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5 Things I Do to Prepare for Summer Travel :: Vol. 32 #5Faves

July 12, 2016 By Deb B. 1 Comment

It’s that time of year when we have to start thinking about how to prepare for summer travel, and in fact, here I am, mere hours away from catching my flight feeling an overwhelming sense of calm and excitement. I am quite certain it has everything to do with the fact that I completed my go-to five things that help me prepare for summer travel and keep me from losing my mind.

Little Mama and I do our rounds throughout the summer months in the sweltering heat of the east coast. Although at least one of us flees from the island every season throughout the year, whether to meet a new brand, style for an event, or to just enjoy a cultural experience in another city – we always look forward to our annual 1.5 month summer getaway the most. But it never comes without its share of last minute dramatics, stressful timelines, and unreasonable expectations. Now that it’s my umpteenth time I have left the wet coast for a good dose of memory-making fun amidst the heat of the east coast, I have developed somewhat of a ritual that has helped make my travel prep a little less stressful.

Here are the 5 things I like to do as I prepare for summer travel in the weeks leading up to the big departure.

Five Faves Link up with babyStylista and The Koala Mom

#5FAVES :: 5 WAYS A BUSY MAMA CAN PREPARE FOR SUMMER TRAVEL (and not lose her mind)

1:: HOW I PREPARE FOR SUMMER TRAVEL AND STAY ORGANIZED –  Pack in Categories throughout the Week

While most people pride themselves in traveling light… I have to say, I have become notorious in my circle of travelista cohorts, for managing to bring my entire home in my suitcase. Yes, I’m that traveler. I am also  a mom, with a very curious, fidgety, and incredibly busy kiddo who needs the comforts of home to feel the most at home, away from home.

Needless to say, I have perfected the art of bringing just enough to stay under the limit, while maintaining the reputation of pushing the limits.

I pack in A. LOT.

So, instead of waiting until the last minute to pack like I did B.L.M. (Before Little Mama), I plan ahead and break out my week into mini packing days. Today is Tuesday, and I started my packing plans last Monday. I spent each day focusing on one essential area to pack. Last Monday was clothing. I chose 1/2 the amount of days’ worth Little Mama and I are away from home. Since we will be gone for close to 40 days, we packed enough outfits that could cover at least 20 of those days. That doesn’t mean I bring 20 pairs of pants, a variation of 20 tops, or 20 pieces of jewelry. What I mean by 20 days of wear, is that we pack a pair of pants that can be paired 3 different ways, and so on. Since my focus that day is clothing, I have a chance to sift through my preliminary choices a few times over before each item finds its way into the luggage. I also plan on not wearing any of these outfit throughout the entire week prior to travel so that makes early planning successful. And not to mention, I don’t have to do laundry at the eleventh hour, like so many times in travels past.

The next day, focus is on hygiene and beauty items. The next, would be entertainment. Even if that means one book for me, or two stuffies for the mini travelista – planning what to bring for leisure is actually a lot of fun. The next day I focus on meds and vitamins. And if you know anything about my history of fertility and improvement of health, you better believe 40 lbs of my 50 lb limit is predominantly vitamins.

By the time hubby is merely starting his packing the night before our trip, we have already finalized all items for travel, stress free, with all areas covered and reviewed a couple times before we close up shop. Who would have thought a little forward planning would take away some of the travel prep blues?

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Which leads me to my next fave thing to do to prepare for summer travel…

2:: HOW I PREPARE FOR SUMMER TRAVEL AND STAY SANE – I Make Lists

It can be intensely overwhelming with how much needs to be done prior to stepping foot on the tarmac. This is the reason where lists comes in handy. Even something as simple as a handwritten checklist posted on the fridge, or a list app on your smart phone (we love paperless) makes all the difference in the idea travel, less daunting. This is also get great use out of my Day Designer Planner.

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I further breakdown my lists into each of the following subtitles:

  • TO DO
  • TO PACK
  • TO BUY
  • MORNING OF TO DO’s (these are for the essentials like packing the toothbrush after we use it before flying out, refrigerated vitamins, and of course unplugging my smartphone charger)

3 :: HOW I PREPARE FOR SUMMER TRAVEL AND STAY WELL – I Drown Myself in Vitamins and the Essentials, and Try to Fit in Sleep When I Possibly Can

The last thing I want before an 8 hour travel day with a five year old, is for any of us to get sick. So I essentially break down my packing into sections for the reason I don’t want to pull an all-nighter doing this and that on the eve of my travels. More importantly, I keep the immunity up, especially for Little Mama, by making sure we eat the right foods loaded with vitamins and all the good stuff, sleep as much as we can, and jumping at opportunities to nap here and there. I try to avoid stress by keeping generally lighthearted and positive as we prepare for summer travel, long flights, and recycled breathing air on the plane.

4 :: HOW I PREPARE FOR SUMMER TRAVEL AND STAY IN TOUCH – I Say My Goodbyes throughout the last 2 weeks and Leave the Last Two days for Errands and Appointments

This past week, I have had to say a tearful goodbye to our fab friends leaving for Malaysia for an indefinite amount of time, a quick spontaneous playdate goodbye with Little Mama‘s fave bud from preschool, attend birthday parties, and go on work dates which later become catch-up sesh dates. I even used the excuse of returning a plate to squeeze in a last minute hug with a friend, and managed to sneak in a mommies-only breakfast date with another gal pal coincidentally minutes away from one of my many appointments this week. I survived the madness, and enjoyed every minute of it. Why? Because I stretched out the love in a span of 2 weeks, giving Little Mama fun playdates and exercise, while rewarding myself with some grown up mama time. I mean, who else would I be able to vent to about how stressed out I was with the upcoming summer trip preparation? Sometimes a good break from the crazy is just what the doctor ordered.

5 Things I Prepare for Summer Travel :: www.BABYSTYLISTA.com #5Faves

The only downfall of saying goodbye is it sometimes takes a little longer than planned… so if it means letting the little ones stretch it out while chilling in a parked car, then we allot time for that as well. I mean, do I really have much of a choice?

5 Things I Prepare for Summer Travel :: www.BABYSTYLISTA.com #5Faves

After the socializing and long, drawn out goodbyes have come to an end, I leave the last two days for much needed appointments like the essential brow wax, or a mani/pedi date with myself, or even my seasonal dental or fertility maintenance appointments. It’s always nice to line up appointments prior to my trip, so I don’t end up coming back bombarded with a packed schedule.

5 :: HOW I PREPARE FOR SUMMER TRAVEL AND BE ACCOUNTABLE  – I Pay My Bills, Handle all Deadlines, And Clean House

The last thing I like to do, and actually dread having to do – are the very thing that needs to be done. Bills don’t go on vacation, and neither do work deadlines. The house won’t clean itself, and neither will that dreadful almost always empty fridge (which always seems to be full the days preceding having to leave the country! Yikes.)

But alas, these are the very things that cannot go ignored. So added to my list (see #2), I always place the must-dos at the top priority spot. Besides, the sooner I get done with the boring stuff, the sooner I can pick out which books to read on the plane, which cute purse I should bring to match which shoes, etc etc.

Also sharing the spot at the top of my list, right until departure, I meal plan for the week, and ensure I use up all the food that is in my fridge to ensure nothing goes to waste. I find myself saving a ton on groceries that particular week, as I am intentional with not buying more than absolutely necessary. At the end of the week closer to my last day, I make a loaf of banana bread to bring on the trip, using up the remainder of the bananas. Or I drop by a friend’s place with a big bowl of perfectly ripe apples ready for the nibbling. Everybody wins when we plan out what to do with our leftover food – in addition to us coming home to a clean and stink-free fridge! Yay!

BONUS :: HOW I PREPARE FOR SUMMER TRAVEL AND STAY CONNECTED – I Fit In Social Media and Online Work in Between Meetings and Meet ups

We all know staying connected during the last week before a trip is pretty much a job in itself. So, I try not sweat it. I may not be as “present” online, nor am I any better offline… So, I cut myself some slack and fit it in where I can. I often catch up on chats with my BFF while waiting in line at the store buying travel sized containers. I give some love on Instagram while stirring a pot of chilli (which tends to be our go-to dinner for 3 of the last 5 nights before we leave). I often check in and throw in a status update on how fun it is (or not) to prepare for a 1.5 month summer trip with a 5 year old who really only cares about how many Polly Pocket dolls she can squeeze into her carry-on, and a husband who spends hours wondering how many pair of jeans he should bring. As overwhelming it is to prepare for summer travel, I do my best to keep things light. I don’t need the added stress (refer to #3).

I know for me, I kept my focus and now, I can sit back, enjoy my cup of coffee while I let my two very helpful (not) co-travelers sleep in before our very early flight.

What are some of your favorite rituals before taking off for the summer?

Don’t forget to visit our fabulous co-host of #5faves at The Koala Mom for her list of favourite historic sites!

We would love to hear some of YOUR five favorite things too. Link up below!

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About Deb B.

Deb Balino is the voice behind Sass & Smalls, host of the newly launched Podcast - Sass & Small Talk, and a mom of two - an artistic and quirky 11-year-old, and an outspoken, homewrecking, retro music loving, 4-year-old. A décor and style enthusiast, as well as a home systems hack creator, with a mildly concerning obsession of all things "bin-worthy", Deb enjoys sharing products, experiences, progressive ideas, and simple shifts in mindset that has helped her family navigate the beautiful chaos of parenting. Deb is also a homeschool teacher, partially by choice, partially pandemic-inspired, while advocating and caring for her parents as an active member of the Sandwich Generation. With vulnerability, and a dash of humour - she shares the reality of her world, all while keeping things as sassy as they once were before the drool, meltdowns, and potty mishaps entered the picture.

Her creative ideas, lengthy storytelling, and everyday musings have been featured on Huffington Post, Yahoo Style, BBC News, and YMC.CA

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  1. jen says

    July 21, 2016 at 12:31 pm

    I keep an Excel file on my computer that contains a packing list. I can print it out, put one copy in my suitcase, and check things off both when I’m packing at home and also when I’m leaving to go home.
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It takes a village. … to bring a vision, a song, It takes a village. 

… to bring a vision, a song, a rebrand to life. 

Everyone celebrates the finished product

But I wanted to celebrate the people who helped create it.

This music video may have my face & voice on it, but it belongs to so many incredible people who gave their time, talent, encouragement and 💗.

From @jakerfilms, who completed 2 seasons of Sass & Small Talk with a bang, producing the most epic rebrand catapulting this whole thing - the very thing I never knew I needed.

To @eric.thebald who shared my vision & skyrocketed it to the next level.
 
To @erinbradleyartist giving my hair & face the ultimate retro beat down, reminiscent of the original Sass 👸🏻 in my life, to my fave @lindakyaw_m who challenged me out of my comfies & into my sass atw from LA 💃

to my leading ladies @rahannavu and @iamharpsra making sure I didn’t walk into a close-up with lipstick on my teeth and a shine on my nose - & hand slapping me if I so much as picked up a prop other than my mic, risking a broken nail or wasting a single breath.

@dn.gib capturing every single moment behind the scenes, so I have something to look back at when I need to remind myself how far we’ve come… 

To @rajinthehouse who proudly clapped the Film Slate like a pro / and looking darn sharp while doing so. 

An entire crew and a small and mighty team showed up simply because they believed in me.

Much more than I believed in myself. 

The laughs.

The nerves.

The tiny moments no one usually sees.

These behind-the-scenes moments are some of my favourite memories because they’re a reminder that none of us create something meaningful alone.

I’ve always said:

It takes a village to raise a child… and a community to raise a parent.

Today I’d add one more thing…

It takes a village to help someone find their sass again.

✨ Part 1

➡️ Come back for PT2 where I’ll show you how the magic came together.

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Can moms chase big dreams without losing themselve Can moms chase big dreams without losing themselves… or the moments that matter most?

This conversation with the incredibly talented Nina Sinclair of @of.ocean.and.earth.photo challenged me in the best way.

We talked about motherhood, ADHD, entrepreneurship, asking for help, and redefining what success actually looks like.

Maybe “having it all” isn’t about DOING it all.

Both Nina and I learned that the hard way… and we’re sharing how, in this episode - “Modern Motherhood: Can Moms Chase Their Dreams too?”

🎧 Full episode now on YouTube. (link on stories & bio)

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It’s RAW Deb again 😵‍💫😵‍💫 - sharing her early mor It’s RAW Deb again 😵‍💫😵‍💫 - sharing  her early morning ☀️POV from the trenches… 

I don’t think I’ve ever admitted this out loud…

For years, I convinced myself - I was just “busy.” And that I would be immune to consequences of my questionable habits.

But somewhere along the way…

late-night emotional eating became normal.

Four hours of sleep became normal.

Brain fog became normal.

Running on adrenaline became normal.

I wasn’t thriving.

I was surviving.

So instead of chasing another quick fix…

I decided, “Deb - enough’s enough”… 

With Jac-Lyn from @rewildfunctionalhealth, my hubby @gjavier5, my entire village of mamas and friends - at the sidelines, cheering me on and holding me accountable, It’s time to investigate: 
• My gut.
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• My nervous system.
• My habits.
• My faith.
• My mornings.
• The truth.

I’m not pretending to have the answers.

I’m simply inviting you to watch me find them.

Maybe you’re trying to get your ✨spark back too (@mama_brykin 😉) 

If so…

welcome.

The investigation begins.

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I carried so much guilt this past year. June hit I carried so much guilt this past year.

June hit hard. Work. Caregiving. Mental load to the nth degree. End-of-school-year chaos. Health stuff. Heavy news. Financial stress. And loads of the dreaded Mama Guilt - of not being able to celebrate my son’s birthday for the 3rd year in a row due to unforeseen circumstances…

Then another mama, also tired, also busy, also carrying her own invisible load in the realm of business and caregiving, invited my son to join in for her already-planned birthday celebration for HER son…

And even if he was surrounded by new faces in a higher grade - it ended up being everything my son would’ve wanted: laughter, friends - new and old, Nerf battles, a waterslide bouncy castle of his dreams, a killer last minute donut cake tower from @pacificplatterscharcuterie (Thank you to another Mama that gets it!), and memories to last a lifetime…

It reminded me of something I think many of us need to hear:

Leaning on your village doesn’t mean you failed your child.

It means you SHARED a load you were never meant to carry alone.

There is something powerful about mothers who see each other’s invisible load… and quietly decide to help carry it.

The village I needed wasn’t made up of people with more time or more energy.

Sometimes our village looks like another mom simply saying,

“Don’t worry - I gotchu. Let’s do this together.”

And that is more than enough. ❤️

Bless your big, beautiful, busy heart my friend @sarjo08 and @jasonhemz for inviting us and filling my little man’s cup at a time we weren’t as equipped to. He had a blast and absolutely loved celebrating with him and all his friends … ❤️❤️❤️
For years, I honestly thought this was just mother For years, I honestly thought this was just motherhood.

Being exhausted.
Forgetting everything.
Feeling overwhelmed.
Running on caffeine and adrenaline.
Wondering why I never quite felt like me.

A while ago I started working on my gut 🥤health, and for the first time in a long time I noticed little shifts.

• More mental clarity.
• Less brain fog.
• More creativity.
• Better stress resilience.

It made me ask a question I couldn’t stop thinking about…

What if these weren’t just personality flaws or “mom life”?

What if my body had been trying to tell me something all along?

So I’ve decided to stop guessing.

I’m working with @jac-lyn from @rewildfunctionalhealth , a functional health practitioner, to dig deeper, explore root causes, and document the entire process: the wins, the setbacks, and everything in between.

I’m calling this series “Getting My Sass Back” because that’s exactly what it feels like I’m searching for.

Not perfection.

Just me.

If you’ve ever felt like you’ve been living in survival mode, I hope you’ll join me.

❤️ The investigation has already begun, and continues - so be sure to subscribe on YouTube (sass and smalls). Some pretty 👀 opening stuff… 

So grateful to you @i_am_miss_jen for the impeccable matchmaking. My health thanks you… 

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It happened on Autism Pride Day. — For years, we It happened on Autism Pride Day.

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For years, we spent so much energy trying to help our daughter fit into a world that wasn’t built for her.

We chased therapies.
We chased milestones.
We chased the idea of what we thought her future was supposed to look like.

Sometimes, if I’m being completely honest, we were trying to fix things we didn’t yet understand.

We heard heartbreaking predictions.

Some professionals told us she would likely never progress beyond the abilities of a five- year-old child.

We were told to prepare for limitations.

We were told to lower our expectations.

What no one told us was that the goal was never to make her more like everyone else.

The goal was to help her find her way to HERSELF.

That shift changed everything.

Over the years, we homeschooled when it was the right fit, even when others questioned it. We searched for programs that understood her. We listened to support workers who saw her strengths. We found camps, social groups, sports programs, and communities where she wasn’t expected to fit into someone else’s mold.

And little by little, she began to thrive.

She found her voice.

She found confidence.

She found belonging.

Most importantly, she found herself.

This year, after finding a school program that truly supports her learning style and focuses on life skills, she said something I will never forget:

“I finally feel like myself, Mommy.”

Those words healed parts of my heart I didn’t even know were still holding their breath.

Because the truth is, I wasn’t waiting for her to become someone different.

I was waiting to know she would be okay.

And she is.

Autism Pride isn’t about pretending there aren’t challenges.

It’s about recognizing that autistic people don’t need to become less autistic to deserve joy, friendship, opportunity, acceptance, or love.

It’s about taking pride in who they are and embracing the community where they belong.

Today, I celebrate my daughter exactly as she is.

She has taught me more about courage, authenticity, resilience, and unconditional love than I could ever teach her.

I am so proud of her.

And if I’m honest, she’s been my teacher all along.
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Nine very different stories.
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What surprised me most wasn’t how different we were and how different our journeys were to get here.

It was how much we SHARED in common.

❤️

Season 2 of Sass & Small Talk reminded me that behind every smile, every school drop-off, every achievement, and every family photo, there is often a story no one else can see.

And yet, somehow, we keep showing up.

So take that moment to pause, and pat yourself on the back. Better yet, hug a parent in your life, who may be carrying that invisible load too.

It’s a game changer.

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FUN FACT: making a video podcast takes slightly mo FUN FACT: making a video podcast takes slightly more than one burntout mom with a microphone and a dream. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Meet the incredible CREW behind Season 2 of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast … the people who made me LOOK good, SOUND good, stay on SCHEDULE, and reminded me to sip on my HAPPY J 🥤. 

Huge thanks to my KILLER 🔥 CREW: @jakerfilms (editor & Sass 🎵 Man/Deb whisperer), @nikkye_music (set designer & Epi 4 Guest that made me 😭), @remy.is.remy (A/V Tech/ Production/ Lifesaver), @eric.thebald (A/V Tech/ Audio Mixer/Dreammaker), @hoelune (Production Assistant/Admin/Best support evah), @gjavier5 (Production Assist/ Moral Support/Lovah ❤️), @esther.driver (Production Assist/ Keep me in check/Mama support), and @telus @storyhive for making this vision into reality.

Special thank you to, Geoff @themurdles 4 keeping this chaos👸🏻 in line, and my 2 Smallies who inspired all of this. 👶🏻👧🏻 Love u 2 the 🌓 and back ♾️.

The GUESTS are AMAZING.
The STORIES are POWERFUL.
The SET is GORG (@haus.of.owl).
And all the episodes will be ONLINE and ready to binge TOMORROW - JUNE 16, 2026 on YOUTUBE!

It takes a VILLAGE to raise a child AND a PODCAST. 🎙️

Thanks my #BTS CREW, for being mine…

Ima go and cry myself to sleep now. I’m the luckiest & most exhausted 😴 Pod-Mom Host in the 🌎. Love you all too much. 

#humbled #letsgooooo
Behind every Momfluencer… It’s still the month of Behind every Momfluencer…

It’s still the month of May, the month moms get their Hallmark spotlight - So in honour of that, I wanted to share a little story.

When I first moved from LA to Victoria as a new mom and began building my brand online from home, I struggled with finding a true sense of belonging. I never felt like I fully belonged in the “mom world”, especially in a new community, not fully in the creative world, and definitely not in the often viral-chasing digital world I could never seem to keep up with.

Ironically, I was a “part” of everything but belonged to nothing.

…or so I thought.

As I opened myself up to the many communities WITHIN my community, I realized something:

The moment I stopped trying to “fit in” and leaned into who I actually am… that’s when everything changed.

And that’s what I love most about this group of women featured by @islandparent Magazine — in all the ways we are different, we are also one and the same.

Different voices. Different lives. Different ways of showing up for the world.

But all rooted in connection, creativity, community, and a deep love for our families.

Beyond being “mamas of influence,” these women use their platforms while opening their hearts and homes.

Some share family life tips, recipes, wellness journeys, sandwich gen truths, and initiate mental health conversations.
Some inspire through faith, fashion, creativity, gardening, travel, and outdoor adventures.
Some advocate fiercely for neurodivergent children while navigating neurodivergence themselves.

Some use storytelling, humour, or podcasts 😉 to help other parents feel seen and less alone.

And somehow, in between school pickups, medical appointments, assessment forms, homemaking, caregiving, and late nights searching for a little silence and brain clarity after long days of “othering” — we are building businesses, brands, and meaningful lives for our families.

We cheer each other on. 
We lift each other up.

And in finding my place within this realm of motherhood… I found home.

“It takes a village to raise a child… and a community to raise the parent.” 

#MomsSupportingMoms #VancouverIslan
POV: You’re SUPPOSED to be working on your podcast POV: You’re SUPPOSED to be working on your podcast FULL TILT… but your ADHD brain 🧠 chimed in:

“might as well just release a whole song while we’re at it” 🤷🏻‍♀️

So now my Auntie Norma 🇵🇭 can stream me on Spotify while she washes dishes 😂 #winwin (but still… #whatjusthappened)

Meanwhile:
🏠 messy house
🎥 unfinished podcast clips
🧺 laundry mountain thriving in the background

BUT ANYWAYYYY—

🎧 “I Need My Sass Back” is now streaming on Spotify, iTunes, Amazon Music & everywhere you listen to music 

Your fault, @jakerfilms for writing the darn thing in the first place… 🤣 #dontthinkstraight

Full video link is in my bio if you want the whole vibe 🎬
Apparently a lot of you are confused about where/h Apparently a lot of you are confused about where/how to actually WATCH this podcast I keep talking about… 😂

So here’s how to find @sassandsmalltalkpodcast Seasons 1 & 2 on TELUS Optik TV + Stream+ Ch.9 

And yes… I said TV. 📺 
(“Mom! Look! I’m on tv!” And yes… I did that too… 🤣🤣)

**Thnx to TELUS @storyhive  for making it possible!!

And until June… it will ONLY be available to those who have @telus as their provider or have access to Stream+ & OptikTV, then it will be out in the interwebs for all to see. 👀

My little podcast-that-could is up and running, alive & streaming. Just search within the app on your TELUS TV, “StoryHive Sass”

Season 2 of Sass & Small Talk features raw, meaningful conversations with the many faces of parenthood in our beautiful city, here on Vancouver Island (and beyond), caregivers, creatives, and changemakers carrying the mental load, navigating real life parenting, with honesty and heart. I promise you won’t be disappointed…

Featuring guests including @spoletinigiuseppe, @nikkye_music, @of.ocean.and.earth.photo, and more beautiful humans this season. 

MEET MY VILLAGE… 

Be sure to watch our Music vid tribute on YouTube to all of my guests from THEIR kids and I. Find, like, & Subscribe on YouTube.com/@sassandsmalls ALSO NOW AVAILABLE On Spotify and Apple Music/Itunes! 

#ParentingPodcast #CanadianPodcast #TELUSStoryhive #NeurodivergentParenting #mentalloadofparenting
MY SURPRISE PROJECT for my Podcast Guests - with a MY SURPRISE PROJECT for my Podcast Guests - with a little help from THEIR kids.. 

I didn’t expect this to actually work…

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For the past few weeks, I’ve been working quietly on something really special — a surprise for every guest who’s ever been part of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast… from my Zoom OGs - circa 2022, to my TELUS @storyhive ⁠seasons on the tube 📺, to my crew/village/emotional support squad.

What started as a gift — a piece of music from my out-of-the-box-thinker & editor @jakerfilms, turned into something SO. MUCH. MORE. MEANINGFUL.

With the help of my incredible creative village at @haus.of.owl @remy.is.remy, led by the big beautiful brain 🧠 of Eric Hinch @eric.thebald, my Director 👏🏼🎬 Hinchalot Films (www.filmnow.ca), and the talented Dan @dn.gib & @erinbradleyartist 💄, we brought it to life!

… but the part that gets me right in the gut??

THE SMALLIES…. THESE KIDS….

The very kids who made all of us parents in the first place — including mine, who aren’t normally THIS comfortable “performing” in front of a camera.

Kids who have felt burnout.
Kids who have felt misunderstood.
Neurodivergent kiddos that hold a special place in my ❤️.

Kids who showed up anyway — with courage, joy, and love — to help me create something meaningful for their parents.

And somewhere in all of this…

I found my way back to me.

Back to music.
Back to creativity.
Back to MY SASS.
‘cuz isn’t this what Sass & Small Talk is all about?

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This video is for my village.
For the parents.
For the kids.
For anyone who’s ever felt like they lost a part of themselves along the way.

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👉 The full video is now on YouTube at https://m.youtube.com/@sassandsmalls
(Link in bio)

** Watch and feel COMMUNITY IN ACTION. Gosh - I love you guys!

Ps… If this resonates - keep up with new episodes already streaming on TELUS STORYHIVE - by liking & Subscribing!

“Cuz it Takes a village to raise a child. 

And a community, to raise their parent”

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#SassAndSmallTalk #ParenthoodUnfiltered #MentalLoad MomLife FindYourselfAgain CreativeMom Storytelling VillageSupport TELUSStoryHive @hoelune @rahannavu @iamharpsra @rajinthehouse @lindakyaw_m @nengineermom @i_am_miss_jen @esther.driver
JENN. Meet my village… There are episodes… and th JENN. Meet my village…

There are episodes…
and then there are stories that change your life forever.

This one is both.

She’s not just my guest.
She’s the woman who offered a piece of herself… when our world was falling apart.

Because of her, we have our son.
Because of her, our family feels whole. 

And watching this back—seeing her complete her family too…
full circle doesn’t even begin to cover it.

I wasn’t planning to share this moment.
But this is what this season is about.

The real stories.
The unseen moments of a mama sitting in her living room after the kids are asleep. 
The love that carries families through the unimaginable.

If you’ve ever wondered what it really looks like behind the scenes of motherhood, loss, and rebuilding…

This episode is for you. 🤍

🎧 Episode 1 is out now. 

TELUS OptikTV StoryHive gave me the platform to share these meaningful stories. 

Because it takes a Village to Raise a child. And a community to raise their parent. 
#eggdonor #chosenfamily #infertility #ittakesavillage #mentalload
Meet My Village 🤍 IT’s LAUNCH DAY!!! Season 2 of Meet My Village 🤍

IT’s LAUNCH DAY!!!

Season 2 of Sass & Small Talk, filmed at @haus.of.owl studios, on @StoryHive, Sponsored by TELUS, IS HERE 

… and these are the faces behind the real, raw, and beautiful stories of the mental load of parenting.

From Victoria, and beyond, each guest shares how they carry it all… and keep showing up.

Featuring a very special first episode close to my heart… and a full-circle finale with a dear childhood friend now gracing the stages of NYC - you won’t want to miss.

🎬 Watch now on TELUS Optik TV (Channel 9 On Demand) + Stream+

Let’s support local stories, local voices, and the village that holds us all.

Because it takes a village to raise a child… and a community to raise their parent.

#SassAndSmallTalk #StoryHive #MeetMyVillage
Easter used to feel like pressure: The perfect m Easter used to feel like pressure: 

The perfect meal. 
The perfect table. 
The kids sitting through the meal and actually eating it. 
The food not burning.

And somehow… still ending the day exhausted, touched out, and a little resentful… 

This year, I let go. I had no choice… with the launch of the new season on the pod, I had to choose my battles…

My 7-year-old — my busy, high-energy, “maybe not spaghetti” kid — decided he was making “superrrrr spaghetti.”
His way. 
His ideas. 
His “special ingredients.”

Was it messy? Yep.
Was it chaotic? Absolutely.
Was it perfect? Not even close.

But something shifted.

He took ownership.
He created.
He plated dinner like a little chef with a vision (volcano spaghetti and all 🌋🍝).

And he was SO proud.
And me?
I rested. I watched. I let go of control — and the mental load that usually comes with it.

THIS is what I’m learning:
• The more we try to control everything, the heavier it gets for us… and the less space our kids have to rise.

• When we let them lead (in age-appropriate ways), they don’t just help… they LEAD.

More pride.
More participation.
More appreciation.
More connection.
Less perfection. 
More magic.
** BONUS: and less craving for screen time #winwin

This wasn’t the Easter dinner I would’ve planned…but it’s the one we’ll actually remember ❤️

Taking a page outta your book @anna_skates ❤️❤️
Parenting Hack: Meet your child’s 🧠 exactly where Parenting Hack: Meet your child’s 🧠 exactly where they’re at. Embrace the chaos, the messy experiments, the unrelenting curiosity. Let their 🧠 do its thing and step aside to see the magic.

Took me an entire lifetime to figure it out:
• Spent all of my childhood trying to “fit in”
• Struggled to mask but did it anyway 
• Met a boy. Also a creative and professional masker.
• Took a “creative” path less travelled as young adult on a one way flight to LA
• Loved life. 
• Received negative feedback from well-intentioned naysayers and loved ones
• Felt shame for not hitting the markers 
• Became a mom. 
• Read ALLLL the parenting books. 
• Spent over a decade fighting against my  first born’s “artist” brain and finding ways to “fix” what was not even broken
• Hated conforming and made some pivots while wearing metaphorical headphones to block out opinions/outside noise
• Loved Life 
• Had my youngest little man - came out of womb loud, intentional, & unapologetic 
• Threw out all parenting books and accepted the beautiful neurodivergent 🧠s taking over our entire household
• Gave both kids creative freedoms and stepped aside (mostly not intentionally. they’re too fast and I’m too old) 
• Learned how to celebrate the curious, comical, and weirdly wired brains that is our family. 
• Let my kids teach ME to have courage, think differently, and not just take the road less travelled - but actually #owningit
• Jumped into creating my own #podcast headfirst and never looked back

“Don’t Think Straight”, by Jacob Insley, is definitely one of our go-tos I’ll be keeping on my bookshelf for years to come. 

@jakerfilms you killed it with all these nuggets and takeaways! We’re all fighting for a turn to read - look at you causing ruckus in our home!?! 🤣 PS - My little guy requests to be in your 2nd book. 🤣🤣

#bebold #getmysassback #create
Happy #LOVE Day Weekend…. It’s been a bitter swe Happy #LOVE Day Weekend…. 

It’s been a bitter sweet one this year. But we are working through Grief that will never go away. Especially on milestone days like this. 

Not only is it Dad Felix’s first Heavenly Birthday (Valentine’s Day), it’s also a day we lost our 6th pregnancy before we finally had our little guy. I truly believe Dad is as much present with our babies in heaven, as he is with his 4 Grandkids on earth. 

There’s healing in loving family. Thank you for your constant reminders of this Dad/Grandpa Felix. We miss you so much. 

#sandwichgeneration #caregiving #family #multigenerational
It’s giving dramatic dad/uncle vibes. When our f It’s giving dramatic dad/uncle vibes. 

When our first family friendly white 🥼 party turns into a full blown midlife crisis.🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

(And no… he is NOT okay)… 🤣🤣

#thisis50
#dadlife  #unclelife
#GenXLife
#ParentingMoments 
#TheyGrowUpFast 
#RealLifeParents
#riuwhiteparty
#mexico
#dinerenblanc
He turned 50. Shouting it from the rooftops was no He turned 50.
Shouting it from the rooftops was not an option, so naturally - we had it announced at 40,000 feet ✈️🎂

For context:
This man avoids attention like it’s turbulence.

This??
Actual NIGHTMARE. 😂🤣🤣

But after a rough year of loss, change, and having to step up in so many facets, he deserved a little LOUD love. 📣🎉🥳

Happy 50th to the man I’ve loved for more than half his life.
You chose me, chaos and all… so really, this one’s on you. 😉😉

Thanks @flairairlines for this unforgettable #birthday moment.

If you’ve got a second, send this sweet, shy 50-year-old young man some love… he’ll be back to low-key status in about 72 hours. ⏰💛

@gjavier5 💙💜

#ThisIs50
#50thBirthday 
#MarriageHumor 
#RealLifeMoments 
#PlaneAnnouncement 
#MilestoneBirthday 
#LoveInTheMiddle 
#LifeLately 
#ImperfectAndReal 
#FamilyLife 
#Grief
#caregiving
#GenX
#sandwichgeneration 
#ReelsThatMakeYouSmile
Holiday burnout hits moms and caregivers hard — an Holiday burnout hits moms and caregivers hard — and the guilt of not being able to do it all as planned can be heavy. 

This year, after months and months of overstimulation, busy-ness, grief, worries, transitions, and may many many sleepless nights, we chose quiet. Simple. Unplanned. And a lot of it had to do with my own exhaustion and not being able to do all the things - like I used to in the past.

And in letting go, my kids not only enjoyed the simplicity, pressure-free, they loved the spontaneity, the lack of rushing from one thing to another, keeping old traditions while creating new memories. 

They even offered to be a part of the planning and the doing. 

It never had to be perfect. 
It never had to just fall on my shoulders. 
And it never was about a tree surrounded with every item on their wishlist. 

They just wanted me to play with them, wrap gifts with them, eat with them, and let them do some of the caregiving as well. 

Maybe that was the magic after all.
For the last 3 Christmas seasons, my girls and I s For the last 3 Christmas seasons, my girls and I switched things up.  We were finding we were already maxed out with our own households - the lists, the gifts, the prep, the mess. Omg… the mess.

It was time to take a break from@the stress, and to find joy through this busy season, while putting our “cute” on again. 

… and so, the birth of “Annual High Tea with the ladies” came to be: 

We ditched the gifts. 
Kept the girlfriends. 
Elevated the carbs.
… and the heels.

And yes - the tea just got a little sweeter.

Got a holiday ritual that fills your cup (literally or figuratively)?
Me: We’re getting too old for this. Also Me: 🎥📹🔦 Me: We’re getting too old for this. 

Also Me: 🎥📹🔦💡💄💋

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Check out our #Behindthescenes done in our living room. (Grateful for the space @ginandneature 🤣🤣)

👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
It’s been ✨14✨ YEARS of doing this as a family, I get asked every year how we pull this off. Esp with limited time, budget, and busy kids??

Easy: 
• Cue theme music (“Alexa, get us in #kpopdemonhunters mode”)
• Beat our faces down with a little @amoresarte_arteesamor  from our bestie Uncle @andrewvelazquez_ ‘s killer 💋 palette #onlythebest
• dust off my podcast studio lights, most likely incorrectly. (I am NO @remy.is.remy, @nikkye_music , @eric.thebald , @jakerfilms, @brianbobila, or @hoelune)
• clear my phone cuz it’s always full • throw on some DIY outfits we happen to have in our dress up trunk (OR Grammy’s closet!)
• grab last minute wigs (and in my case - clip on BANGS) that don’t exactly match the OG characters, but who cares… it’s our spin anyway…)
• George @gjavier5, our in-house Jinu, just got ready for the day as normal 😂😂😂😂😂😂
- Start bribing the kids AND George (but guess what - they LOVE our #familytradition too!! EVEN Jenny, my kiddo’s beloved (and often creepy doll who participates in most of our #FamilyHalloween themes. Gotta love Jenny!🪆

It’s 10000% chaotic, always a mess, but it’s how the Balinos do #Famoween (and Christmas… lazy greetings here we come), and we wouldn’t have it any other way. 

#BTS
The BALINO FAM is ready for our Comeback of 2025. The BALINO FAM is ready for our Comeback of 2025. 

Just call us the “B POP Fam-O-Ween Hunters” 🎤

Plot twist of 2025? Our demons to fight — grief and loss, overwhelm, caregiving challenges, new school, intolerance, advocacy, no sleep, basically… life-ing. 

But guess what?

We didn’t break — we TRANSFORMED. (As my kids would say - we SLAYED 2025). 

We stopped trying to fit into places that weren’t made for us. Just like these characters on #KpopDemonHunters

• We are choosing to show up for one another and our parents. Fully.
• We are choosing our battles 
• We no longer apologize for simply being us. In all our messy, chaotic #neurospicy, busy, loud, glittery, imperfect ways. 

And when we let our special big little girl be exactly who SHE is — not who the world told her to be — everything shifted. For HER and for our ENTIRE family. 

Peace came. Joy came. She shined.
Heck - she even spearheaded this year’s #famoween theme with the help of her “Baby” bro. It’s been 14 years of finding her place in the world and facing heartache and struggle along the way. We had a BREAKTHROUGH this year.

But it started with working on us as a family. 

So here we are.

Tired.
Ready.
Golden.

✨The B POPS✨
• George as “G-NEW” (Jinu) - the brooding lead of Saja Boys🔥charming and charismatic but struggling on the inside ✅

• My girl as MIRA” - tough and spicy but sensitive on the inside ✅

• My Baby boy as “Baby” who relies on his cuteness to get things done ✅ 👀

• Me as “Zoey”, just a big kid trying to figure out where she belongs. Always learning. ✅ ✅✅✅

(Also… yes. The 5th main character, Rumi (my daughter’s beloved doll who often makes a cameo in our fam-o-ween posts. Can you spot her our lead? 👀💜)

Watch out world. We may be getting old, but we’re ✨ #Golden. ✨

Pls leave a comment👇🏻and let my creative fam (so lucky to have you, @gjavier5 and my crazy kiddos) know whatcha think of our theme this year!
👻👻👻🎃🎃🎃🎃 Rainy day at @galey_farms with the fam an 👻👻👻🎃🎃🎃🎃

Rainy day at @galey_farms with the fam and it was exactly what we needed. So much fun, and great for a good scare cuz I’m just a big 🐓. 

And those donuts…. #nextlevel. As was that #cornmaze🌽 

Thanks @ingirlsclub for organizing a core memory for my girl and all the girls and their/our families! It’s hard to organize things with my little family while #caregiving, and often we have to decline, but we are so glad this worked out. This group activity made it so much more feasible for us. #sandwichgen #sandwichgenlife #elderlycare

#Halloween #fall #family #YYJ #pumpkins #pumpkinpatch #trainride #familyfun
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