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DIY Kids Cleopatra and King Tut Halloween Costumes :: Encouraging Kids to Create

October 29, 2018 By Deb B. 13 Comments

“Mommy, we wanna be Cleopatra and King Tut for Halloween”.

Sigh.

I wasn’t completely convinced that my 7 year old and <gasp> my 4.5 month old understood what this actually entailed. Ever since our local museum featured the beautiful and everso ornate and interactive Egypt: The Time of the Pharoahs display, my Little Mama has been obsessed with Cleopatra and King Tut. She has been adamant for months that she was meant to be Cleopatra at least once in her life. I mean – she has the bangs after all. (Her logic, not mine…)

I wasn’t as adamant. Moreover, I wasn’t completely confident that being Egyptian Pharoahs for our Fam-o-ween theme this year would be a great idea. I mean, I have no business being shy of 5 months post partum, wearing a form fitting gown that would obviously make me blush, and anyone who knows George, knows he would never be caught dead or alive wearing gladiator sandals. Truth is – we already had something up our sleeves, and it just wasn’t going to be this (standby for our big Fam-o-ween reveal on the big day itself).

But I digress.

Cleopatra and King Tut. How were we going to swing this with an eager and extremely persistent Smallie and a semi-willing Smaller Smallie, and not have it interrupt our Fam-o-ween plans? Well – like every Halloween, there was going to be an obscene amount of events and get togethers where my Little Mama would be asked to come in costume, so I figured… why not let her have her own mini- theme? 

And let’s face it – some families don’t really put too much emphasis on themes and coordinating outfits anyway. 

Please note:

WE. ARE. NOT. ONE. OF. THOSE. FAMILIES.

So I decided if she wanted to partially veer away from our Fam-o-ween plans (waaaah – I knew this day was coming…), I would absolutely encourage her. But I wasn’t about to fork out $50 for a new costume for her, and an oversized King Tut costume for her brother (because goodness knows there are no Pharaoh Costumes available for the teeny tiny Tuts among us). 

So…

I made her sew it…(for both Cleopatra and King Tut)

DIY Kids Cleopatra and King Tut Halloween Costumes www.sassandsmalls.com DIY Kids Cleopatra and King Tut Halloween Costumes www.sassandsmalls.com DIY Kids Cleopatra and King Tut Halloween Costumes www.sassandsmalls.com DIY Kids Cleopatra and King Tut Halloween Costumes www.sassandsmalls.comThis post isn’t going to give you step by step instructions on how to make this costume. It’s a simple cut and stitch situation – feel free to copy our set up. (And a quick note: for the King Tut headdress – simply cut a striped piece in the shape above and stitch part of an elastic headband at the top section, which will allow the piece will drape on each side – I’ll come up with a DIY video when I’m not too busy nursing/changing/burping said Tiny Tut). Standby…

What I wanted to share in this post, is that allowing my Little Mama to create her own costume, with limited set up help and finishing touches from her not-so-sewing-savvy mommy, was both empowering for Little Mama and freeing for her mama! This kept her busy for an entire afternoon, and it was amazing to see how excited she was to bring something meaningful to completion. Yes, Halloween is meaningful to us.

Always.

She was even blissed out buying the fabric. A chance to shop with my favorite girl in a fabric store filled with all the crafty goodness?

Yes please.

DIY Kids Cleopatra and King Tut Halloween Costumes www.sassandsmalls.com DIY Kids Cleopatra and King Tut Halloween Costumes www.sassandsmalls.com DIY Kids Cleopatra and King Tut Halloween Costumes www.sassandsmalls.comSo how did it all turn out? 

Ladies and Gentlemen, may I introduce to you Little Cleo-Mama, and Tiny Tut!

DIY Kids Cleopatra and King Tut Halloween Costumes www.sassandsmalls.comWith a backstitch here, and a closet shopping spree there, Little Cleo-Mama accompanied by her sidekick Tiny Tut, was able to come up with a fabulous costume without breaking the bank (and if breaking the bank is less of a concern for you than poking your finger with a needle – than might I suggest you grab the next best thing (for both kid’s Cleopatra and King Tut here and here…)

What pleased me to no end, is the fact that Cleopatra and King Tut go hand in hand, just like these two little characters of mine.

DIY Kids Cleopatra and King Tut Halloween Costumes www.sassandsmalls.comAnd now that we have our little guy, it is a no-brainer that he will be participating in all Halloween family Fam-o-ween shenanigans, whether he likes it or not.

Luckily, he’s almost always completely game.

DIY Kids Cleopatra and King Tut Halloween Costumes www.sassandsmalls.com
Don’t be afraid to let your little ones take the wheel when it comes to DIY projects. Kids can absolutely shock you with what they are able to accomplish. 

‘Cause mommy making a SECOND costume for Halloween, just because they share an affinity for bangs?? Ain’t nobody got time (or money) for that.

If you can DIY, do it. And if your kiddo can… let them! 

Deb B. www.sassandsmalls.com

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Filed Under: little mama, little man, Perfection in the Imperfection, playing dress up Tagged With: activities, children, Cleopatra, crafty, DIY, do it yourself, Egyptian, family, famoween, Halloween, kids, King Tut, mom, mom life, Pharoah, princess, Queen, sewing

About Deb B.

Deb Balino is the voice behind Sass & Smalls, host of the newly launched Podcast - Sass & Small Talk, and a mom of two - an artistic and quirky 11-year-old, and an outspoken, homewrecking, retro music loving, 4-year-old. A décor and style enthusiast, as well as a home systems hack creator, with a mildly concerning obsession of all things "bin-worthy", Deb enjoys sharing products, experiences, progressive ideas, and simple shifts in mindset that has helped her family navigate the beautiful chaos of parenting. Deb is also a homeschool teacher, partially by choice, partially pandemic-inspired, while advocating and caring for her parents as an active member of the Sandwich Generation. With vulnerability, and a dash of humour - she shares the reality of her world, all while keeping things as sassy as they once were before the drool, meltdowns, and potty mishaps entered the picture.

Her creative ideas, lengthy storytelling, and everyday musings have been featured on Huffington Post, Yahoo Style, BBC News, and YMC.CA

Comments

  1. Mimi says

    October 29, 2018 at 10:20 am

    Such a great idea to let her do her costume, I would have loved that has a kid mainly because I wanted to be a fashion designer XD
    Reply
  2. Paula @ I'm Busy Being Awesome says

    October 29, 2018 at 10:21 am

    OMG they look so cute and to make the costume must have been an amazing creative outlet
    Reply
  3. Marcie says

    October 29, 2018 at 10:44 am

    Whoa! Those costumes turned out so well! Kudos to your 7yo for being committed enough to sew them!
    Reply
  4. BreeAnna Lasher says

    October 29, 2018 at 12:55 pm

    Awh this was the cutest ever!! cleopatra is such a fun costume idea! You executed it so cutely!
    Reply
  5. Taylor Fisher says

    October 29, 2018 at 1:57 pm

    This is totally AMAZING! I love the in depth photos you shared and that she was able to do so much of it!! Thanks so much for sharing such a fun project!
    Reply
  6. Isabella Sarmiento says

    October 29, 2018 at 2:30 pm

    This DIY Cleopatra and King Tut is amazing! I love how determined your daughter is or rather how determined you are as well. Costumes turned out great and they both look happy in it.
    Reply
  7. Elizabeth Weitz says

    October 29, 2018 at 5:24 pm

    Oh my gosh! The perspective King Tutt and Queen cleopatra costumes! Such fun creativity!
    Reply
  8. Vicky says

    October 29, 2018 at 5:37 pm

    She should be super proud of herself. Those costumes are amazing. The little guy just might steal the show. That is the cutest baby costume ever!
    Reply
  9. Mariah says

    October 30, 2018 at 6:26 am

    These are so cute! How impressive that you made them yourself! That will be a special memory for them later!
    Reply
  10. April says

    October 30, 2018 at 9:37 am

    Cleopatra and King Tut look amazing! You both did an amazing job on these costumes and everything else! The photos are super cute too! Love the baby smiles!!
    Reply
  11. Kusum BASAVRAJU says

    October 30, 2018 at 12:23 pm

    Your kiddos look absolutely adorable, best costume and creative awards should go to them. Such a talented girl. I was Cleopatra a few years ago and love that outfit.
    Reply
  12. lindsey says

    October 31, 2018 at 2:43 am

    What a creative costume idea!! I love how your daughter was using the sewing machine, I still don’t know how to use one and I’m an adult lol! These came out super cute, thank you for sharing! Your kiddos are adorable!
    Reply
  13. Mike says

    December 12, 2020 at 7:37 am

    You made my day! Love these!
    Reply

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“might as well just release a whole song while we’re at it” 🤷🏻‍♀️

So now my Auntie Norma 🇵🇭 can stream me on Spotify while she washes dishes 😂 #winwin (but still… #whatjusthappened)

Meanwhile:
🏠 messy house
🎥 unfinished podcast clips
🧺 laundry mountain thriving in the background

BUT ANYWAYYYY—

🎧 “I Need My Sass Back” is now streaming on Spotify, iTunes, Amazon Music & everywhere you listen to music 

Your fault, @jakerfilms for writing the darn thing in the first place… 🤣 #dontthinkstraight

Full video link is in my bio if you want the whole vibe 🎬
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So here’s how to find @sassandsmalltalkpodcast Seasons 1 & 2 on TELUS Optik TV + Stream+ Ch.9 

And yes… I said TV. 📺 
(“Mom! Look! I’m on tv!” And yes… I did that too… 🤣🤣)

**Thnx to TELUS @storyhive  for making it possible!!

And until June… it will ONLY be available to those who have @telus as their provider or have access to Stream+ & OptikTV, then it will be out in the interwebs for all to see. 👀

My little podcast-that-could is up and running, alive & streaming. Just search within the app on your TELUS TV, “StoryHive Sass”

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Featuring guests including @spoletinigiuseppe, @nikkye_music, @of.ocean.and.earth.photo, and more beautiful humans this season. 

MEET MY VILLAGE… 

Be sure to watch our Music vid tribute on YouTube to all of my guests from THEIR kids and I. Find, like, & Subscribe on YouTube.com/@sassandsmalls ALSO NOW AVAILABLE On Spotify and Apple Music/Itunes! 

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MY SURPRISE PROJECT for my Podcast Guests - with a MY SURPRISE PROJECT for my Podcast Guests - with a little help from THEIR kids.. 

I didn’t expect this to actually work…

⸻

For the past few weeks, I’ve been working quietly on something really special — a surprise for every guest who’s ever been part of @sassandsmalltalkpodcast… from my Zoom OGs - circa 2022, to my TELUS @storyhive ⁠seasons on the tube 📺, to my crew/village/emotional support squad.

What started as a gift — a piece of music from my out-of-the-box-thinker & editor @jakerfilms, turned into something SO. MUCH. MORE. MEANINGFUL.

With the help of my incredible creative village at @haus.of.owl @remy.is.remy, led by the big beautiful brain 🧠 of Eric Hinch @eric.thebald, my Director 👏🏼🎬 Hinchalot Films (www.filmnow.ca), and the talented Dan @dn.gib & @erinbradleyartist 💄, we brought it to life!

… but the part that gets me right in the gut??

THE SMALLIES…. THESE KIDS….

The very kids who made all of us parents in the first place — including mine, who aren’t normally THIS comfortable “performing” in front of a camera.

Kids who have felt burnout.
Kids who have felt misunderstood.
Neurodivergent kiddos that hold a special place in my ❤️.

Kids who showed up anyway — with courage, joy, and love — to help me create something meaningful for their parents.

And somewhere in all of this…

I found my way back to me.

Back to music.
Back to creativity.
Back to MY SASS.
‘cuz isn’t this what Sass & Small Talk is all about?

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This video is for my village.
For the parents.
For the kids.
For anyone who’s ever felt like they lost a part of themselves along the way.

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👉 The full video is now on YouTube at https://m.youtube.com/@sassandsmalls
(Link in bio)

** Watch and feel COMMUNITY IN ACTION. Gosh - I love you guys!

Ps… If this resonates - keep up with new episodes already streaming on TELUS STORYHIVE - by liking & Subscribing!

“Cuz it Takes a village to raise a child. 

And a community, to raise their parent”

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JENN. Meet my village… There are episodes… and th JENN. Meet my village…

There are episodes…
and then there are stories that change your life forever.

This one is both.

She’s not just my guest.
She’s the woman who offered a piece of herself… when our world was falling apart.

Because of her, we have our son.
Because of her, our family feels whole. 

And watching this back—seeing her complete her family too…
full circle doesn’t even begin to cover it.

I wasn’t planning to share this moment.
But this is what this season is about.

The real stories.
The unseen moments of a mama sitting in her living room after the kids are asleep. 
The love that carries families through the unimaginable.

If you’ve ever wondered what it really looks like behind the scenes of motherhood, loss, and rebuilding…

This episode is for you. 🤍

🎧 Episode 1 is out now. 

TELUS OptikTV StoryHive gave me the platform to share these meaningful stories. 

Because it takes a Village to Raise a child. And a community to raise their parent. 
#eggdonor #chosenfamily #infertility #ittakesavillage #mentalload
Meet My Village 🤍 IT’s LAUNCH DAY!!! Season 2 of Meet My Village 🤍

IT’s LAUNCH DAY!!!

Season 2 of Sass & Small Talk, filmed at @haus.of.owl studios, on @StoryHive, Sponsored by TELUS, IS HERE 

… and these are the faces behind the real, raw, and beautiful stories of the mental load of parenting.

From Victoria, and beyond, each guest shares how they carry it all… and keep showing up.

Featuring a very special first episode close to my heart… and a full-circle finale with a dear childhood friend now gracing the stages of NYC - you won’t want to miss.

🎬 Watch now on TELUS Optik TV (Channel 9 On Demand) + Stream+

Let’s support local stories, local voices, and the village that holds us all.

Because it takes a village to raise a child… and a community to raise their parent.

#SassAndSmallTalk #StoryHive #MeetMyVillage
Easter used to feel like pressure: The perfect m Easter used to feel like pressure: 

The perfect meal. 
The perfect table. 
The kids sitting through the meal and actually eating it. 
The food not burning.

And somehow… still ending the day exhausted, touched out, and a little resentful… 

This year, I let go. I had no choice… with the launch of the new season on the pod, I had to choose my battles…

My 7-year-old — my busy, high-energy, “maybe not spaghetti” kid — decided he was making “superrrrr spaghetti.”
His way. 
His ideas. 
His “special ingredients.”

Was it messy? Yep.
Was it chaotic? Absolutely.
Was it perfect? Not even close.

But something shifted.

He took ownership.
He created.
He plated dinner like a little chef with a vision (volcano spaghetti and all 🌋🍝).

And he was SO proud.
And me?
I rested. I watched. I let go of control — and the mental load that usually comes with it.

THIS is what I’m learning:
• The more we try to control everything, the heavier it gets for us… and the less space our kids have to rise.

• When we let them lead (in age-appropriate ways), they don’t just help… they LEAD.

More pride.
More participation.
More appreciation.
More connection.
Less perfection. 
More magic.
** BONUS: and less craving for screen time #winwin

This wasn’t the Easter dinner I would’ve planned…but it’s the one we’ll actually remember ❤️

Taking a page outta your book @anna_skates ❤️❤️
Parenting Hack: Meet your child’s 🧠 exactly where Parenting Hack: Meet your child’s 🧠 exactly where they’re at. Embrace the chaos, the messy experiments, the unrelenting curiosity. Let their 🧠 do its thing and step aside to see the magic.

Took me an entire lifetime to figure it out:
• Spent all of my childhood trying to “fit in”
• Struggled to mask but did it anyway 
• Met a boy. Also a creative and professional masker.
• Took a “creative” path less travelled as young adult on a one way flight to LA
• Loved life. 
• Received negative feedback from well-intentioned naysayers and loved ones
• Felt shame for not hitting the markers 
• Became a mom. 
• Read ALLLL the parenting books. 
• Spent over a decade fighting against my  first born’s “artist” brain and finding ways to “fix” what was not even broken
• Hated conforming and made some pivots while wearing metaphorical headphones to block out opinions/outside noise
• Loved Life 
• Had my youngest little man - came out of womb loud, intentional, & unapologetic 
• Threw out all parenting books and accepted the beautiful neurodivergent 🧠s taking over our entire household
• Gave both kids creative freedoms and stepped aside (mostly not intentionally. they’re too fast and I’m too old) 
• Learned how to celebrate the curious, comical, and weirdly wired brains that is our family. 
• Let my kids teach ME to have courage, think differently, and not just take the road less travelled - but actually #owningit
• Jumped into creating my own #podcast headfirst and never looked back

“Don’t Think Straight”, by Jacob Insley, is definitely one of our go-tos I’ll be keeping on my bookshelf for years to come. 

@jakerfilms you killed it with all these nuggets and takeaways! We’re all fighting for a turn to read - look at you causing ruckus in our home!?! 🤣 PS - My little guy requests to be in your 2nd book. 🤣🤣

#bebold #getmysassback #create
Happy #LOVE Day Weekend…. It’s been a bitter swe Happy #LOVE Day Weekend…. 

It’s been a bitter sweet one this year. But we are working through Grief that will never go away. Especially on milestone days like this. 

Not only is it Dad Felix’s first Heavenly Birthday (Valentine’s Day), it’s also a day we lost our 6th pregnancy before we finally had our little guy. I truly believe Dad is as much present with our babies in heaven, as he is with his 4 Grandkids on earth. 

There’s healing in loving family. Thank you for your constant reminders of this Dad/Grandpa Felix. We miss you so much. 

#sandwichgeneration #caregiving #family #multigenerational
It’s giving dramatic dad/uncle vibes. When our f It’s giving dramatic dad/uncle vibes. 

When our first family friendly white 🥼 party turns into a full blown midlife crisis.🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

(And no… he is NOT okay)… 🤣🤣

#thisis50
#dadlife  #unclelife
#GenXLife
#ParentingMoments 
#TheyGrowUpFast 
#RealLifeParents
#riuwhiteparty
#mexico
#dinerenblanc
He turned 50. Shouting it from the rooftops was no He turned 50.
Shouting it from the rooftops was not an option, so naturally - we had it announced at 40,000 feet ✈️🎂

For context:
This man avoids attention like it’s turbulence.

This??
Actual NIGHTMARE. 😂🤣🤣

But after a rough year of loss, change, and having to step up in so many facets, he deserved a little LOUD love. 📣🎉🥳

Happy 50th to the man I’ve loved for more than half his life.
You chose me, chaos and all… so really, this one’s on you. 😉😉

Thanks @flairairlines for this unforgettable #birthday moment.

If you’ve got a second, send this sweet, shy 50-year-old young man some love… he’ll be back to low-key status in about 72 hours. ⏰💛

@gjavier5 💙💜

#ThisIs50
#50thBirthday 
#MarriageHumor 
#RealLifeMoments 
#PlaneAnnouncement 
#MilestoneBirthday 
#LoveInTheMiddle 
#LifeLately 
#ImperfectAndReal 
#FamilyLife 
#Grief
#caregiving
#GenX
#sandwichgeneration 
#ReelsThatMakeYouSmile
Holiday burnout hits moms and caregivers hard — an Holiday burnout hits moms and caregivers hard — and the guilt of not being able to do it all as planned can be heavy. 

This year, after months and months of overstimulation, busy-ness, grief, worries, transitions, and may many many sleepless nights, we chose quiet. Simple. Unplanned. And a lot of it had to do with my own exhaustion and not being able to do all the things - like I used to in the past.

And in letting go, my kids not only enjoyed the simplicity, pressure-free, they loved the spontaneity, the lack of rushing from one thing to another, keeping old traditions while creating new memories. 

They even offered to be a part of the planning and the doing. 

It never had to be perfect. 
It never had to just fall on my shoulders. 
And it never was about a tree surrounded with every item on their wishlist. 

They just wanted me to play with them, wrap gifts with them, eat with them, and let them do some of the caregiving as well. 

Maybe that was the magic after all.
For the last 3 Christmas seasons, my girls and I s For the last 3 Christmas seasons, my girls and I switched things up.  We were finding we were already maxed out with our own households - the lists, the gifts, the prep, the mess. Omg… the mess.

It was time to take a break from@the stress, and to find joy through this busy season, while putting our “cute” on again. 

… and so, the birth of “Annual High Tea with the ladies” came to be: 

We ditched the gifts. 
Kept the girlfriends. 
Elevated the carbs.
… and the heels.

And yes - the tea just got a little sweeter.

Got a holiday ritual that fills your cup (literally or figuratively)?
Me: We’re getting too old for this. Also Me: 🎥📹🔦 Me: We’re getting too old for this. 

Also Me: 🎥📹🔦💡💄💋

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Check out our #Behindthescenes done in our living room. (Grateful for the space @ginandneature 🤣🤣)

👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
It’s been ✨14✨ YEARS of doing this as a family, I get asked every year how we pull this off. Esp with limited time, budget, and busy kids??

Easy: 
• Cue theme music (“Alexa, get us in #kpopdemonhunters mode”)
• Beat our faces down with a little @amoresarte_arteesamor  from our bestie Uncle @andrewvelazquez_ ‘s killer 💋 palette #onlythebest
• dust off my podcast studio lights, most likely incorrectly. (I am NO @remy.is.remy, @nikkye_music , @eric.thebald , @jakerfilms, @brianbobila, or @hoelune)
• clear my phone cuz it’s always full • throw on some DIY outfits we happen to have in our dress up trunk (OR Grammy’s closet!)
• grab last minute wigs (and in my case - clip on BANGS) that don’t exactly match the OG characters, but who cares… it’s our spin anyway…)
• George @gjavier5, our in-house Jinu, just got ready for the day as normal 😂😂😂😂😂😂
- Start bribing the kids AND George (but guess what - they LOVE our #familytradition too!! EVEN Jenny, my kiddo’s beloved (and often creepy doll who participates in most of our #FamilyHalloween themes. Gotta love Jenny!🪆

It’s 10000% chaotic, always a mess, but it’s how the Balinos do #Famoween (and Christmas… lazy greetings here we come), and we wouldn’t have it any other way. 

#BTS
The BALINO FAM is ready for our Comeback of 2025. The BALINO FAM is ready for our Comeback of 2025. 

Just call us the “B POP Fam-O-Ween Hunters” 🎤

Plot twist of 2025? Our demons to fight — grief and loss, overwhelm, caregiving challenges, new school, intolerance, advocacy, no sleep, basically… life-ing. 

But guess what?

We didn’t break — we TRANSFORMED. (As my kids would say - we SLAYED 2025). 

We stopped trying to fit into places that weren’t made for us. Just like these characters on #KpopDemonHunters

• We are choosing to show up for one another and our parents. Fully.
• We are choosing our battles 
• We no longer apologize for simply being us. In all our messy, chaotic #neurospicy, busy, loud, glittery, imperfect ways. 

And when we let our special big little girl be exactly who SHE is — not who the world told her to be — everything shifted. For HER and for our ENTIRE family. 

Peace came. Joy came. She shined.
Heck - she even spearheaded this year’s #famoween theme with the help of her “Baby” bro. It’s been 14 years of finding her place in the world and facing heartache and struggle along the way. We had a BREAKTHROUGH this year.

But it started with working on us as a family. 

So here we are.

Tired.
Ready.
Golden.

✨The B POPS✨
• George as “G-NEW” (Jinu) - the brooding lead of Saja Boys🔥charming and charismatic but struggling on the inside ✅

• My girl as MIRA” - tough and spicy but sensitive on the inside ✅

• My Baby boy as “Baby” who relies on his cuteness to get things done ✅ 👀

• Me as “Zoey”, just a big kid trying to figure out where she belongs. Always learning. ✅ ✅✅✅

(Also… yes. The 5th main character, Rumi (my daughter’s beloved doll who often makes a cameo in our fam-o-ween posts. Can you spot her our lead? 👀💜)

Watch out world. We may be getting old, but we’re ✨ #Golden. ✨

Pls leave a comment👇🏻and let my creative fam (so lucky to have you, @gjavier5 and my crazy kiddos) know whatcha think of our theme this year!
👻👻👻🎃🎃🎃🎃 Rainy day at @galey_farms with the fam an 👻👻👻🎃🎃🎃🎃

Rainy day at @galey_farms with the fam and it was exactly what we needed. So much fun, and great for a good scare cuz I’m just a big 🐓. 

And those donuts…. #nextlevel. As was that #cornmaze🌽 

Thanks @ingirlsclub for organizing a core memory for my girl and all the girls and their/our families! It’s hard to organize things with my little family while #caregiving, and often we have to decline, but we are so glad this worked out. This group activity made it so much more feasible for us. #sandwichgen #sandwichgenlife #elderlycare

#Halloween #fall #family #YYJ #pumpkins #pumpkinpatch #trainride #familyfun
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