due to resisting #sleeprevenge (guys, I actually WANT to sleep now!! WHAT!??) 
• less overwhelm by everyday stressors
• tackle to-dos faster, together - procrastination completely not our thing anymore

** And the best and most shocking of them all… I am no longer impulsive with needless, emotional-spending, and that alone is a 🎁 for George! 

So many men and women in our age group are struggling like we were, only a few months ago.

This healthy cortisol mocktail is a daily favorite, takes 30 seconds to make, and is filled with adaptogens and healthy ingredients!

Comment CORTISOL and I’ll send you what we’ve been using to get to the bottom of our cortisol issues. WITH a $10 discount + 10% savings. 

✨ follow me for more simple tips for cortisol, weight, sleep, and stress for mamas and our partners too!

✨ Make sure you are following me to get the DM!

P. S. my husband prioritizes my daily intake as much as his own because we both know - “Happy wifey, easier Lifey” 😂☺️
P A R T N E R S H I P :: Our live discussion with P A R T N E R S H I P :: Our live discussion with Graham Meckling, Author, Coach, Educator, Community builder - as he launches his amazing and groundbreaking Online community at @truedad.community.

With focus on building the foundation as a team/partnership/family even PRIOR to becoming one, and how it’s a complete Gamechanger when faced with the reality of parenting in the coming years. 

Be sure to share this with any new parents-to-be who might need this resource - a sibling, a friend, a coworker, a distant cousin who you only seem to know on IG - we all know someone who might feel a little lost as they navigate this new chapter in their lives. This is not your everyday community - so grab a spot and find the community you never really know you needed! 

Seasoned parents - Graham’s book “Babies Don’t talk” has wonderful insights that are just as applicable to any stage of parenting as it is for the new parent - so GRAB YOUR COPY! I did and George and I ate it right up!
Found her. • • And right behind this once #b Found her. 
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And right behind this once #burntout #Mama, finding her way back into her element again, sass-inclusive, are these #behindthescenes (behind the camera/desk/computer/headphones) MIRACLE WORKERS at @hausofowl. I have so much love for you guys. Thank you. 

@nikkye_music 
@hoelune 
@remy.is.remy 
@jakerfilms 

Not seen here but will pop up here and there as I catch them in action 🤞🏼 hint hint): @laaain_music @eric.thebald 

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And none of this would’ve even been a thang if it weren’t for the Video Podcast Grant Program with @telus @storyhive. Life changing is an understatement. Thank you @made.by.donny & @thereallindakee for encouraging your girl to take the plunge with @sassandsmalltalkpodcast 

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And the energy and gumption to keep me resilient, and in tip top shape to host my own show, and lead my own project - kudos to my girl @mommamillsblog who introduced me to the very #cortisoldrink I needed to amp up. And @caitoaks who also reminds me I got this. My gut and brain thank you both. #bestteamever

And my love, @gjavier5 - I’m doing this not just for me but for us and our little peeps. Thank you for leading the cheering squad and “assisting”
me when I need it most. Hope to make you guys proud. ❤️ 

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Moral of the story, in getting that dang SASS back: 
✨ Take Risks
✨ Get your gut health in check 🥤
✨ Find your peeps 
✨ Tell them how awesome they are

DM me, watch my stories, click on my bio links if you want in on any of this good stuff! 🥤 + 🎙️ + 💰📺

✨Be sure to give a little ❤️ to my 13 year old Smallie who helped me level up with this reel with her magic touch. #ASD #autism #thisishomeschool #homeschooler #mygirl #techgirl #daughter
I’m 1/2 a century, baby. #HappyBirthday to me, i I’m 1/2 a century, baby. #HappyBirthday to me, indeed.
#thisisme

And life just got a little sweeter. 

It’s not some secret recipe, or some overcomplicated skin regimen. 

It’s #faith
Motivation
The want
The humility to accept help
The unconditional love from family
Learning to say no to the wrong, and yes to the right. 

I took a chance on ME a few months ago, and since then, have seen a shift in myself.

I dreaded this #milestonebirthday for the last 10 years. I dreaded ESPECIALLY, being transparent to ANYONE… even my own kids. 

But it dawned on me. 

(With the help of my fellow #hypewoman gals that gave me the gentle nudge to OWN my age, not hide it) @sweetmamalifedaily  @nengineermom @mommamillsblog  @caitoaks  @lilkeez @iamharpsra  @rahannavu @mstiggity

Why hide it? 
What am I scared of? 

I DID IT!

I hit 1/2 a century, I survived 9 brutal pregnancy losses, and held one of them in my arms. I looked death in the eye, and through prayer and community - I came out of it alive and kicking. AND thriving.

It wasn’t my time. I still have work to do here. 

But even with these life altering moments in my life, I STILL:
• made bad health choices
• stretched myself to max capacity
• said YES to things that stifled my growth.
• said NO to hard things that meant growth
• lived in debilitating fear, daily
• allowed my #adhd to paralyze, not enhance my life
• had horrible boundaries… correction… I had no boundaries 

It took 50 years, (3 months ago, to be exact), but I found exactly what I needed: 
• A deeper connection with God
• Gratitude
• A go-to, easy #cortisol #drink that balances out those darn hormones, and targets my #Mentalwellness #HJ 
• Forgiveness and freedom from past hurts 
• An awesome studio to do my craft @haus.of.owl
• A killer program that funds said craft @Telus @storyhive 
• A loving approach #wifey, #specialneeds Mama & #caregiver Daughter
• Self Compassion
• And the GUMPTION to follow (FIX) my Gut. 

Thank you to those who remembered when I chose to forget, that turning 50 is a blessing, not a curse. 

DM me or comment 50 if you want in on this big secret.
✨ I N S I D E * O U T ✨ :: If you wanna see ho ✨ I N S I D E * O U T ✨ :: If you wanna see how HAPPY J blend has made a difference for me, and coincidentally - the family - take a look at our Behind the scenes of this year’s Inside Out FAM-O-WEEN —an honest, messy, and very real snapshot of our year. 2024 was a DOOZY. 

From frustration, to resistance, to acceptance, to finding Joy again (with a DAILY DOSE of HAPPY J and a whoooooole lotta Jesus) - each character felt like a reflection of this year’s whirlwind of emotions. It’s been a time of big decisions, finding our footing, embracing transitions, more sleepless nights,  a diagnosis we’ve been waiting a decade for, falls, accidents, sickness - the whole shebang of emotions. 

And then #anxiety reared its ugly head.  In full force. 

But, alongside family and close friends, Faith, and some yummy sips of a healthy supplement, carried us through. 

In a year that stretched us to our limits, this shoot felt like the perfect way to honour all the “inside out” moments we’ve faced. So here’s to the messy, the joyful, and even the challenging times that shape who we are. From deep #burnout and anxiety to discovering our faith and mental wellness, I’m stepping into the next chapter with a full heart and maybe a few more laughs (even if I’m a year older 😉).

Here’s to growth, gratitude, and whatever’s next. #FamOWeen2024 #InsideOutLife #EmotionalYear #insideout #FindingJoy #Milestonebirthday
#NewChapter #amare #happyblend #hj #happyjuice

Music - AndreaDatzman, 
BENJIxScarlett, TheeOnlyJanessahhh
E M O T I O N S :: #HAPPYHALLOWEEN #FAMOWEEN editi E M O T I O N S :: #HAPPYHALLOWEEN #FAMOWEEN edition! 

2024 has been quite the year of change for us all. Emotions have been all over the map!
• #Caregiving has been amped up with unexpected falls and hospital stays 
• Our little not so little teen is on her last year of Middle school #homeschool version - not so easy but hey, surviving. #Disgust
• Our little guy cut his once curly locks and became a little man overnight - no tears except a very #sad dad who suffered from FOMO #Anger
• George also cut his hair that was once down to his waist. He was ready to let go of the weight of the world literally on his shoulders.
• I got selected for a wonderful @TELUS @Storyhive project to do a broadcast version of my #podcast and got my Juju back #happytears
• and yes… I found the perfect match for me to deal with my very neglected #guthealth, and yes… it’s a Gamechanger that has been behind the true shift in my mental health, productivity, and my road to a better me. Hence, “Happy” #Joy. #happyjuice

All these emotions check out. #insideOut we have thrived and survived. 

Happy Halloween!
S N E A K * P E E K :: I’m so excited to share a S N E A K * P E E K :: I’m so excited to share a little sneak peek of @theoutpostboardgamecafe, our good friend’s soon-to-be-opened #boardgame café, right here in the #Westshore 🎲🎲. The ONLY ONE of its kind in THIS part of town!! 🎉🎉We’ve ALL been waiting for this… 

Mamas… I’m looking at you… 👀

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It’s been amazing watching this space come together - already such a fun vibe and a cozy spot to hang out, play some games, and connect with friends. And I already got my #gameschool curriculum ready to go for my #homeschooler (and her game lovin’ mama-teacher 🙋🏻‍♀️) to enjoy. And of course date nights with my guy and girls night with my ladies!! 

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They’re getting so close to opening, and I can’t wait for everyone to experience it in person!! 

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Be sure to SHARE THIS POST AND SPREAD THE WORD - #Grandopening is Nov 1st!! 🎗️✂️ Stay tuned for more updates—it’s going to be a game-changer! 😉 

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F E A R L E S S :: Becoming a mom changed me, and F E A R L E S S :: Becoming a mom changed me, and along the way, my confidence started to slip. The bold, carefree version of me was replaced by someone who worried about the little things—like making a simple left turn onto a highway (with nothing but a stop sign and a prayer).

For years, I avoided that turn. I’d ask trusted adults to drive my kid for these once a year field trips, while I anxiously waited for updates. Sometimes, if I couldn’t arrange a ride, I’d keep her home. No amount of spawning salmon is worth my sanity.

It sounds trivial to the average person, but that turn felt like a mountain I couldn’t climb - for 12 years!!! A really winding, single lane, high speed, intolerant and unforgiving mountain to climb.

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Enter my Happy Blend Morning supplement.

After a few weeks of working on my gut health and balancing hormones, including cortisol, I feel lighter—mentally and emotionally. The anxiety that used to grip me just… doesn’t anymore.

Something in me felt COMPELLED to make that turn. It was my actual, nurtured, gut telling me to not take the backroad out (which is 3 times the distance), and it felt like freedom. 

I’ve learned it’s not just about turning left on a highway; it’s about letting go of fear and no longer caring what others think. My people-pleasing feature was activated as I approached the turn - worrying about the driver behind me, but now, I prioritize what’s best for me and my loved ones. And what’s best for my loved ones is that they get the chance to enjoy an educational experience, without my anxious brain standing in the way.

I am mentally clear, more logical, and becoming resilient where stress once controlled me. I’m ME again, free from imbalanced hormones, and the fear of inconveniencing others.

If this resonates with you, drop “FEARLESS” in the comments, and I’ll share what I’ve been using to get here. You’re not alone. #MomLife
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